Is being a sensitive guy a failo?

Is being sensitive a failo?


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Just wondering. I'm an INFP and definitely more sensitive than the average male. It shows out big time when I'm in love with a girl, have tender, sweet sex where I pet her, call her appreciative names, gave her post-sex cuddles and pillow talk (she didn't like this sort of sex) and when I got my heart broken by the same girl.

I tend to make decisions strongly based on what I feel is right or wrong from my own moral system, especially when it concerns others.

When I read a book or watch a film, I tend to put myself in a character's shoes often.

I immerse myself in my own emotions if I do my own creative stuff, or see something that's eye-pleasing. (I do get a little pissed off when I see chads and stacies though jfl)

That doesn't mean I'm a pushover; I'm pretty athletic, am considering joining a boxing class and definitely not afraid to get into a fight with another man (not an old person, woman or child) if I feel my safety (or the ones closest to me) is threatened. I'm not afraid to cuss out someone who insults me, my family, my friends or if I had one, my girlfriend or wife.

What do you think?
 
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Not for chad
 
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There's nothing wrong with being who you are, but don't coddle girls or get too attached to them. I'm sure you know why as a member on this forum.
 
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Could be an asset given you are good-looking. Just don't let it become a weakness for you or let others take advantage of your sensitivity.
 
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nigga you gon make me cry and yes, yes it does
 
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No, men are supposed to be stoic. Women are not attracted to anything that indicates weakness. Ofc Chad can get away with it much better than a normie, but at the end of the day, it’s a turnoff
 
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"Dreamer" women are usually attractive. Such behavior is considered cute and heartwarming, but when the same personality traits are applied to a male, he will likely be perceived as childish/feminine/weak. Being overly affectionate as a male is largely perceived as pathetic, but I know more than a few women who like it- but they are the minority and will treat you in a motherly manner rather than that of a typical adult partner, not really respecting you.
It's just something that isn't perceived as masculine. You don't have to eliminate your feelings, you just have to hide them, OP.
 
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There's nothing wrong with being who you are, but don't coddle girls or get too attached to them. I'm sure you know why as a member on this forum.
I know, I'm replaceable in their eyes. I want to satisfy them and do everything I can for them but I feel that effort would be thrown back in my face.
I used to read plenty of novels when I was a boy (and still do now), I wonder if that made me the guy I am today?
 
Could be an asset given you are good-looking. Just don't let it become a weakness for you or let others take advantage of your sensitivity.
Thanks, I wonder why that would be an asset?
My friends never take advantage of me but I feel some suitors might.
 
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No, men are supposed to be stoic. Women are not attracted to anything that indicates weakness. Ofc Chad can get away with it much better than a normie, but at the end of the day, it’s a turnoff
I mean, I do appear stoic from the outside? I only show my emotions to someone I'm extremely close to, but I mostly process them internally. So I don't tend to show plenty of facial expressions or outwardly express them often, for example.
 
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"Dreamer" women are usually attractive. Such behavior is considered cute and heartwarming, but when the same personality traits are applied to a male, he will likely be perceived as childish/feminine/weak. Being overly affectionate as a male is largely perceived as pathetic, but I know more than a few women who like it- but they are the minority and will treat you in a motherly manner rather than that of a typical adult partner, not really respecting you.
It's just something that isn't perceived as masculine. You don't have to eliminate your feelings, you just have to hide them, OP.
See below:
I mean, I do appear stoic from the outside? I only show my emotions to someone I'm extremely close to, but I mostly process them internally. So I don't tend to show plenty of facial expressions or outwardly express them often, for example.
Also I do have a prettyboy pheno according to some users on here, so I guess I'm more at risk of being seen as weak (despite being a mesomorph with a wide frame).
 
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Thanks, I wonder why that would be an asset?
My friends never take advantage of me but I feel some suitors might.

I think you could find an HQ woman who would appreciate the genuine concern you will have for her.

Being considerate is an asset for facilitating negotiation, making friends and just generally acting prosocially with others.

Yes, you do need to watch out for foids that might try to use your sensitivity for self-serving purposes. This is where being strong and not letting yourself be a cuck/pushover is important.
 
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I think you could find an HQ woman who appreciate the genuine concern you will have for her.

Being considerate is an asset for facilitating negotiation, making friends and just generally acting prosocially with others.

Yes, you do need to watch out for foids that might try to use your sensitivity for self-serving purposes. This is where being strong and not letting yourself be a cuck/pushover is important.
For me, I feel it's a duty to satisfy a woman and treat her like she deserves to be treated. She earned her place of being my girlfriend. Why would I want to treat her as someone who's disposable?

I'm not that much of a pushover though. I tend to be incredibly self-defensive and wouldn't back down if someone threatens me, or insults me.
 
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For me, I feel it's a duty to satisfy a woman and treat her like she deserves to be treated. She earned her place of being my girlfriend. Why would I want to treat her as someone who's disposable?
She needs to know that you have boundaries
 
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I know, I'm replaceable in their eyes. I want to satisfy them and do everything I can for them but I feel that effort would be thrown back in my face.
I used to read plenty of novels when I was a boy (and still do now), I wonder if that made me the guy I am today?
OP, do you often daydream about meeting someone like yourself, or someone similarly as affectionate?
 
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Who doesn't?
It just seems like your partners could think you're too attached to them. So they'll start being too comfortable and slack a lot when it comes to you. Won't treat you with respect, will take your kindness for granted etc. You need to get them to reciprocrate, to let them know you're not a pushover
 
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It’s a failio in dating but major hall when it comes to making friends and going up a social hierarchy, I’m similar to you but I hide my feelings a lot.

What you have to do is learn to optimise your game. I tease and flirt with girls, but my “sweet side” i show it sometimes. You basically need to play hot and cold with these girls and not feel bad about it.

I recommend reading the genealogy of morality by Nietzsche, it’s deffo made me less sensitive and has made me a lot more stoic now that I understand why I feel that way about things
 
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You are a good guy @Xangsane
 
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Being unphased/calm is masculine.
 
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not when you're secretly sensitive
 
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