Is it a sign of mental weakness that the only thing keeping me going is my long term partner?

[Deleted member 21345]

As much as a I read all the self help neitzche and kierkegard and claim to believe in the strength of the human will and everything

In the weakest moments. Really the one thing keeping me from ER/rope/giving up is one person who I'm attracted to that's my best friend that's never given up on me even at my worst

He says I should use myself as motivation but at the end of the day if I cared that much about myself as an individual I wouldn't posting here to begin

Is this just weakness that I can't be self motivated? I don't think any strong person has lived for anything but themselves

@PseudoMaxxer @afrolet @kebab @Gay_Blackpiller @aesthetic beauty

 

[PseudoMaxxer]

Living for others helps a lot.

For example what really stopped me through my teenage years from suicide was the emotional trauma i would give to my relatives.

Now everytime i have an ascension plan or a plan to become better, i always have a girl in my mind.

I like to imagine myself walking around the beach with my friends without a shirt and with sunglasses holding my fringe up so she can see my eyes, im lean and tanned and have god coloring.

She sees me with her friends and she watches me in disbelief while her friends tell her “who’s that hot guy?”

That’s more or less the mental image i have of when i will ascend, i have other but im not gonna bore you with them.

But in the end of it all, yes it’s good that your motivation is your LTP, but that will make you live like I do in case he leaves you: you’ll be looking for someone to get attached to everytime because you will need it to go forward in life. And that’s not the best if you ask me.

Find a way to get motivated either by a family member or by yourself (even tho idk how can somebody be motivated by theirselves jfl)

 

[Sprinkles]

idk a lot of parents go on because of their kids like,

People need things/copes to live for.

 

[Deleted member 21345]

Living for others helps a lot.

For example what really stopped me through my teenage years from suicide was the emotional trauma i would give to my relatives.

Now everytime i have an ascension plan or a plan to become better, i always have a girl in my mind.

I like to imagine myself walking around the beach with my friends without a shirt and with sunglasses holding my fringe up so she can see my eyes, im lean and tanned and have god coloring.

She sees me with her friends and she watches me in disbelief while her friends tell her “who’s that hot guy?”

That’s more or less the mental image i have of when i will ascend, i have other but im not gonna bore you with them.

But in the end of it all, yes it’s good that your motivation is your LTP, but that will make you live like I do in case he leaves you: you’ll be looking for someone to get attached to everytime because you will need it to go forward in life. And that’s not the best if you ask me.

Find a way to get motivated either by a family member or by yourself (even tho idk how can somebody be motivated by theirselves jfl)

As much as I love my family. I feel they just have to care so it's different. It's bigger to me when someone basically treats you like family.

Although it's good to looksmax for your future wife and whatnot. For me it's quite something I had someone even and my most looksminned

I've read all the books and articles about the dangers of codependency. But ultimately I feel it's better than nothing

 

[shabby890]

It's not weak to live for someone you love

 

[PseudoMaxxer]

As much as I love my family. I feel they just have to care so it's different. It's bigger to me when someone basically treats you like family.

Although it's good to looksmax for your future wife and whatnot. For me it's quite something I had someone even and my most looksminned

I've read all the books and articles about the dangers of codependency. But ultimately I feel it's better than nothing

100%, i am really happier when i have a crush or im in love with someone.

Obviously there always a down side to things, and in that case it’s that you can get rejected and suffer a lot. But it’s worth it imo

 

[Deleted member 21345]

100%, i am really happier when i have a crush or im in love with someone.

Obviously there always a down side to things, and in that case it’s that you can get rejected and suffer a lot. But it’s worth it imo

The alternative people usually give you is that chase your dreams, hustle and live for success talk

All that stuff just seems like a cope to me. Maybe it's me projecting but I can't help but see people like bezos and musk as just coping incels. I have more respect for two crackhead who love each other

 

[PseudoMaxxer]

The alternative people usually give you is that chase your dreams, hustle and live for success talk

All that stuff just seems like a cope to me. Maybe it's me projecting but I can't help but see people like bezos and musk as just coping incels. I have more respect for two crackhead who love each other

The thing is it’s cope to give success talk because it’s all larp.

If i became rich i would do it only to laugh at normies trying to replicate me, but yeah true love is the real life mog

 

[Deleted member 21345]

@Xangsane do you have motivation besides your fiance?

 

[Xangsane]

@Xangsane do you have motivation besides your fiance?

yes, my family and professional things and wanting to move up in life.

 

[aesthetic beauty]

As much as a I read all the self help neitzche and kierkegard and claim to believe in the strength of the human will and everything

In the weakest moments. Really the one thing keeping me from ER/rope/giving up is one person who I'm attracted to that's my best friend that's never given up on me even at my worst

He says I should use myself as motivation but at the end of the day if I cared that much about myself as an individual I wouldn't posting here to begin

Is this just weakness that I can't be self motivated? I don't think any strong person has lived for anything but themselves

@PseudoMaxxer @afrolet @kebab @Gay_Blackpiller @aesthetic beauty

Do you have a cohesive identity? Do you know who you are? Have you dealt with past trauma?

 

[Deleted member 21345]

Do you have a cohesive identity? Do you know who you are? Have you dealt with past trauma?

I think I dealt with trauma best I can but empahtic no to the other 2

 

[Deleted member 55314]

As much as a I read all the self help neitzche and kierkegard and claim to believe in the strength of the human will and everything

In the weakest moments. Really the one thing keeping me from ER/rope/giving up is one person who I'm attracted to that's my best friend that's never given up on me even at my worst

He says I should use myself as motivation but at the end of the day if I cared that much about myself as an individual I wouldn't posting here to begin

Is this just weakness that I can't be self motivated? I don't think any strong person has lived for anything but themselves

@PseudoMaxxer @afrolet @kebab @Gay_Blackpiller @aesthetic beauty

Its like a crutch
But its not by any means bad or sign of weakness
But if you base your will to live on a single person you will probably be depressed af if you lose them
If you can bounce back from that eventually then no you are not weak