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How to actually NOT hate your life as someone wired in a certain way
--Chapter 1: Discovery & Acceptance--
Lately you've been thinking about how you are different. How you think most people
around you are actually evil, how you dislike them and the only way you cope with it
is by hiding your true feelings and instead dissociating in some way (video games, anime,
forums like org, etc)
Now you might realize that living like this won't get you anywhere.
The first step is to accept the face that you're different and to not lie to yourself anymore.
You cannot live like this and it WILL make you have a miserable life if you keep lying to yourself.
I know. For the past 5 years you have kept up a facade. You do the shitty boring hangouts, talk the bullshit
and try to seem normal in every single way. MAYBE its working.
But there will be a time when it won't. When you will have such a strong feeling of disgust
with yourself and with others that you will simply burst out.
The only way to do that is to follow through with the next two steps:
Acceptance:simply accept who you are. Keep telling yourself "no, I don't want to hangout at the mall
doing absolutely jack shit. Its boring and id rather spend my time gaming"
Discovery: replace gaming with something that doesn't make you feel shit.
Could be reading some kind of books. Could be learning chess. Could be getting into sports.
There will ALWAYS be something
--Chapter 2: Small steps, slowly but surely!--
Okay, before you actually have a life that you like, you need to turn yourself
into a person that you like. Sometimes this might require high effort that takes a long time like losing weight.
But small steps can also be taken. Maybe you've always wanted to dye your hair white
Maybe you don't like wearing regular jeans and carrhart and would rather wear a suit 24/7.
Do those things. "Won't I seem weird" Yes you will.
If tomorrow you started wearing suits to college daily and dyed your hair white
it WILL seem weird.
Would you rather be weird in truth or sad in a lie?
You never hear old people regret being weird. You never hear them regret doing odd things
for fun. You hear them regret NOT doing anything. Not following through with their passions.
Don't be like that. Living in a lie only turns you to sadness.
At first it will feel hard. For the last 1000 years society has conditioned everyone.
Nowadays there is so much culture its hard to differentiate from what you are told to like and what
you are exposed to from what you truly like.
It might take days to find out even the kind of pants you like wearing.
But do it. The time to be truthful will pay off
--Chapter 3: Go all in!--
Now that you've identified the small parts, done the small steps its time to go all in truthfully.
Next time your friends ask you to hangout at the mall don't tell them "Sure" or make up excuses "sorry I have to go
to a doctor's appointment"
Say the truth. "Dude, we've been hanging out at the mall doing jack shit for months. I don't wanna
do that bullshit. Lets actually do something, go to a park, go play ball whatever the fuck"
"Won't I be judged and lose some friends if im truthful"?
Oh yes you will. You will also be cut off or have to cut off toxic people
from your life.
But the man with 5 real friends lives better than the man with 40 fake ones
Maybe not on the outside. But what your heart and mind feels matters more.
--Chapter 4: The BIG steps (life changing/ altering)--
This is when you actually change your life.
When you find out that yes, you don't wanna be a doctor or a lawyer,
or anything that makes good money but is boring and white collar.
You like blue collar work. You like feeling what you do.
Or maybe you don't. Maybe you prefer to work a minimum wage job
and make video essays on youtube.
Do it. Even if people say its stupid. They only say that because they have been living
in a lie themselves and getting out feels hard now.
Success!
--Chapter 1: Discovery & Acceptance--
Lately you've been thinking about how you are different. How you think most people
around you are actually evil, how you dislike them and the only way you cope with it
is by hiding your true feelings and instead dissociating in some way (video games, anime,
forums like org, etc)
Now you might realize that living like this won't get you anywhere.
The first step is to accept the face that you're different and to not lie to yourself anymore.
You cannot live like this and it WILL make you have a miserable life if you keep lying to yourself.
I know. For the past 5 years you have kept up a facade. You do the shitty boring hangouts, talk the bullshit
and try to seem normal in every single way. MAYBE its working.
But there will be a time when it won't. When you will have such a strong feeling of disgust
with yourself and with others that you will simply burst out.
The only way to do that is to follow through with the next two steps:
Acceptance:simply accept who you are. Keep telling yourself "no, I don't want to hangout at the mall
doing absolutely jack shit. Its boring and id rather spend my time gaming"
Discovery: replace gaming with something that doesn't make you feel shit.
Could be reading some kind of books. Could be learning chess. Could be getting into sports.
There will ALWAYS be something
--Chapter 2: Small steps, slowly but surely!--
Okay, before you actually have a life that you like, you need to turn yourself
into a person that you like. Sometimes this might require high effort that takes a long time like losing weight.
But small steps can also be taken. Maybe you've always wanted to dye your hair white
Maybe you don't like wearing regular jeans and carrhart and would rather wear a suit 24/7.
Do those things. "Won't I seem weird" Yes you will.
If tomorrow you started wearing suits to college daily and dyed your hair white
it WILL seem weird.
Would you rather be weird in truth or sad in a lie?
You never hear old people regret being weird. You never hear them regret doing odd things
for fun. You hear them regret NOT doing anything. Not following through with their passions.
Don't be like that. Living in a lie only turns you to sadness.
At first it will feel hard. For the last 1000 years society has conditioned everyone.
Nowadays there is so much culture its hard to differentiate from what you are told to like and what
you are exposed to from what you truly like.
It might take days to find out even the kind of pants you like wearing.
But do it. The time to be truthful will pay off
--Chapter 3: Go all in!--
Now that you've identified the small parts, done the small steps its time to go all in truthfully.
Next time your friends ask you to hangout at the mall don't tell them "Sure" or make up excuses "sorry I have to go
to a doctor's appointment"
Say the truth. "Dude, we've been hanging out at the mall doing jack shit for months. I don't wanna
do that bullshit. Lets actually do something, go to a park, go play ball whatever the fuck"
"Won't I be judged and lose some friends if im truthful"?
Oh yes you will. You will also be cut off or have to cut off toxic people
from your life.
But the man with 5 real friends lives better than the man with 40 fake ones
Maybe not on the outside. But what your heart and mind feels matters more.
--Chapter 4: The BIG steps (life changing/ altering)--
This is when you actually change your life.
When you find out that yes, you don't wanna be a doctor or a lawyer,
or anything that makes good money but is boring and white collar.
You like blue collar work. You like feeling what you do.
Or maybe you don't. Maybe you prefer to work a minimum wage job
and make video essays on youtube.
Do it. Even if people say its stupid. They only say that because they have been living
in a lie themselves and getting out feels hard now.
Success!
