ChioMaxiMix2025
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if I can make even one person feel better it will be worth it. I am a 5’9 man in northern Italy where the average hight is more or less the same as in the US (maybe 1 inch lower) and when I was a teenager I developed 2 years later, so for most of high school I was 5’5-5’6 and one of the shortest guys in my class. Also, my father is 6’1 and the boyfriend of my sister 6’4. So, I really understand how it feels to be short. I know that it feels like everybody is judging you only based on this parameter, girls don’t look at you and you constantly need to prove yourself. Even after high school I was really shy with girls and blamed all my problems on my hight. You start to think shit like god hates you or that you deserve to be miserable because you were born this way. You close in yourself and do not talk to others about it because you do not want to be judged and because you think it would not change anything anyway. It got so bad I avoided going to crowded places because I hated seeing couples where the guy was tall, and I could just lay in bad all day telling myself I was worthless. But with time I have realized that if your hight prevents you from approaching girls and it makes you feel this way, your hight is only your second biggest problem. Your hight complex is your first problem and you should work on resolving that.I have many examples from my personal life on why if you think like this guy your attitude is the problem. First, one of my best friends that is as tall as me, is quite good looking, has style and is quite charismatic has always had 7/10-8/10 gfs and he has switched a lot of them. Another friend of mine who is 5’7 has had a stable cute girlfriend for years. Another one I know (5’7) has gone out with one of the most good looking girls of my city and now has another cute girlfriend. When I was in France in Erasmus a roommate of mine was a 5’7 Mexican guy always hanging out with girls and scoring some of them (also a great guy in general).One of my best friends in high school was a literal 9/10. Good looking 6’3 guy with light blue eyes and very fit. But he felt very insecure because he had sweaty hands and he had first girlfriend when he was 20. She was a real bitch and she scarred him making him feel even more insecure. What I am trying to say is that hight is only one of your characteristics. You can improve in character, charisma, style, outgoingness, hobbies, education, and other stuff and make up for it. I am not saying that girls will not notice your hight, I am saying that it is not the end of the world.Being short is only one of the things in your life that is not up to your decision and is not fair. Like having a disability, losing a family member, being born poor, or in a bad family or in a less developed country, having a short dick, getting bald, getting sick or a thousand more. You can’t just base your entire happiness on being perfect or you will never be happy and this has nothing to do with your hight. To the people that say girls on tinder wont date guys shorter than 6’ I tell: think about you being short like being born black in a country where 20-30% of girls are racist. You know that some girls will look at you and not even give you a possibility, but you also know that some girls look through that and some don’t even care. It is full of interracial couples around. Also, don’t be shocked by how entitled some girls are about hight. If you search on google you will probably find black girls crazy enough to state that they would not date black guys. And at the end they are also hurting themselves too, going behind 7’ feet, good looking guys that can choose between 10 other girls and that will likely treat them like crap.Also, life is not how many girls you fuck, you can have a thousand different hobbies and be happier than guys that fuck bitches only to prove their worth. You only need one girl in your life to be happy and some guys are perfectly fine with only friends and hobbies. After accepting this I asked my friends to help me find a girl and in just a couple of months I found one. It is not that hard if you push yourself outside the comfort zone and you stop obsessing about your defects. Every girl deserves a confident man. One of my exs even told me that in her opinion I was tall (she was from the south where guys are a little bit shorter on average).Also, later in life looks count less and less and your job and position in society becomes more important. I personally know at least 2 couples where the wife is very good looking and the guy is short and quite ugly but has a good job. If you have read up until know it means that this comment speaks to you. Don’t fall in the rabbit hole of social media and you tube videos where girls are displayed shitting on guys due to their hight or other nasty comments of this sort. I am not saying that hight does not matter but if you can compensate with other qualities only a minority of girls will still reject you.A good rule to start is to cut off content that makes you feel like shit for your hight in social media and you tube. Start blocking accounts now! Then speak about how you feel with people close to you like your parents. SEEK COUNSELLING, REALLY DO IT. It is worth it I can swear. However, if you do not have the money buy a book on overcoming lack of self esteem and follow it. It really changed my life. I used Self-esteem by Matthew Mckay. Good luck on your journey of accepting yourself. It took me 1,5h to write this comment so if you feel moved by it hit the like and tell me your experience so that more people can see it and we can foster positivity. Good luck guys. You are not alone.
