chadison
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Well I said I was done posting threads, and I am. But here we go again.
I posted a thread about a year ago reflecting on my first year, so why not post a second one? It seemed to help me learn the first time.
In the blink of an eye, I'm halfway to graduating from a well-known state school, majoring in Computer Science, Data Science, and Economics. Needless to say, I'm a bit nerdy and autistic. But that doesn't stop me from trying to be neurotypical.
Things I learned this year:
1) Looks ARE confidence.
"Thanks captain obvious, we all knew that." I knew it too, but only FACTUALLY. As in, I knew it as a piece of information. This year I EXPERIENCED IT. Those are two completely different things. I can't even count the number of times I was approached by men and women complimenting me on my appearance. If I had to guess, it was over 100. From "you look sick dude" to "hey, you're the big guy at the gym" (men), and "you're cute," "you're the hot guy in (redacted--fraternity name) (women)."
Those comments actually bugged me a bit, because they reinforced the harsh truths I learned from the blackpill. Looks really are king for female attention and male respect. You simply cannot live a fulfilling life without them, in my opinion. My confidence is finally REAL confidence, and not self-talk confidence. And there is an astounding difference between the two.
2) Looks do not lead to career success.
They do help with networking though, which can sometimes lead to it. Hard work and genetic intelligence matter the most. You may be limited genetically to some degree, but most people are capable of good career success if they work hard.
3) Networking is SUPER important.
Knowing people who do all types of work is so important. If I didn't network the way I have been the past two years, my GPA would not be 3.7 and I wouldn't nearly have as many opportunities as I do now. Talking to people and working on basic social skills to facilitate interesting conversations is critical to success.
4) The world is really damn unfair.
It just is. Some people are born with genetic privileges and others with genetic burdens. And so, I made it my mission to help others whenever presented the opportunity. Little acts of kindness and compassion go much farther than you might think.
5) Men and women just cannot be friends.
Sex will always loom over the mind of both people, in some way or another.
6) Close male friendships bring more happiness than female attention and validation.
I have a few close buddies in CS, and we struggle through the hard classes together. The bond we have is super close and I wouldn't know what to do without them. I get far more fulfillment hanging out with them than being around/having sex with women.
7) Number 6 is the case for me because love is not real.
Human love is a neurochemical response in the brain and is not real. It is only a feeling. I know some of you will think this is controversial and may disagree, but this is what I believe based on scientific literature and my experiences. I believe the only real love is God/the creator's love. All other love (animal, human, etc) is simply evolution's way of incentivizing safety and reproduction.
And finally, the most important thing:
8) Until you love yourself and others, you will never have a happy life.
(Yes I know this contradicts number 7, but I am implicitly suggesting the definition of self-love is different than the feeling of love).
I didn't realize how much I hated myself until these last few months. I REALLY fucking hate myself. I constantly shit-talk myself for any little perceived flaw. This is a mindset that will ALWAYS lead to failure. Learn how to talk constructively to yourself and others. And it must be genuine love.
I'm looking at you God, please let me grow to six feet tall.
That is all.
I posted a thread about a year ago reflecting on my first year, so why not post a second one? It seemed to help me learn the first time.
In the blink of an eye, I'm halfway to graduating from a well-known state school, majoring in Computer Science, Data Science, and Economics. Needless to say, I'm a bit nerdy and autistic. But that doesn't stop me from trying to be neurotypical.
Things I learned this year:
1) Looks ARE confidence.
"Thanks captain obvious, we all knew that." I knew it too, but only FACTUALLY. As in, I knew it as a piece of information. This year I EXPERIENCED IT. Those are two completely different things. I can't even count the number of times I was approached by men and women complimenting me on my appearance. If I had to guess, it was over 100. From "you look sick dude" to "hey, you're the big guy at the gym" (men), and "you're cute," "you're the hot guy in (redacted--fraternity name) (women)."
Those comments actually bugged me a bit, because they reinforced the harsh truths I learned from the blackpill. Looks really are king for female attention and male respect. You simply cannot live a fulfilling life without them, in my opinion. My confidence is finally REAL confidence, and not self-talk confidence. And there is an astounding difference between the two.
2) Looks do not lead to career success.
They do help with networking though, which can sometimes lead to it. Hard work and genetic intelligence matter the most. You may be limited genetically to some degree, but most people are capable of good career success if they work hard.
3) Networking is SUPER important.
Knowing people who do all types of work is so important. If I didn't network the way I have been the past two years, my GPA would not be 3.7 and I wouldn't nearly have as many opportunities as I do now. Talking to people and working on basic social skills to facilitate interesting conversations is critical to success.
4) The world is really damn unfair.
It just is. Some people are born with genetic privileges and others with genetic burdens. And so, I made it my mission to help others whenever presented the opportunity. Little acts of kindness and compassion go much farther than you might think.
5) Men and women just cannot be friends.
Sex will always loom over the mind of both people, in some way or another.
6) Close male friendships bring more happiness than female attention and validation.
I have a few close buddies in CS, and we struggle through the hard classes together. The bond we have is super close and I wouldn't know what to do without them. I get far more fulfillment hanging out with them than being around/having sex with women.
7) Number 6 is the case for me because love is not real.
Human love is a neurochemical response in the brain and is not real. It is only a feeling. I know some of you will think this is controversial and may disagree, but this is what I believe based on scientific literature and my experiences. I believe the only real love is God/the creator's love. All other love (animal, human, etc) is simply evolution's way of incentivizing safety and reproduction.
And finally, the most important thing:
8) Until you love yourself and others, you will never have a happy life.
(Yes I know this contradicts number 7, but I am implicitly suggesting the definition of self-love is different than the feeling of love).
I didn't realize how much I hated myself until these last few months. I REALLY fucking hate myself. I constantly shit-talk myself for any little perceived flaw. This is a mindset that will ALWAYS lead to failure. Learn how to talk constructively to yourself and others. And it must be genuine love.
I'm looking at you God, please let me grow to six feet tall.
That is all.