lonelynigga
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If you’re lean and natural you can end up looking kind of like a “twig” in clothes, which is where the whole sleeper build idea comes from. Most of your physique just isn’t visible day to day, so people don’t really register it. The main thing that people notice is your face when you’re lean you get more hollowed cheeks, sharper jaw, all that, Being shredded often does better on Tinder because you can showcase your whole body, you just look more striking in pictures even if IRL it’s not that obvious.
In real life it’s a bit different. When I’m really lean, people are usually surprised if they see me flex or take off a shirt because they didn’t expect much size under the clothes. It doesn’t really translate until it’s shown directly.
When I’m more like 18–20% body fat (not fat, just not super lean), my frame looks wider and more filled out in clothes. I’ve noticed that gets more real-world attention. The only times I’ve actually had girls approach or initiate was in that kind of condition.
Part of it is that in real life, it’s more socially normal for women to comment on or compliment physique than facial structure. Talking about someone’s face is more direct, but commenting on build, shoulders, arms etc. is an easier, more socially acceptable way to show interest. So if your frame reads as “solid” right away, there’s more room for that kind of interaction.
There are also studies people bring up about perceived width and attractiveness, and whether or not you buy into them, it does line up with the idea that a wider frame is more immediately noticeable in person.
So for naturals at least, there’s a tradeoff. Lean helps a lot for face and photos, but a bit more size helps with frame and in-person presence. And the real “best case” is just having enough muscle that you still look big even when lean.
It also depends on how you distribute fat for me at 18 to 20% body fat i didn't get significantly fatter facially i still had a defined face relative to the average person just lost my hollow cheeks for you it might actually be dire so don't just read this and say im gonna gain a bunch of bodyfat analyze your body and the way you distribute fat
For the people i recommend this to is people like me who are ectomorphs you have a good physique when you take of your clothes but when you wear a shirt it disappears
In real life it’s a bit different. When I’m really lean, people are usually surprised if they see me flex or take off a shirt because they didn’t expect much size under the clothes. It doesn’t really translate until it’s shown directly.
When I’m more like 18–20% body fat (not fat, just not super lean), my frame looks wider and more filled out in clothes. I’ve noticed that gets more real-world attention. The only times I’ve actually had girls approach or initiate was in that kind of condition.
Part of it is that in real life, it’s more socially normal for women to comment on or compliment physique than facial structure. Talking about someone’s face is more direct, but commenting on build, shoulders, arms etc. is an easier, more socially acceptable way to show interest. So if your frame reads as “solid” right away, there’s more room for that kind of interaction.
There are also studies people bring up about perceived width and attractiveness, and whether or not you buy into them, it does line up with the idea that a wider frame is more immediately noticeable in person.
So for naturals at least, there’s a tradeoff. Lean helps a lot for face and photos, but a bit more size helps with frame and in-person presence. And the real “best case” is just having enough muscle that you still look big even when lean.
It also depends on how you distribute fat for me at 18 to 20% body fat i didn't get significantly fatter facially i still had a defined face relative to the average person just lost my hollow cheeks for you it might actually be dire so don't just read this and say im gonna gain a bunch of bodyfat analyze your body and the way you distribute fat
For the people i recommend this to is people like me who are ectomorphs you have a good physique when you take of your clothes but when you wear a shirt it disappears