Need advice on helping my gf quit vaping and drinking

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I wanna start off by saying that we have been together for abt 2.5 months now and when we got together I knew she vaped and drank a little, didnt rly care at that point. Last month she said that she wants to quit for me and her because she knew I wasnt a fan of the idea considering i dont do any of that shit, I was happy for her and stuff and everything was fine, until a few days ago I found a vape in her purse after she asked me to get a napkin out at the bus stop, I was shocked to be honest because she told me before that I matter more than nicotine and that she will quit, it wasnt an argument I honestly tried to understand her point of view considering shes been chainsmoking for 2-3 years and shes only soon turning 16. We talked and decided on a plan that will help her quit which is basically a 6 week plan that goes like: 2 weeks she vapes 3 times a day, 2 weeks she vapes 2 times a day, and 2 weeks she vapes 1 time a day, she said this will probably work. What im most scared of is just the future because I rly do love her and its both of our first realtionship and im overthinking the future, i realized that only she can quit and I cant do it for her but is there any tips u guys can give me like it would honestly help me a lot. Doesent help the fact that she drinks only because of her retarded friends who have too many problems, she does have her limit I have to give it to her, she has never got super drunk, but the idea bothers me, she does only drink 1-2 times a month but still. I dont see a future with an addict and I need help so I can understand better and have more hope for us. How can I make the situation better and help her. Me saying that im basically gonna break up if she doesent quit wont rly work because I kinda said that in other words but she knows how much we love each other that she has no fear of me leaving her. What also stuck in my head is that she said the other day when we talked abt everything that at the moment she doesent rly feel the need or want to quit but only does in the future. She did quit for 2 weeks and then relapsed because her friend offered her a vape and she bought it, idk honestly. All ik is that she has to want to quit instead of being forced but I really would appreciate some opinions and help. Thanks
 
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she probably cheating
 
dnr break up with her
 
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imagine what else she lying about :feelshehe:
Nah we are really open to each other like there is 0 bad thoughts abt anything else its just this, it doesent fhange her as a person shes perfect, it just honestly pisses me off and im scared for her health in the future, genuinely need advice
 
Nah we are really open to each other like there is 0 bad thoughts abt anything else its just this, it doesent fhange her as a person shes perfect, it just honestly pisses me off and im scared for her health in the future, genuinely need advice
why would you put up with that when you’ve only been dating 2 months in half a year you’ll look back and realize your retarded for not breaking up with her sooner
 
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why would you put up with that when you’ve only been dating 2 months in half a year you’ll look back and realize your retarded for not breaking up with her sooner
The hardest thing is the fact that I really love her and I dont doubt her love for me at all, and its like I dont want a permanent solution for a temporary problem, my friend told me its mainly a time will tell situation, dont think I wanna make a big decision until the 6 week period is over because that will lmk if shes serious abt everything or not.
 
why tf do u care its not that deep
 
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The hardest thing is the fact that I really love her and I dont doubt her love for me at all, and its like I dont want a permanent solution for a temporary problem, my friend told me its mainly a time will tell situation, dont think I wanna make a big decision until the 6 week period is over because that will lmk if shes serious abt everything or not.
i guess but if you care i wouldnt put up with bs
 
why tf do u care its not that deep
Genuinely its the fact that ive seen addiction tear people up around me and it hurts to see it on someone, its not severe yet but. Honestly I need to care less, its just that im thinking abt the future and I wanna see her change rather than be with an addict😕
 
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i guess but if you care i wouldnt put up with bs
Thanks for the advice like fr, my friend said the same thing, to see what happens in the upcoming weeks and after that if nothing changes then make the big decision
 
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I wanna start off by saying that we have been together for abt 2.5 months now and when we got together I knew she vaped and drank a little, didnt rly care at that point. Last month she said that she wants to quit for me and her because she knew I wasnt a fan of the idea considering i dont do any of that shit, I was happy for her and stuff and everything was fine, until a few days ago I found a vape in her purse after she asked me to get a napkin out at the bus stop, I was shocked to be honest because she told me before that I matter more than nicotine and that she will quit, it wasnt an argument I honestly tried to understand her point of view considering shes been chainsmoking for 2-3 years and shes only soon turning 16. We talked and decided on a plan that will help her quit which is basically a 6 week plan that goes like: 2 weeks she vapes 3 times a day, 2 weeks she vapes 2 times a day, and 2 weeks she vapes 1 time a day, she said this will probably work. What im most scared of is just the future because I rly do love her and its both of our first realtionship and im overthinking the future, i realized that only she can quit and I cant do it for her but is there any tips u guys can give me like it would honestly help me a lot. Doesent help the fact that she drinks only because of her retarded friends who have too many problems, she does have her limit I have to give it to her, she has never got super drunk, but the idea bothers me, she does only drink 1-2 times a month but still. I dont see a future with an addict and I need help so I can understand better and have more hope for us. How can I make the situation better and help her. Me saying that im basically gonna break up if she doesent quit wont rly work because I kinda said that in other words but she knows how much we love each other that she has no fear of me leaving her. What also stuck in my head is that she said the other day when we talked abt everything that at the moment she doesent rly feel the need or want to quit but only does in the future. She did quit for 2 weeks and then relapsed because her friend offered her a vape and she bought it, idk honestly. All ik is that she has to want to quit instead of being forced but I really would appreciate some opinions and help. Thanks
get off this forum u bluepilled cuck
 
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get off this forum u bluepilled cuck
Lmao not blue pilled just ascended over the last year and found love, I was genuinely sub human not even a full year ago and was an incel.
 
I wanna start off by saying that we have been together for abt 2.5 months now and when we got together I knew she vaped and drank a little, didnt rly care at that point. Last month she said that she wants to quit for me and her because she knew I wasnt a fan of the idea considering i dont do any of that shit, I was happy for her and stuff and everything was fine, until a few days ago I found a vape in her purse after she asked me to get a napkin out at the bus stop, I was shocked to be honest because she told me before that I matter more than nicotine and that she will quit, it wasnt an argument I honestly tried to understand her point of view considering shes been chainsmoking for 2-3 years and shes only soon turning 16. We talked and decided on a plan that will help her quit which is basically a 6 week plan that goes like: 2 weeks she vapes 3 times a day, 2 weeks she vapes 2 times a day, and 2 weeks she vapes 1 time a day, she said this will probably work. What im most scared of is just the future because I rly do love her and its both of our first realtionship and im overthinking the future, i realized that only she can quit and I cant do it for her but is there any tips u guys can give me like it would honestly help me a lot. Doesent help the fact that she drinks only because of her retarded friends who have too many problems, she does have her limit I have to give it to her, she has never got super drunk, but the idea bothers me, she does only drink 1-2 times a month but still. I dont see a future with an addict and I need help so I can understand better and have more hope for us. How can I make the situation better and help her. Me saying that im basically gonna break up if she doesent quit wont rly work because I kinda said that in other words but she knows how much we love each other that she has no fear of me leaving her. What also stuck in my head is that she said the other day when we talked abt everything that at the moment she doesent rly feel the need or want to quit but only does in the future. She did quit for 2 weeks and then relapsed because her friend offered her a vape and she bought it, idk honestly. All ik is that she has to want to quit instead of being forced but I really would appreciate some opinions and help. Thanks
ive been in almost the exact predicament (based on title i dnrd)
my advice is to let her pass, seriously
you will not regret it in the future, i promise you
 
ive been in almost the exact predicament (based on title i dnrd)
my advice is to let her pass, seriously
you will not regret it in the future, i promise you
Wdym by let her pass? Like leave her? Honestly a lot of people r saying this and my friend irl included, but what he suggested and im gonna most likely do is try that 6 weeks and see if anything improves, if not then ill see
 
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Wdym by let her pass? Like leave her? Honestly a lot of people r saying this and my friend irl included, but what he suggested and im gonna most likely do is try that 6 weeks and see if anything improves, if not then ill see
no i mean let her die from addiction
she will become suicidal at some point, fail to prevent it
 
no i mean let her die from addiction
she will become suicidal at some point, fail to prevent it
This is crazy and I doubt it will happen, shes not suicidal. If she was I wouldnt be with her
 
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Just take it from her purse and throw it in the trash.
 
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Just take it from her purse and throw it in the trash.
Lmao I wanted to smash it on the ground, but the fact is that shes just gonna buy another one so I gotta try and find a permanent solution…
 
wtf was I thinking w this thread 😭 my dumbass was bsing and nothing more
 
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I wanna start off by saying that we have been together for abt 2.5 months now and when we got together I knew she vaped and drank a little, didnt rly care at that point. Last month she said that she wants to quit for me and her because she knew I wasnt a fan of the idea considering i dont do any of that shit, I was happy for her and stuff and everything was fine, until a few days ago I found a vape in her purse after she asked me to get a napkin out at the bus stop, I was shocked to be honest because she told me before that I matter more than nicotine and that she will quit, it wasnt an argument I honestly tried to understand her point of view considering shes been chainsmoking for 2-3 years and shes only soon turning 16. We talked and decided on a plan that will help her quit which is basically a 6 week plan that goes like: 2 weeks she vapes 3 times a day, 2 weeks she vapes 2 times a day, and 2 weeks she vapes 1 time a day, she said this will probably work. What im most scared of is just the future because I rly do love her and its both of our first realtionship and im overthinking the future, i realized that only she can quit and I cant do it for her but is there any tips u guys can give me like it would honestly help me a lot. Doesent help the fact that she drinks only because of her retarded friends who have too many problems, she does have her limit I have to give it to her, she has never got super drunk, but the idea bothers me, she does only drink 1-2 times a month but still. I dont see a future with an addict and I need help so I can understand better and have more hope for us. How can I make the situation better and help her. Me saying that im basically gonna break up if she doesent quit wont rly work because I kinda said that in other words but she knows how much we love each other that she has no fear of me leaving her. What also stuck in my head is that she said the other day when we talked abt everything that at the moment she doesent rly feel the need or want to quit but only does in the future. She did quit for 2 weeks and then relapsed because her friend offered her a vape and she bought it, idk honestly. All ik is that she has to want to quit instead of being forced but I really would appreciate some opinions and help. Thanks
Beat her
 
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I wanna start off by saying that we have been together for abt 2.5 months now and when we got together I knew she vaped and drank a little, didnt rly care at that point. Last month she said that she wants to quit for me and her because she knew I wasnt a fan of the idea considering i dont do any of that shit, I was happy for her and stuff and everything was fine, until a few days ago I found a vape in her purse after she asked me to get a napkin out at the bus stop, I was shocked to be honest because she told me before that I matter more than nicotine and that she will quit, it wasnt an argument I honestly tried to understand her point of view considering shes been chainsmoking for 2-3 years and shes only soon turning 16. We talked and decided on a plan that will help her quit which is basically a 6 week plan that goes like: 2 weeks she vapes 3 times a day, 2 weeks she vapes 2 times a day, and 2 weeks she vapes 1 time a day, she said this will probably work. What im most scared of is just the future because I rly do love her and its both of our first realtionship and im overthinking the future, i realized that only she can quit and I cant do it for her but is there any tips u guys can give me like it would honestly help me a lot. Doesent help the fact that she drinks only because of her retarded friends who have too many problems, she does have her limit I have to give it to her, she has never got super drunk, but the idea bothers me, she does only drink 1-2 times a month but still. I dont see a future with an addict and I need help so I can understand better and have more hope for us. How can I make the situation better and help her. Me saying that im basically gonna break up if she doesent quit wont rly work because I kinda said that in other words but she knows how much we love each other that she has no fear of me leaving her. What also stuck in my head is that she said the other day when we talked abt everything that at the moment she doesent rly feel the need or want to quit but only does in the future. She did quit for 2 weeks and then relapsed because her friend offered her a vape and she bought it, idk honestly. All ik is that she has to want to quit instead of being forced but I really would appreciate some opinions and help. Thanks
i am a certified doctor based in NY state

what you need to do is pass her onto me lil bro
so i can fuck the nicotine out of her system

come to this location: 18.3002° N, 64.8252° W
 
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i am a certified doctor based in NY state

what you need to do is pass her onto me lil bro
so i can fuck the nicotine out of her system

come to this location: 18.3002° N, 64.8252° W

KÖK SEFA
 
Buprupione makes quitting nic easy
 
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I wanna start off by saying that we have been together for abt 2.5 months now and when we got together I knew she vaped and drank a little, didnt rly care at that point. Last month she said that she wants to quit for me and her because she knew I wasnt a fan of the idea considering i dont do any of that shit, I was happy for her and stuff and everything was fine, until a few days ago I found a vape in her purse after she asked me to get a napkin out at the bus stop, I was shocked to be honest because she told me before that I matter more than nicotine and that she will quit, it wasnt an argument I honestly tried to understand her point of view considering shes been chainsmoking for 2-3 years and shes only soon turning 16. We talked and decided on a plan that will help her quit which is basically a 6 week plan that goes like: 2 weeks she vapes 3 times a day, 2 weeks she vapes 2 times a day, and 2 weeks she vapes 1 time a day, she said this will probably work. What im most scared of is just the future because I rly do love her and its both of our first realtionship and im overthinking the future, i realized that only she can quit and I cant do it for her but is there any tips u guys can give me like it would honestly help me a lot. Doesent help the fact that she drinks only because of her retarded friends who have too many problems, she does have her limit I have to give it to her, she has never got super drunk, but the idea bothers me, she does only drink 1-2 times a month but still. I dont see a future with an addict and I need help so I can understand better and have more hope for us. How can I make the situation better and help her. Me saying that im basically gonna break up if she doesent quit wont rly work because I kinda said that in other words but she knows how much we love each other that she has no fear of me leaving her. What also stuck in my head is that she said the other day when we talked abt everything that at the moment she doesent rly feel the need or want to quit but only does in the future. She did quit for 2 weeks and then relapsed because her friend offered her a vape and she bought it, idk honestly. All ik is that she has to want to quit instead of being forced but I really would appreciate some opinions and help. Thanks
Leave her.
 
Put her on to harder drugs
I wanna start off by saying that we have been together for abt 2.5 months now and when we got together I knew she vaped and drank a little, didnt rly care at that point. Last month she said that she wants to quit for me and her because she knew I wasnt a fan of the idea considering i dont do any of that shit, I was happy for her and stuff and everything was fine, until a few days ago I found a vape in her purse after she asked me to get a napkin out at the bus stop, I was shocked to be honest because she told me before that I matter more than nicotine and that she will quit, it wasnt an argument I honestly tried to understand her point of view considering shes been chainsmoking for 2-3 years and shes only soon turning 16. We talked and decided on a plan that will help her quit which is basically a 6 week plan that goes like: 2 weeks she vapes 3 times a day, 2 weeks she vapes 2 times a day, and 2 weeks she vapes 1 time a day, she said this will probably work. What im most scared of is just the future because I rly do love her and its both of our first realtionship and im overthinking the future, i realized that only she can quit and I cant do it for her but is there any tips u guys can give me like it would honestly help me a lot. Doesent help the fact that she drinks only because of her retarded friends who have too many problems, she does have her limit I have to give it to her, she has never got super drunk, but the idea bothers me, she does only drink 1-2 times a month but still. I dont see a future with an addict and I need help so I can understand better and have more hope for us. How can I make the situation better and help her. Me saying that im basically gonna break up if she doesent quit wont rly work because I kinda said that in other words but she knows how much we love each other that she has no fear of me leaving her. What also stuck in my head is that she said the other day when we talked abt everything that at the moment she doesent rly feel the need or want to quit but only does in the future. She did quit for 2 weeks and then relapsed because her friend offered her a vape and she bought it, idk honestly. All ik is that she has to want to quit instead of being forced but I really would appreciate some opinions and help. Thanks
 
Buprupione makes quitting nic easy
Well in theory but all it does block the nicotine receptors which makes smoking not work, even if you want it tho, I don't smoke but that seems to be self evident
 
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Well in theory but all it does block the nicotine receptors which makes smoking not work, even if you want it tho, I don't smoke but that seems to be self evident
Yeah, thats good
 
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Your what? Source?
Either source or like, if you lived near me I'd give you the ones I bought cos I don't use that shit I just use Amphetamine now
 
I wanna start off by saying that we have been together for abt 2.5 months now and when we got together I knew she vaped and drank a little, didnt rly care at that point. Last month she said that she wants to quit for me and her because she knew I wasnt a fan of the idea considering i dont do any of that shit, I was happy for her and stuff and everything was fine, until a few days ago I found a vape in her purse after she asked me to get a napkin out at the bus stop, I was shocked to be honest because she told me before that I matter more than nicotine and that she will quit, it wasnt an argument I honestly tried to understand her point of view considering shes been chainsmoking for 2-3 years and shes only soon turning 16. We talked and decided on a plan that will help her quit which is basically a 6 week plan that goes like: 2 weeks she vapes 3 times a day, 2 weeks she vapes 2 times a day, and 2 weeks she vapes 1 time a day, she said this will probably work. What im most scared of is just the future because I rly do love her and its both of our first realtionship and im overthinking the future, i realized that only she can quit and I cant do it for her but is there any tips u guys can give me like it would honestly help me a lot. Doesent help the fact that she drinks only because of her retarded friends who have too many problems, she does have her limit I have to give it to her, she has never got super drunk, but the idea bothers me, she does only drink 1-2 times a month but still. I dont see a future with an addict and I need help so I can understand better and have more hope for us. How can I make the situation better and help her. Me saying that im basically gonna break up if she doesent quit wont rly work because I kinda said that in other words but she knows how much we love each other that she has no fear of me leaving her. What also stuck in my head is that she said the other day when we talked abt everything that at the moment she doesent rly feel the need or want to quit but only does in the future. She did quit for 2 weeks and then relapsed because her friend offered her a vape and she bought it, idk honestly. All ik is that she has to want to quit instead of being forced but I really would appreciate some opinions and help. Thanks
first, like you said, she as to do it herself but unlike you said, you can actually do something and it’s to say to her that you can’t be with her if she keeps doing that so basically, you take a break just to scare her and really give her the will to stop so she can do it herself but if you don’t want to hurt her that much (which is normal btw) there’s another obvious solution, it’s to make her leave her friends who are bad influence according to what you said and to have only locked in people in her life, for me it really help to do that, when i quit school and included in my social life just my mom, dad, sister and best friend who are all locked in people, it put me in a situation where all the people in my life wouldn’t let me do bad things for me so it helped me in so much things and it could help your gf too, hope my advices helped you
 

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