It might not be worth it at all to participate in social hierarchies and the constant concern about where you stand in it

[CupOfCoffee]

Depending on the type of person I think a lot of people are better off disregarding it and not worrying about your position in relation to others. If you do well with social dynamics and can find a solid way to make it work, then it's still important. If you're too disagreeable though, and/or introverted and/or too neurotic then that shit is better left for people who have the energy and natural ability to thrive in that way. Most of us autists on the other hand are not socially capable enough to successfully create the networking skills and have connections to "important" people throughout your life. Your personality will come and bring you back to your true self eventually. Most people like that are better off framing their lives and goals as targets that concern them only, and not tyeing their success and happiness with others' opinions of them or how they fare in the social hierarchy around them, it's simply the wrong way for them to think tbh

 

[RedLight]

But not being a Chad is unignorable.

 

[CupOfCoffee]

But not being a Chad is unignorable.

Always aim for Chad. That way you'll at least stop being a subhuman scum

 

[RedLight]

Always aim for Chad. That way you'll at least stop being a subhuman scum

Idk man, it's pretty much over for me. But whatever cope floats your boat I guess.

 

[Back Alley Boy]

Depending on the type of person I think a lot of people are better off disregarding it and not worrying about your position in relation to others. If you do well with social dynamics and can find a solid way to make it work, then it's still important. If you're too disagreeable though, and/or introverted and/or too neurotic then that shit is better left for people who have the energy and natural ability to thrive in that way. Most of us autists on the other hand are not socially capable enough to successfully create the networking skills and have connections to "important" people throughout your life. Your personality will come and bring you back to your true self eventually. Most people like that are better off framing their lives and goals as targets that concern them only, and not tyeing their success and happiness with others' opinions of them or how they fare in the social hierarchy around them, it's simply the wrong way for them to think tbh

the people who worry the most are the people who dont actually care about others as gross as other people are caring about them is rewarding, ironically those who care the least are the ones who will always find themselves at the bottom, stay away from “competitive” places and people, they’re just gassing themselves up with hate in order to get really frustrated and just coom ™

 

[MostGLSlayer]

I tried to read bro I really did... but my adhd...tldr?

 

[( ( ( d[-_-]b ) ) )]

American Circus in a concrete jungle. Johnce. @nelson

 

[CupOfCoffee]

I tried to read bro I really did... but my adhd...tldr?

You need ritalin.
@Ritalincel sell this guy some we all know your selling that shit

 

[MostGLSlayer]

You need ritalin.
@Ritalincel sell this guy some we all know your selling that shit

jfl I reread it slower, I got it now. \\ For me, I can adapt quite well in social settings and can chill with alot of different people, but I'm more introverted than extroverted so can I see your point. And as I got older I care less about people's opinions and can let things go but social hierarchies will always be there ofc

 

[Deleted member 2527]

Social circles are overrated.

I have been part of many of them in my life, and they always devolve into backstabbing, jealousy and gossiping without exception.

Find a handful of isolated close friends that you actually like and trust, and keep in contact every now and then.

But otherwise, most of your time should be spent alone and focusing on your own goals in life.

 

[Deleted member 6573]

I tried to read bro I really did... but my adhd...tldr?

who is that foid in your dp

 

[fukmylyf]

Social circles are overrated.

I have been part of many of them in my life, and they always devolve into backstabbing, jealousy and gossiping without exception.

Find a handful of isolated close friends that you actually like and trust, and keep in contact every now and then.

But otherwise, most of your time should be spent alone and focusing on your own goals in life.

is this a copypasta

 

[MostGLSlayer]

who is that foid in your dp

She some instagram model I found that looks like the stacy version of my ex ,forgot her name though

 

[turbocuckcel_7000000]

very hard to find success without some networking, autists that work hard in isolation tend to get destroyed and never finish their projects, or have no one to share the success with if by chance they manage to accomplish something

 

[Gonthar]

It's very important to be at the top, which level are you?

 

[Deleted member 2527]

is this a copypasta

Nope wrote it myself

 

[CupOfCoffee]

Social circles are overrated.

I have been part of many of them in my life, and they always devolve into backstabbing, jealousy and gossiping without exception.

Find a handful of isolated close friends that you actually like and trust, and keep in contact every now and then.

But otherwise, most of your time should be spent alone and focusing on your own goals in life.

YESS

 

[turbocuckcel_7000000]

whenever this comes up i think about this little nerd konjak who worked on an indie game (iconoclasts) for like 8 years by himself.

it was hard as hell, and when he was finally done he got some money and decent review scores but no one gave much of a fuck, and he was so tired and depressed he interred himself in a mental hospital for a couple days since he was suicidal.
he also stopped working on stuff completely.
he only got out of this rut when one of his friends from the industry set him up with some 30 y/o woman about a year later, which was only possible because he posted soy stuff on social media everyday to have some kind of online presence, and interacted with people somewhat.
after that he was like a new man and claimed his mental health was better than ever jfl.

there's a lot of cases like this in the nerd developer community, and it's so much worse when they don't even get the old roastie at the end to cope with, they often become totally unproductive and just sit around all day talking about their 'mental health journey'.

 

[fukmylyf]

Nope wrote it myself

lier u copied this guy:

https://looksmax.org/threads/social...verrated-and-unnecessary.276402/#post-4706807

 

[Deleted member 2527]

lier u copied this guy:

https://looksmax.org/threads/social...verrated-and-unnecessary.276402/#post-4706807

That’s me lol

 

[Deleted member 6380]

jfl I reread it slower, I got it now. \\ For me, I can adapt quite well in social settings and can chill with alot of different people, but I'm more introverted than extroverted so can I see your point. And as I got older I care less about people's opinions and can let things go but social hierarchies will always be there ofc

Im the same as this guy, and i would've done ok if i had a normal hairline, but it always ends up being noticed and often results in disrespect from peers.

 

[coping ethnic]

If you're too disagreeable though, and/or introverted and/or too neurotic then that shit is better left for people who have the energy and natural ability to thrive in that way. M

That exactly what I thought and did after puberty tho i regret it now
being social sounded like a lot of effort which it is but u need to put the effort somewhat or u lose ur motivation to achieve things in life cus u have no one to appreciate that