most people with autism will never find love.

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at least, not in the way they want to

not in the way they deserve to.

and it's not because they aren't trying hard enough, or 'believing' in themselves, or 'putting themselves out there', it's not about a lack of hope or effort, it's because for a lot of us, the wiring we're born with, the way we exist, communicate and connect, isn't something the world knows how to love

we don't fit the instinctive molds people are drawn to

we miss the invisible signals everyone else seems to breathe without thinking

way say too much, or too little, we move wrong, we sound wrong

we make people uncomfortable without ever even meaning to, and they can't even explain why, they just pull away quietly, something inside them told them to leave

not because we're bad, not because we aren't worth knowing, but because the difference doesn't inspire love, it inspires distance and indifference

people want connection that feels easy, natural and seamless, they want laughter that flows without much thought, comfort without effort, affection without confusion

when you're autistic, everything takes effort, even the things that are supposed to be effortless

and so, no matter how much you work on yourself, no matter how much you 'improve', no matter how much you practice being palatable, what you can't erase is that sense of wrongness that people feel around you

and wrongness isn't something you can talk someone out of, it's not something you can fix with better posture, or a clever text, or a well timed smile

it's in the air, in the space between you and them, and it's heavy

the world loves the idea of acceptance, they like slogans about inclusions, they like campaigns and pride months, and little rainbow flags, but when it comes to the quiet, private moments, when it's just you and another person in a room, no amount of social progress can force someone to feel love that isn't there

and so most of us are left learning how to survive in a body, and a mind that will never be fully met

we'll spend years hoping, until hope rots into resignation

we'll watch as others find connection, fall in love, and get second, third and fifth chances

while we stay frozen behind glass, untouched, misunderstood and tolerated at best, abandoned at worst

we aren't supposed to say this, we're supposed to keep trying, keep smiling, and keep 'putting ourselves out there' until we die of exhaustion and disappointment

we're supposed to believe that love is just around the corner, that someone will 'see the real me' if we're just patient enough

but the truth is, some of us will die never having been loved the way we needed to be.

not because we're lazy, not because we're negative, not because we're too damaged, but because the world isn't built to love minds that don't mirror their own back at them

and you can either spend your life chasing a door that was never built for you, or you can sit with the grief, ugly as it is, heavy as it will be, and let it harden into something you can deal with

not hope, not bitterness, just a stubborn painful kind of dignity, don't lie to yourself, don't insult what you've been through pretending otherwise, just accept you'll never be loved the way you deserve, and somehow you'll have to live with that anyway
 
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People with autism have a different kind of self awareness
 
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dnr, but its prob sum deep stuff
 
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Some of this is corny, but sadly the truth.
 
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Not gonna larp as a diagnosed autistic but I somewhat relate to this although I’m not sure whether I’m autistic or not
 
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You're like normies and have the same emotions as them but you can observe and question those emotions and you find those emotions weird and can't express them easily
 
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at least, not in the way they want to

not in the way they deserve to.

and it's not because they aren't trying hard enough, or 'believing' in themselves, or 'putting themselves out there', it's not about a lack of hope or effort, it's because for a lot of us, the wiring we're born with, the way we exist, communicate and connect, isn't something the world knows how to love

we don't fit the instinctive molds people are drawn to

we miss the invisible signals everyone else seems to breathe without thinking

way say too much, or too little, we move wrong, we sound wrong

we make people uncomfortable without ever even meaning to, and they can't even explain why, they just pull away quietly, something inside them told them to leave

not because we're bad, not because we aren't worth knowing, but because the difference doesn't inspire love, it inspires distance and indifference

people want connection that feels easy, natural and seamless, they want laughter that flows without much thought, comfort without effort, affection without confusion

when you're autistic, everything takes effort, even the things that are supposed to be effortless

and so, no matter how much you work on yourself, no matter how much you 'improve', no matter how much you practice being palatable, what you can't erase is that sense of wrongness that people feel around you

and wrongness isn't something you can talk someone out of, it's not something you can fix with better posture, or a clever text, or a well timed smile

it's in the air, in the space between you and them, and it's heavy

the world loves the idea of acceptance, they like slogans about inclusions, they like campaigns and pride months, and little rainbow flags, but when it comes to the quiet, private moments, when it's just you and another person in a room, no amount of social progress can force someone to feel love that isn't there

and so most of us are left learning how to survive in a body, and a mind that will never be fully met

we'll spend years hoping, until hope rots into resignation

we'll watch as others find connection, fall in love, and get second, third and fifth chances

while we stay frozen behind glass, untouched, misunderstood and tolerated at best, abandoned at worst

we aren't supposed to say this, we're supposed to keep trying, keep smiling, and keep 'putting ourselves out there' until we die of exhaustion and disappointment

we're supposed to believe that love is just around the corner, that someone will 'see the real me' if we're just patient enough

but the truth is, some of us will die never having been loved the way we needed to be.

not because we're lazy, not because we're negative, not because we're too damaged, but because the world isn't built to love minds that don't mirror their own back at them

and you can either spend your life chasing a door that was never built for you, or you can sit with the grief, ugly as it is, heavy as it will be, and let it harden into something you can deal with

not hope, not bitterness, just a stubborn painful kind of dignity, don't lie to yourself, don't insult what you've been through pretending otherwise, just accept you'll never be loved the way you deserve, and somehow you'll have to live with that anyway
jova for autismcels like me
 
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when you're autistic, everything takes effort, even the things that are supposed to be effortless
Brutally over for high maintenance mental health disorders, mentalceldom is truly cruel.
 
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Artists are not from this world boyo
 
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at least, not in the way they want to

not in the way they deserve to.

and it's not because they aren't trying hard enough, or 'believing' in themselves, or 'putting themselves out there', it's not about a lack of hope or effort, it's because for a lot of us, the wiring we're born with, the way we exist, communicate and connect, isn't something the world knows how to love

we don't fit the instinctive molds people are drawn to

we miss the invisible signals everyone else seems to breathe without thinking

way say too much, or too little, we move wrong, we sound wrong

we make people uncomfortable without ever even meaning to, and they can't even explain why, they just pull away quietly, something inside them told them to leave

not because we're bad, not because we aren't worth knowing, but because the difference doesn't inspire love, it inspires distance and indifference

people want connection that feels easy, natural and seamless, they want laughter that flows without much thought, comfort without effort, affection without confusion

when you're autistic, everything takes effort, even the things that are supposed to be effortless

and so, no matter how much you work on yourself, no matter how much you 'improve', no matter how much you practice being palatable, what you can't erase is that sense of wrongness that people feel around you

and wrongness isn't something you can talk someone out of, it's not something you can fix with better posture, or a clever text, or a well timed smile

it's in the air, in the space between you and them, and it's heavy

the world loves the idea of acceptance, they like slogans about inclusions, they like campaigns and pride months, and little rainbow flags, but when it comes to the quiet, private moments, when it's just you and another person in a room, no amount of social progress can force someone to feel love that isn't there

and so most of us are left learning how to survive in a body, and a mind that will never be fully met

we'll spend years hoping, until hope rots into resignation

we'll watch as others find connection, fall in love, and get second, third and fifth chances

while we stay frozen behind glass, untouched, misunderstood and tolerated at best, abandoned at worst

we aren't supposed to say this, we're supposed to keep trying, keep smiling, and keep 'putting ourselves out there' until we die of exhaustion and disappointment

we're supposed to believe that love is just around the corner, that someone will 'see the real me' if we're just patient enough

but the truth is, some of us will die never having been loved the way we needed to be.

not because we're lazy, not because we're negative, not because we're too damaged, but because the world isn't built to love minds that don't mirror their own back at them

and you can either spend your life chasing a door that was never built for you, or you can sit with the grief, ugly as it is, heavy as it will be, and let it harden into something you can deal with

not hope, not bitterness, just a stubborn painful kind of dignity, don't lie to yourself, don't insult what you've been through pretending otherwise, just accept you'll never be loved the way you deserve, and somehow you'll have to live with that anyway
even though i am autistic i am nt, i talk to people but i cant relate to them and understand them, i cant understand girls and their signs
 
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very relateable
 
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even though i am autistic i am nt, i talk to people but i cant relate to them and understand them, i cant understand girls and their signs
it's easy to get along with women once you realize they function at the level of teenagers, for the rest of their lives, but it takes some self-reflection and getting older yourself to understand what it's like being a teenager.
 
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Damn i was just thinking of this
 
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Autists are a sad case
 
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it's easy to get along with women once you realize they function at the level of teenagers, for the rest of their lives, but it takes some self-reflection and getting older yourself to understand what it's like being a teenager.
a fitness question, i have a 18 inch bideltoid with a v shape clavicle, can i increase my bidelt by gymmaxing?
 
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i cannot imagine myself with another human being they will get bored out of me after the first week
 
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at least, not in the way they want to

not in the way they deserve to.

and it's not because they aren't trying hard enough, or 'believing' in themselves, or 'putting themselves out there', it's not about a lack of hope or effort, it's because for a lot of us, the wiring we're born with, the way we exist, communicate and connect, isn't something the world knows how to love

we don't fit the instinctive molds people are drawn to

we miss the invisible signals everyone else seems to breathe without thinking

way say too much, or too little, we move wrong, we sound wrong

we make people uncomfortable without ever even meaning to, and they can't even explain why, they just pull away quietly, something inside them told them to leave

not because we're bad, not because we aren't worth knowing, but because the difference doesn't inspire love, it inspires distance and indifference

people want connection that feels easy, natural and seamless, they want laughter that flows without much thought, comfort without effort, affection without confusion

when you're autistic, everything takes effort, even the things that are supposed to be effortless

and so, no matter how much you work on yourself, no matter how much you 'improve', no matter how much you practice being palatable, what you can't erase is that sense of wrongness that people feel around you

and wrongness isn't something you can talk someone out of, it's not something you can fix with better posture, or a clever text, or a well timed smile

it's in the air, in the space between you and them, and it's heavy

the world loves the idea of acceptance, they like slogans about inclusions, they like campaigns and pride months, and little rainbow flags, but when it comes to the quiet, private moments, when it's just you and another person in a room, no amount of social progress can force someone to feel love that isn't there

and so most of us are left learning how to survive in a body, and a mind that will never be fully met

we'll spend years hoping, until hope rots into resignation

we'll watch as others find connection, fall in love, and get second, third and fifth chances

while we stay frozen behind glass, untouched, misunderstood and tolerated at best, abandoned at worst

we aren't supposed to say this, we're supposed to keep trying, keep smiling, and keep 'putting ourselves out there' until we die of exhaustion and disappointment

we're supposed to believe that love is just around the corner, that someone will 'see the real me' if we're just patient enough

but the truth is, some of us will die never having been loved the way we needed to be.

not because we're lazy, not because we're negative, not because we're too damaged, but because the world isn't built to love minds that don't mirror their own back at them

and you can either spend your life chasing a door that was never built for you, or you can sit with the grief, ugly as it is, heavy as it will be, and let it harden into something you can deal with

not hope, not bitterness, just a stubborn painful kind of dignity, don't lie to yourself, don't insult what you've been through pretending otherwise, just accept you'll never be loved the way you deserve, and somehow you'll have to live with that anyway
@Orc its me @moreroidsmoredates. Do you think I have autism based on my history post? btw how have you been?
 
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a fitness question, i have a 18 inch bideltoid with a v shape clavicle, can i increase my bidelt by gymmaxing?
everyone can.

Progresss2
 
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Rate Joshua Fay Saunders, the Sicko of Casper

 
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Nobody gets the ending they truly want, every single person on earth would change atleast one thing about their lives if they could

It's the same thing for love, you won't find it the way you dreamed about it and sometimes you won't even find it. But you'll never be the only one to be in this situation and it certainly doesn't mean you can't be happy
 
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i have accepted fate long before:feelswah:
 
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I reposted this on r/autism

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lmao.
 
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at least, not in the way they want to

not in the way they deserve to.

and it's not because they aren't trying hard enough, or 'believing' in themselves, or 'putting themselves out there', it's not about a lack of hope or effort, it's because for a lot of us, the wiring we're born with, the way we exist, communicate and connect, isn't something the world knows how to love

we don't fit the instinctive molds people are drawn to

we miss the invisible signals everyone else seems to breathe without thinking

way say too much, or too little, we move wrong, we sound wrong

we make people uncomfortable without ever even meaning to, and they can't even explain why, they just pull away quietly, something inside them told them to leave

not because we're bad, not because we aren't worth knowing, but because the difference doesn't inspire love, it inspires distance and indifference

people want connection that feels easy, natural and seamless, they want laughter that flows without much thought, comfort without effort, affection without confusion

when you're autistic, everything takes effort, even the things that are supposed to be effortless

and so, no matter how much you work on yourself, no matter how much you 'improve', no matter how much you practice being palatable, what you can't erase is that sense of wrongness that people feel around you

and wrongness isn't something you can talk someone out of, it's not something you can fix with better posture, or a clever text, or a well timed smile

it's in the air, in the space between you and them, and it's heavy

the world loves the idea of acceptance, they like slogans about inclusions, they like campaigns and pride months, and little rainbow flags, but when it comes to the quiet, private moments, when it's just you and another person in a room, no amount of social progress can force someone to feel love that isn't there

and so most of us are left learning how to survive in a body, and a mind that will never be fully met

we'll spend years hoping, until hope rots into resignation

we'll watch as others find connection, fall in love, and get second, third and fifth chances

while we stay frozen behind glass, untouched, misunderstood and tolerated at best, abandoned at worst

we aren't supposed to say this, we're supposed to keep trying, keep smiling, and keep 'putting ourselves out there' until we die of exhaustion and disappointment

we're supposed to believe that love is just around the corner, that someone will 'see the real me' if we're just patient enough

but the truth is, some of us will die never having been loved the way we needed to be.

not because we're lazy, not because we're negative, not because we're too damaged, but because the world isn't built to love minds that don't mirror their own back at them

and you can either spend your life chasing a door that was never built for you, or you can sit with the grief, ugly as it is, heavy as it will be, and let it harden into something you can deal with

not hope, not bitterness, just a stubborn painful kind of dignity, don't lie to yourself, don't insult what you've been through pretending otherwise, just accept you'll never be loved the way you deserve, and somehow you'll have to live with that anyway
Op is a white mtn
 
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Why do you even post there ? Its a feel good subreddit. They dont like people like sharing negative experiences unless it conforms to their worldview
gauging reactions.
 
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gauging reactions.
I understand that tbh. But this guy's post about r/autism self diagnosing themselves was removed. Clearly hurt the feelings of moderators there
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at least, not in the way they want to

not in the way they deserve to.

and it's not because they aren't trying hard enough, or 'believing' in themselves, or 'putting themselves out there', it's not about a lack of hope or effort, it's because for a lot of us, the wiring we're born with, the way we exist, communicate and connect, isn't something the world knows how to love

we don't fit the instinctive molds people are drawn to

we miss the invisible signals everyone else seems to breathe without thinking

way say too much, or too little, we move wrong, we sound wrong

we make people uncomfortable without ever even meaning to, and they can't even explain why, they just pull away quietly, something inside them told them to leave

not because we're bad, not because we aren't worth knowing, but because the difference doesn't inspire love, it inspires distance and indifference

people want connection that feels easy, natural and seamless, they want laughter that flows without much thought, comfort without effort, affection without confusion

when you're autistic, everything takes effort, even the things that are supposed to be effortless

and so, no matter how much you work on yourself, no matter how much you 'improve', no matter how much you practice being palatable, what you can't erase is that sense of wrongness that people feel around you

and wrongness isn't something you can talk someone out of, it's not something you can fix with better posture, or a clever text, or a well timed smile

it's in the air, in the space between you and them, and it's heavy

the world loves the idea of acceptance, they like slogans about inclusions, they like campaigns and pride months, and little rainbow flags, but when it comes to the quiet, private moments, when it's just you and another person in a room, no amount of social progress can force someone to feel love that isn't there

and so most of us are left learning how to survive in a body, and a mind that will never be fully met

we'll spend years hoping, until hope rots into resignation

we'll watch as others find connection, fall in love, and get second, third and fifth chances

while we stay frozen behind glass, untouched, misunderstood and tolerated at best, abandoned at worst

we aren't supposed to say this, we're supposed to keep trying, keep smiling, and keep 'putting ourselves out there' until we die of exhaustion and disappointment

we're supposed to believe that love is just around the corner, that someone will 'see the real me' if we're just patient enough

but the truth is, some of us will die never having been loved the way we needed to be.

not because we're lazy, not because we're negative, not because we're too damaged, but because the world isn't built to love minds that don't mirror their own back at them

and you can either spend your life chasing a door that was never built for you, or you can sit with the grief, ugly as it is, heavy as it will be, and let it harden into something you can deal with

not hope, not bitterness, just a stubborn painful kind of dignity, don't lie to yourself, don't insult what you've been through pretending otherwise, just accept you'll never be loved the way you deserve, and somehow you'll have to live with that anyway
Most males with autism will remain virgins
 
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