AlexAP
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So my fiancée and I are currently going through the process of planning out who we are inviting to our wedding.
I’ll just say this now, unbeknownst to me my fiancée is inviting 2 guy friends of hers that she hooked up with at the same time. One of these guys is in her bridal party. Now I’m not a prude or anything and I’m not obsessed with her sexual past. I’m a firm believer of ignorance being bliss. But now I’m not ignorant and I’m lacking bliss. I found out because one of my friends girlfriend is helping us with planning. This girl apparently knew about they guys and told my friend. He then told me. I thought he was just fucking with me and I didn’t believe him, then I mentioned it to my fiancée and she said it was true. I didn’t like interrogate her, I mentioned it offhand as a stupid remark and she admitted to it and got mad at her friend.
So after some thinking I decided I wasn’t comfortable having those guys at our wedding. I get that it happened before we met and has really no effect on our relationship, but I’m just not comfortable with having two guys that Eiffel Towered the woman I’m about to marry at the wedding. I’m not judging her, I’m not not comfortable with it and I don’t think that’s unreasonable. I’d never invite an ex fling because she doesn’t need to be there.
So one of the guys is a good friend of hers and was going to be a bridesman(?) and my fiancée got upset with me. She told me I was being insecure and it’s not fair for her to not have her friends on her wedding day.
I told her it’s just as much my wedding day as it is hers and considering how accommodating I’ve been to her wants for an ideal wedding, it’s kinda selfish for her to not be willing to be accommodating of one request. I don’t think I’d feel comfortable saying my vows when directly behind my wife to be is a guy who grabbed a buddy and slept with her. It’s just gross and I don’t like it. What should I do
I’ll just say this now, unbeknownst to me my fiancée is inviting 2 guy friends of hers that she hooked up with at the same time. One of these guys is in her bridal party. Now I’m not a prude or anything and I’m not obsessed with her sexual past. I’m a firm believer of ignorance being bliss. But now I’m not ignorant and I’m lacking bliss. I found out because one of my friends girlfriend is helping us with planning. This girl apparently knew about they guys and told my friend. He then told me. I thought he was just fucking with me and I didn’t believe him, then I mentioned it to my fiancée and she said it was true. I didn’t like interrogate her, I mentioned it offhand as a stupid remark and she admitted to it and got mad at her friend.
So after some thinking I decided I wasn’t comfortable having those guys at our wedding. I get that it happened before we met and has really no effect on our relationship, but I’m just not comfortable with having two guys that Eiffel Towered the woman I’m about to marry at the wedding. I’m not judging her, I’m not not comfortable with it and I don’t think that’s unreasonable. I’d never invite an ex fling because she doesn’t need to be there.
So one of the guys is a good friend of hers and was going to be a bridesman(?) and my fiancée got upset with me. She told me I was being insecure and it’s not fair for her to not have her friends on her wedding day.
I told her it’s just as much my wedding day as it is hers and considering how accommodating I’ve been to her wants for an ideal wedding, it’s kinda selfish for her to not be willing to be accommodating of one request. I don’t think I’d feel comfortable saying my vows when directly behind my wife to be is a guy who grabbed a buddy and slept with her. It’s just gross and I don’t like it. What should I do