AlexAP
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We all know women should have kids at younger age. But there seems to be risks for men too, as men who have children at old age (45+) have kids who have a higher risk of mental illnesses like autism or ADHD.
But I'm wondering if there is really a causation here. First, I think many mental illnesses are not really medical conditions. It's just that many kids who are shy and socially awkward are diagnosed with autism today. But what really causes the shyness and lack of social skills? Is it really a genetic thing, did the father ruined his kid by waiting so long for having him?
I think there is another possible explanation: Fathers who are old (45-50+) don't have the same connection to their sons as younger fathers. This means that the kids won't have a strong father figure, and this can make them shy and socially awkward. If this is true, it would be a social thing, not a genetical, and it could be avoided if the fathers try hard to have a strong connection with their sons.
What do you think? Did you have an older father? Have you been socially awkward? In my case, my father was not very old (late 30s), but we still didn't have any connection at all.
But I'm wondering if there is really a causation here. First, I think many mental illnesses are not really medical conditions. It's just that many kids who are shy and socially awkward are diagnosed with autism today. But what really causes the shyness and lack of social skills? Is it really a genetic thing, did the father ruined his kid by waiting so long for having him?
I think there is another possible explanation: Fathers who are old (45-50+) don't have the same connection to their sons as younger fathers. This means that the kids won't have a strong father figure, and this can make them shy and socially awkward. If this is true, it would be a social thing, not a genetical, and it could be avoided if the fathers try hard to have a strong connection with their sons.
What do you think? Did you have an older father? Have you been socially awkward? In my case, my father was not very old (late 30s), but we still didn't have any connection at all.