I’m too passive in my own life

[Pikabro]

I dealt with my stress by rotting the whole semester not interacting with anyone and that’s it now. I am just too passive. I never do anything or take initiative in my life.

This is what I mean when I say 20 is oldcel. Ofc I’m still relatively young but you got to start doing things young. Socialising should be started as soon as you hit like sentience at 6-8, talking to girls should be done while you’re fairly young etc. Same with learning vital skills and building useful skills etc. Otherwise time will keep passing and you’ll end up a grown adult who can’t do anything. Wasted time tbh.

It’s just not good to wind up 18-20 and unable to do anything. I rotted my childhood/teens so that’s all I really know. A weekend to me == sitting in my room. Socialising with real people is not something I ever do let alone talking to girls. And I run the risk of daydreaming my way to perma hikikomori status or homelessness going forwards.

 

[BitchBoy]

Dnr

 

[Melkor]

There's hopefuel and ropefuel in here

I'm a few years older than you and was in your exact situation. This post was written by me damn near word for word on another forum a few years ago. I aggressively NTmaxxed and masked and frauded and did everything I could. I went to every party and talked to everyone I could and inundated myself with exposure therapy.

End of the day. The damage was done in early childhood. Keeping that NT shit up was a balancing act and after a death in my family. I couldn't do it anymore. Back to rotting. It's who I am. There is no other way

 

[ElTruecel]

Brootal

 

[Vermilioncore]

I just jerk off and cum and throw my hands up and shrug it is what it is

 

[datboijj]

nothing left for me to do other than passivly looksmax and IQ max while paying my bills

 

[spongebob]

You have 5 years left to work at your personality. Once you're 25 your personality is set. Here's what I would do,:
1. Moneymax like 70 hours a week (1 day rest is needed)
2. Get fit. Gym, combat sports or cardio
3. Do skin and haircare.
4 Diet
Repeat
5 Start doing as much social things as possible. I went on vacation and basically approached every person I saw. I started doing volunteer work etc. Be social 247 or Start doing sales or a social job.
6 now you're set to be a normal human being. After 25 you can focus more on career.

 

[murdah]

Join a gang or something

 

[Luffymaxxing]

I just jerk off and cum and throw my hands up and shrug it is what it is

You're 28

 

[Vermilioncore]

You're 28

Na I’m 16

 

[Luffymaxxing]

It's too brutal man, I'm not gonna give you the reddit advice, just hang on I guess

 

[Luffymaxxing]

Na I’m 16

16 12 years ago maybe

 

[Vermilioncore]

16 12 years ago maybe

STAHP >.< I’m sooooo young leave me alone lmaooooo pweasee

 

[Luffymaxxing]

STAHP >.< I’m sooooo young leave me alone lmaooooo pweasee

Joined Oct 17, 2019

 

[begoodlookingtheory]

It's over

 

[Hardrada]

Are you ugly

 

[Pikabro]

Are you ugly

yep

 

[autistic_tendencies]

At the end of day you won’t change if there’s nobody forcing you to
Get comfortable with doing uncomfortable things

 

[Deleted member 4301]

There's hopefuel and ropefuel in here

I'm a few years older than you and was in your exact situation. This post was written by me damn near word for word on another forum a few years ago. I aggressively NTmaxxed and masked and frauded and did everything I could. I went to every party and talked to everyone I could and inundated myself with exposure therapy.

End of the day. The damage was done in early childhood. Keeping that NT shit up was a balancing act and after a death in my family. I couldn't do it anymore. Back to rotting. It's who I am. There is no other way

The damage was done at conception.

 

[Juno_roe]

at the exact same situation here. mom constantly yells at me for the most trivial things you can think of and sometimes even nothing. I'm such an autistic faggot that i end up crying sometimes but never say a word back. i just go to my room and wait til she calms down so i can hug her and apologize for something i did that i don't even think was wrong. i guess our only choice is to start confronting our fears but i always remind myself of that and when showtime finally comes i tell myself "next time she does me wrong imma snap" and then when next time arrives i tell myself "next time she does me wrong imma snap". that's the only cure tho unfortunately nobody cares enough about our case to come up with a solution.

 

[dopaminebeyondfried]

I'm a few years older than you. You better start now or you'll end up brain rotted social inept loser beyond saving

 

[Pikabro]

at the exact same situation here. mom constantly yells at me for the most trivial things you can think of and sometimes even nothing. I'm such an autistic faggot that i end up crying sometimes but never say a word back. i just go to my room and wait til she calms down so i can hug her and apologize for something i did that i don't even think was wrong. i guess our only choice is to start confronting our fears but i always remind myself of that and when showtime finally comes i tell myself "next time she does me wrong imma snap" and then when next time arrives i tell myself "next time she does me wrong imma snap". that's the only cure tho unfortunately nobody cares enough about our case to come up with a solution.

Just avoid her. Squat in a library and come home late. Or set up a bunch of activities for the afternoon and come home late.

 

[Juno_roe]

Just avoid her. Squat in a library and come home late. Or set up a bunch of activities for the afternoon and come home late.

tbh only place i can go is school and I'm broke so i need to go back to eat but I'll be avoiding her as much as i can
+ i feel like only functional method to get confidence is to get a gun and show it off to whoever messes with you

 

[Pikabro]

tbh only place i can go is school and I'm broke so i need to go back to eat but I'll be avoiding her as much as i can
+ i feel like only functional method to get confidence is to get a gun and show it off to whoever messes with you

Sell cakes/homemade snacks or get a part time job. Even mow lawns for cash