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here's my experience.
When I first started, I set myself a challenge of doing 10 cold approaches per day.
On Day 1, I went to the mall and did all 10 approaches. My opener was usually something simple:
"Excuse me, I just thought you looked pretty. What's your name?"
From there I'd keep the conversation basic and ask their name, what they were up to that day, who they were with, and just try to have a normal conversation.
If the interaction went well, I'd close with something like:
"Well, I've gotta go meet my mates, but I enjoyed talking to you. What's your number? We should stay in contact."
On that first day, I got around a 50% success rate.
What surprised me was that most of my successful interactions came after the first couple of approaches. At the start, I was overthinking everything—what to say, how I sounded, whether I'd get rejected, etc.
As the day went on, I relaxed and started treating people like normal human beings instead of putting pressure on every interaction.
After that, I kept repeating the process, experimenting with different openers, conversation styles, and ways of closing.
Over time, my results improved, and I'd estimate my success rate climbed to around 75%.
The biggest lesson wasn't finding the perfect line.
It was simply getting out there and doing it.
Most guys spend hours looking for "the best opener" when what they really need is more reps and to detach themself from the outcome which doesnt matter at all as the goal is to be accended(in terms of confidence and charizma) in 3 years time. Confidence comes from experience, not from reading about experience.
Another thing that helped was studying people who were better than me. I'd watch guys who were highly confident, socially calibrated, and consistently got good results, then try to understand what they were doing differently.
What I noticed was that they weren't relying on magic lines.
They were relaxed, present, and unafraid of rejection.
If you're trying to improve socially, focus less on having the perfect script and more on building the courage to start conversations.
The goal isn't to be perfect it's to become comfortable.
like they say fake it til you make it, if you dont have confidence right now act like you do. dose up on caffiene and fake it.
Every conversation is practice, and every rep makes the next one easier I promise you that u wont be the same person in 3 years is you do this everyday.
the most important part is being consistent, not just doing it everynow and then, that isnt how u achieve great things
When I first started, I set myself a challenge of doing 10 cold approaches per day.
On Day 1, I went to the mall and did all 10 approaches. My opener was usually something simple:
"Excuse me, I just thought you looked pretty. What's your name?"
From there I'd keep the conversation basic and ask their name, what they were up to that day, who they were with, and just try to have a normal conversation.
If the interaction went well, I'd close with something like:
"Well, I've gotta go meet my mates, but I enjoyed talking to you. What's your number? We should stay in contact."
On that first day, I got around a 50% success rate.
What surprised me was that most of my successful interactions came after the first couple of approaches. At the start, I was overthinking everything—what to say, how I sounded, whether I'd get rejected, etc.
As the day went on, I relaxed and started treating people like normal human beings instead of putting pressure on every interaction.
After that, I kept repeating the process, experimenting with different openers, conversation styles, and ways of closing.
Over time, my results improved, and I'd estimate my success rate climbed to around 75%.
The biggest lesson wasn't finding the perfect line.
It was simply getting out there and doing it.
Most guys spend hours looking for "the best opener" when what they really need is more reps and to detach themself from the outcome which doesnt matter at all as the goal is to be accended(in terms of confidence and charizma) in 3 years time. Confidence comes from experience, not from reading about experience.
Another thing that helped was studying people who were better than me. I'd watch guys who were highly confident, socially calibrated, and consistently got good results, then try to understand what they were doing differently.
What I noticed was that they weren't relying on magic lines.
They were relaxed, present, and unafraid of rejection.
If you're trying to improve socially, focus less on having the perfect script and more on building the courage to start conversations.
The goal isn't to be perfect it's to become comfortable.
like they say fake it til you make it, if you dont have confidence right now act like you do. dose up on caffiene and fake it.
Every conversation is practice, and every rep makes the next one easier I promise you that u wont be the same person in 3 years is you do this everyday.
the most important part is being consistent, not just doing it everynow and then, that isnt how u achieve great things
