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My GF is my best friend in the whole world. If we have enough free time, we could talk for hours on end and not notice how late it has become.
Every time either me or her has a problem, is anxious, worried or saddened, there would always be a hug and kiss.
Even if we're both busy with work we still always shower together, cook together, go out shopping together and sleep together.
Many incels say this is also exactly what they want, to feel validated or valued by a woman. To feel her warmth, embrace and intimacy.
But what they seem to almost universally miss is that one big reason this happened for me was because I treated her and valued her as a person.
Even on DMs and our first date, I didn't even talk about sex; I just picked her up from her workplace and then we had a long date that lasted the whole day. Afterwards I gave her a ride home. I made a lot of eye contact with her, talked to her, respected her, made her feel like I am listening to her and that I'm valuing her opinions. I made her feel very comfortable or safe and that hanging out with me as a person is likely fun and interesting.
During the earlier parts of our relationship where she could have still had a chance to dump me, I did many things to prove these about me:
• That she can trust me, because I am responsible and reliable.
• That she felt validated and listened to when talking about negative things.
• That I am not afraid to show my vulnerable side.
• That I will do the best of my abilities to solve problems together when needed.
• That I am not afraid to admit my mistakes and can resolve conflicts without resorting to any abuses or anger.
Blackpilled incels mostly don't know that in the modern dating market, there are still many women who want to be attracted to who you are as a person. That personality and behavior plays a huge factor in this. Being attractive usually meant that you are an interesting, trustworthy and responsible companion who is capable of helping maintain healthy relationships. You shouldn't see relationships or sexual intimacy as just a transaction or see women as sexual objects.
Every time either me or her has a problem, is anxious, worried or saddened, there would always be a hug and kiss.
Even if we're both busy with work we still always shower together, cook together, go out shopping together and sleep together.
Many incels say this is also exactly what they want, to feel validated or valued by a woman. To feel her warmth, embrace and intimacy.
But what they seem to almost universally miss is that one big reason this happened for me was because I treated her and valued her as a person.
Even on DMs and our first date, I didn't even talk about sex; I just picked her up from her workplace and then we had a long date that lasted the whole day. Afterwards I gave her a ride home. I made a lot of eye contact with her, talked to her, respected her, made her feel like I am listening to her and that I'm valuing her opinions. I made her feel very comfortable or safe and that hanging out with me as a person is likely fun and interesting.
During the earlier parts of our relationship where she could have still had a chance to dump me, I did many things to prove these about me:
• That she can trust me, because I am responsible and reliable.
• That she felt validated and listened to when talking about negative things.
• That I am not afraid to show my vulnerable side.
• That I will do the best of my abilities to solve problems together when needed.
• That I am not afraid to admit my mistakes and can resolve conflicts without resorting to any abuses or anger.
Blackpilled incels mostly don't know that in the modern dating market, there are still many women who want to be attracted to who you are as a person. That personality and behavior plays a huge factor in this. Being attractive usually meant that you are an interesting, trustworthy and responsible companion who is capable of helping maintain healthy relationships. You shouldn't see relationships or sexual intimacy as just a transaction or see women as sexual objects.
