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And tell my parents that I’m gonna go for bowling and dinner with my friends tomorrow.

That sounds very normal but my parents are extremely narcissistic and controlling so they don’t let me do shit, it’s been really fucking up my university experience as I’m not even held back by looks given I’m a 6’4 MTN.

They video call me everyday at 11pm to check if I’m at home or not, and yes they ask to see my room to ensure I’m in there and all alone. It’s next level shit and honestly it’s really depressing for me as I can’t participate much with my friends and have to decline them when they ask me to go to parties and shit.

I have had enough, I will call them in the next 15 minutes and tell them about my plans tommorow and they’ll just have to deal with it.

Btw my grades are pretty good, so it’s not like I’m a total dumbass hence they want me to stay at home and study, I consistently had a 4.0 throughout high school and I have a 4.0 right now in university and was on the deans list consistently every semester. They’re just very anti partying and think I’m going to become some drug addict if they let me go to a club. They’re also hyper religious. I hate it, but I will change it. I must also get a job for financial independence.
 
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Yeaa I've delt with ur issue the chances are low
 
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Good luck bro
 
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Good luck bro
Yeaa I've delt with ur issue the chances are low
They must have had a good fucking day because holy shit they accepted, they even agreed to me not having to call tmr holy shit

Was my misery self imposed this whole time? Did I really degrade my parents when perhaps they were on my side? Or is it because I’m almost 20 now so theyre more lineant, I’m gonna get drunk asf tmr
 
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They must have had a good fucking day because holy shit they accepted, they even agreed to me not having to call tmr holy shit

Was my misery self imposed this whole time? Did I really degrade my parents when perhaps they were on my side? Or is it because I’m almost 20 now so theyre more lineant, I’m gonna get drunk asf tmr
Nice bro
 
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They must have had a good fucking day because holy shit they accepted, they even agreed to me not having to call tmr holy shit

Was my misery self imposed this whole time? Did I really degrade my parents when perhaps they were on my side? Or is it because I’m almost 20 now so theyre more lineant, I’m gonna get drunk asf tmr
Mirin atleast you have friends :feelsbadman:
 
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Cope. Maning up means realizing that Jesus is the only Truth and that we need to repent and accept him as our Lord and Savior
 
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And tell my parents that I’m gonna go for bowling and dinner with my friends tomorrow.

That sounds very normal but my parents are extremely narcissistic and controlling so they don’t let me do shit, it’s been really fucking up my university experience as I’m not even held back by looks given I’m a 6’4 MTN.

They video call me everyday at 11pm to check if I’m at home or not, and yes they ask to see my room to ensure I’m in there and all alone. It’s next level shit and honestly it’s really depressing for me as I can’t participate much with my friends and have to decline them when they ask me to go to parties and shit.

I have had enough, I will call them in the next 15 minutes and tell them about my plans tommorow and they’ll just have to deal with it.

Btw my grades are pretty good, so it’s not like I’m a total dumbass hence they want me to stay at home and study, I consistently had a 4.0 throughout high school and I have a 4.0 right now in university and was on the deans list consistently every semester. They’re just very anti partying and think I’m going to become some drug addict if they let me go to a club. They’re also hyper religious. I hate it, but I will change it. I must also get a job for financial independence.
I've been in this situation, check my new thread
 
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Mirin atleast you have friends :feelsbadman:
I’m just really extroverted and make conversation with everyone, even today at the bookstore I randomly started talking to two guys, you can certainly make friends bro, I’m your friend :feelswhat: or can be lol since we live in the same city and probably live like 10 minutes away from each other
 
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They must have had a good fucking day because holy shit they accepted, they even agreed to me not having to call tmr holy shit

Was my misery self imposed this whole time? Did I really degrade my parents when perhaps they were on my side? Or is it because I’m almost 20 now so theyre more lineant, I’m gonna get drunk asf tmr
mirin bhai have fun
 
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I’m just really extroverted and make conversation with everyone, even today at the bookstore I randomly started talking to two guys, you can certainly make friends bro, I’m your friend :feelswhat: or can be lol since we live in the same city and probably live like 10 minutes away from each other
i gotta start ntmaxxing and make connections i just feel so much fear even going outside and talking to people i am used to rotting inside my room now because thats what my parents made me my entire life
 
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i gotta start ntmaxxing and make connections i just feel so much fear even going outside and talking to people i am used to rotting inside my room now because thats what my parents made me my entire life
yeah man I felt the same way before, but it kinda went away because I usaully get approached a lot too, I think that gave me the confidence to approach myself. Familypill is brutal though, specially for south asians like us
 
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yeah man I felt the same way before, but it kinda went away because I usaully get approached a lot too, I think that gave me the confidence to approach myself. Familypill is brutal though, specially for south asians like us
true i mostly sit alone in class but kids always approach me and start conversations with me i might start hanging out with those dudes after i get permission from my parents
 
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true i mostly sit alone in class but kids always approach me and start conversations with me i might start hanging out with those dudes after i get permission from my parents
Good luck man
 
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Thought this was gonna be a s*uicide post
 
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i feel really sorry for u bhaijan

i thought i had strict parents (i do, u just have it worse)
 
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Yes they’re Hindus, super religious and deep into it.
are you?

where exactly do their traditional values come from because as far as i know hinduism at its core doesn't really promote a conservative lifestyle, hinduism doesnt have much of a "god's law", my theory is just they super strict cuz indian background
 
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are you?

where exactly do their traditional values come from because as far as i know hinduism at its core doesn't really promote a conservative lifestyle, hinduism doesnt have much of a "god's law", my theory is just they super strict cuz indian background
Yeah fair enough, they watch random Indian babas on YouTube who promote the typical stuff like no partying, no going out, staying at home and praying, no meat or eggs, etc

I’m not even gonna get drunk or anything tmr, but I still wanna be able to hang out with my friends
 
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Yeah fair enough, they watch random Indian babas on YouTube who promote the typical stuff like no partying, no going out, staying at home and praying, no meat or eggs, etc

I’m not even gonna get drunk or anything tmr, but I still wanna be able to hang out with my friends
yeah i feel you

just remember their whole strict attitude is from their culture mixed with the natural response parents have to their kids

its okay for your mom to worry about you, but at some point you gotta go out there in the world and do what you have to do

as you said, you gotta man up because ur an adult now

but you just have a talk with them in a respectful manner, i think it'd be ur best bet
no meat or eggs, etc
also this is giga bluepilled advice lol. i just know this is from hindu values. one of the reasons i've kept my faith as a muslim is because islam is so blackpilled, and openly talks about it in literature
 
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yeah i feel you

just remember their whole strict attitude is from their culture mixed with the natural response parents have to their kids

its okay for your mom to worry about you, but at some point you gotta go out there in the world and do what you have to do

as you said, you gotta man up because ur an adult now

but you just have a talk with them in a respectful manner, i think it'd be ur best bet

also this is giga bluepilled advice lol. i just know this is from hindu values. one of the reasons i've kept my faith as a muslim is because islam is so blackpilled, and openly talks about it in literature
Yeah, interestingly enough my mom is more chill, it’s mainly my dad that worries a lot about me and still thinks of me as a child despite me doing everything I can to show I can be self sufficient and am transitioning to being a full grown man.

My dad also had a lot of freedom growing up and I think in a way he feels as if he wasted his youth so he’s doing what he thinks is best by preventing me from making the same mistakes. Yk how South Asian parents value education a lot, my grandfather was an engineer and my dad never went to college because he didn’t give a fuck about school and I think he regrets that deeply so he wants me to focus entirely on school.

Indian parents also think that people that excel in school study all day long, I have a 4.0 GPA rn but I don’t even study much.
 
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Yeah, interestingly enough my mom is more chill, it’s mainly my dad that worries a lot about me and still thinks of me as a child despite me doing everything I can to show I can be self sufficient and am transitioning to being a full grown man.

My dad also had a lot of freedom growing up and I think in a way he feels as if he wasted his youth so he’s doing what he thinks is best by preventing me from making the same mistakes. Yk how South Asian parents value education a lot, my grandfather was an engineer and my dad never went to college because he didn’t give a fuck about school and I think he regrets that deeply so he wants me to focus entirely on school.

Indian parents also think that people that excel in school study all day long, I have a 4.0 GPA rn but I don’t even study much.
yeah man, i relate to this a bit

only difference is i was a retard in school and failed like 2 or 3 courses and graduated with a 50

my parents dont think highly of me at all, im probably the loser of my family which is why i just cope by being in my room all day
 
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yeah man, i relate to this a bit

only difference is i was a retard in school and failed like 2 or 3 courses and graduated with a 50

my parents dont think highly of me at all, im probably the loser of my family which is why i just cope by being in my room all day
Based on the interactions I have had with you bro, you seem like a smart guy man with a good future ahead of you. I wish you the best bro and I hope your family can see your potential one day and give you the respect you deserve
 
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Based on the interactions I have had with you bro, you seem like a smart guy man with a good future ahead of you. I wish you the best bro and I hope your family can see your potential one day and give you the respect you deserve
thanks man, i wish you the best too.
 
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