On 'social instinct' (NT related) (Story) (Life lesson)

[Amnesia]

I was always that guy kinda on the outskirts of the party observing normies smiling, laughing, socializing, talking about normie stuff.


It wasn't high inhibition or anxiety that stopped me from participating, it was that I literally had no idea what to say, when to say it, how to pick up on social cues.


It always confused me how all these people were just in their natural state talking having a good time, NONE of them were overthinking anything, none of them were analyzing the situation, they were just saying and acting as to what came natural to them. Why couldn't I be like that?


I always felt like when entering a social situation like this that I was a different species than everyone else, my brain just wasn't wire the same way, eventually I just accepted it and became a recluse.


You either have social instinct or you don't, you are either extroverted or not, it's not something you can learn. Yes drugs can help, but even these normies I'm talking about are the way they are with or without alcohol/drugs.


NT maxxing, and even looksmaxxing to a point are futile, eventually you accept where you are on the life scale/10 and live accordingly, until the day it's all over. We get by on the cope that one day it'll all turn around for us, but it doesn't. Whatever quality of life you have as of right now is basically the quality you are going to have until the day you die. Stop coping that it's gunna get better someday.

 

[Deleted member 6403]

its serotonin related

 

[studiocel]

Only time I felt naturally NT and extroverted was when I was drunk and high at the same time. Never began for my overthinking high inhib brain.

 

[Deleted member 15129]

lol, having "no idea what to say" is just caused by inhibition. you always have things to say in the back of your mind but your inhibition keeps them suppressed.

take a bunch of phenibut and alcohol and then come back to me and tell me you "had no idea what to say"

You can also come back when you've gotten a slay without those things

 

[Deleted member 15129]

I think some margaritas and little bit of hot tubbing would help

 

[Eduardo DOV]

I totally identify with that.

I am somewaht NT and make others laught when I am with my cousins(before covid), when we play cards or other table games. Or in rare situations when I talk on voice with some retarded friends.
I also were NT at school with the people that I used to talk(very little), they found me funny and strange. All others found me strange, the gL girl of the class said once I was ultra antisocial.
The hot girl in class once said when I skipped class that I was the most anti-social person she had ever knew. I only talked to my friends and an ugly girl in the back of the room.


I've always used to stay away watching people. I remember the Chinese boy in my class once saw this behaviour of mine and laughed(ath the bus, i was observing him).

 

[Beanermaxxer]

Sounds like literal autism, i’ve heard diagnosed autistic guys describe autism like you just did.
“It’s like playing a game where everyone knows the rules and expects for you to know them too, but you don’t”
-Some autistic fag i guess

 

[Caesercel]

Read everyrhing

 

[Deleted member 7509]

Only time I felt naturally NT and extroverted was when I was drunk and high at the same time. Never began for my overthinking high inhib brain.

did that few hours ago lmao. shit was nice

 

[mulattomaxxer]

This sounds autistic (I mean this seriously). Social skills can be improved. Conversation threading is the best social skill I have learnt. I have definetly regressed socially, however I can be NT (although its less natrual then other people). I'm just not hyper NT like some people are.

 

[BUY$DRUGS]

this is mad cope amnesia i was the same way until i started messing around with drugs. Drugs don't just "help" they'll permanently fucking change ur perception and reality for GOOD ...if you do enough. Started dosing 3-MMC, LSD, Shrooms, Peyote, and phen and now my social skills are equivalent to how they are on drugs when I'm sober. Ntmaxxed all the way all u need to do is get out of ur mind.

 

[Deleted member 7224]

You either have social instinct or you don't, you are either extroverted or not, it's not something you can learn. Yes drugs can help, but even these normies I'm talking about are the way they are with or without alcohol/drugs.


NT maxxing, and even looksmaxxing to a point are futile, eventually you accept where you are on the life scale/10 and live accordingly, until the day it's all over. We get by on the cope that one day it'll all turn around for us, but it doesn't. Whatever quality of life you have as of right now is basically the quality you are going to have until the day you die. Stop coping that it's gunna get better someday.

 

[BUY$DRUGS]

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insomnia is the answer to being NT

 

[Deleted member 7224]

insomnia is the answer to being NT

I just feel depressed if i dont sleep for long enough

 

[BUY$DRUGS]

I just feel depressed if i dont sleep for long enough

yeah i always feel like the plot to fightclub should've been schizophrenia idk why they made it insomnia

 

[RftH]

Can relate.....unfortunately

I always forget how non-NT I am, until an event out of nowhere happens. Then i'm reminded how high inhib and analytical I am around people.

Sucks when I actually prefer to be alone but then I have things I want to do that need me to be around people.

Gonna line up a bunch of drugs, do exposure therapy, all that bullshit till I fix this fucking curse.

Forget looks, its NT OR DEATH!!

 

[Chadakin]

Autistic projection

 

[Deleted member 6403]

Don't ever let your brain cells come to the action of reacting to any of my posts now and in the indefinite future, you feeble chink @wagmi

 

[CFW432]

NT or being neurotypical is literally nothing more than knowing how to communicate with another person, in the socially "right" way in any given circumstance. Most people that know it, didn't exactly have to actively "learn" how to do it. The same way you dont really have to actively learn how to use a spoon and fork. After a few times when you are a child, you get the hang of it, and then it becomes almost instinct on how to use it. There is a reason why most autistic/asocial kids are either ugly, or average looking at best. It because they were already rejected socially right off the bat from their peers simply on the basis of their looks (if they are ugly) and/or lack of exceptional status (if they are average men, because being an average guy is not enough to be accepted, you have to have some kind of tangible status as well as being average.) and therefore never got to learn, well, how to communicate "normally", or be "NT", with their peers.

 

[bwrauycnee]

The curse of being high IQ

 

[sorrowfulsad]

Whatever quality of life you have as of right now is basically the quality you are going to have until the day you die. Stop coping that it's gunna get better someday.

average person dies swallowing the truthpill

 

[one job away]

lol, having "no idea what to say" is just caused by inhibition. you always have things to say in the back of your mind but your inhibition keeps them suppressed.

take a bunch of phenibut and alcohol and then come back to me and tell me you "had no idea what to say"

Nah my head is literally empty when people ofc for talk

 

[Mongrelcel]

Conversation threading is the best social skill I have learnt

elaborate

 

[Mongrelcel]

it's a party, dickhead, imagine going to a party sober and then complaining that you're a high inhib autist

all drugs eventually lose potency, and then lose effects

you wont be able to use phen and alcohol forever

 

[n0rthface]

all drugs eventually lose potency, and then lose effects

you wont be able to use phen and alcohol forever

You don’t party everyday lol.

use them with moderation and you will be fine.

 

[Deleted member 12002]

I was always that guy kinda on the outskirts of the party observing normies smiling, laughing, socializing, talking about normie stuff.


It wasn't high inhibition or anxiety that stopped me from participating, it was that I literally had no idea what to say, when to say it, how to pick up on social cues.


It always confused me how all these people were just in their natural state talking having a good time, NONE of them were overthinking anything, none of them were analyzing the situation, they were just saying and acting as to what came natural to them. Why couldn't I be like that?


I always felt like when entering a social situation like this that I was a different species than everyone else, my brain just wasn't wire the same way, eventually I just accepted it and became a recluse.


You either have social instinct or you don't, you are either extroverted or not, it's not something you can learn. Yes drugs can help, but even these normies I'm talking about are the way they are with or without alcohol/drugs.


NT maxxing, and even looksmaxxing to a point are futile, eventually you accept where you are on the life scale/10 and live accordingly, until the day it's all over. We get by on the cope that one day it'll all turn around for us, but it doesn't. Whatever quality of life you have as of right now is basically the quality you are going to have until the day you die. Stop coping that it's gunna get better someday.

Stop Amnesia. I think you have social instinct, just not social interest. I'm the same way, and so are most of the other people here I think.

To most people getting there is half the fun. They want to take a girl home at the end of the night but they enjoy all the necessary steps in between. They enjoy small talk and banter. They don't have to feign any enthusiasm over mundane conversation, because they genuinely like it.

The reason you always wonder what to do/what to say at parties is because you already know in the back of your mind that you're not gonna be interested in the inevitable small talk. You probably don't even enjoy being at parties in the first place. You only attend them because you've been led to believe that going to parties is what you should be doing at this stage in life.

Forgive me if I got you all wrong. That's just how it was for me in my 20s.

 

[Mongrelcel]

You don’t party everyday lol.

use them with moderation and you will be fine.

no

even used in moderation the effects will slowly shift over time

 

[Deleted member 275]

Nobody goes to parties alone, that is already you first mistake.

You go there with friends or you already have people you know that are there, from school, sports, whatever. You vibe with these people, make jokes, etc. just like you would anywhere else. A party just spices that up a bit.

Repeat after me: NOBODY goes to parties/clubbing/bars ALONE. Nobody enjoys that except for some weirdo exceptions. You are not weird if you don't enjoy going out alone.

When I go alone to parties I am like you, sitting on the outskirts. I find it hard to make new friends/connections ngl. This is not due to a lack of 'social instinct', but mostly due to me feeling rejected by strangers and ppl close to me due to childhood trauma.

But when I am with friends, I can chill with them and have fun, dance, party, etc. You feel more comfortable in a group like this.


The vibe I have when I am with friends is: 'It doesn't really matter what we do, what the activity is, etc. We could be in a fucking museum about 13th century artists. But we could crack jokes, laugh about shit, and have a good time'

And u have the same vibe but better at a party instead of a fucking museum ofcourse.

 

[AlexAP]

Most people actually don't like to go to partys. The average person will not party much in his life and many not at all after 21. I think you're overestimating your non-NTness.

You probably have no idea what do with your life and are disinterested in socializing because of it.

 

[mulattomaxxer]

elaborate

Your making new threads of convosation from a previous statement. Examples of what you could ask during this convosation.
> Who is your business partner?
> What got you into snowboarding?
> Which snowboarding convention did you go to? (Good question if you have knowledge in the topic area.)
> What gear were you looking for? (Good question if you have knowledge in the topic area.)
> What is your shop called?

After this you can ask follow up questions, based on the new threads he makes. Make sure to add your own commentary or opinions. You don't want to go into interview mode, where your just asking questions.

People love to talk about themselves. So asking questions and being a good listener are crucial skills. If you can remember a specific
detail they made earlier and bring it up later, they will like you more.

 

[blueeyeswhitedrgon]

Completely wrong

 

[Cali Yuga]

reminder than charles manson had a cult of thotties that would otherwise have been normal dumb girls going to bars and doing their makeup so obsessed with him that they literally murdered people for him

you dont have to be NT you just have to have charisma and magnetism

 

[TopzCat1]

you remind me of zyzz we all have a bit of

Amnesia​

in us.

​

 

[onnysk]

 

[Deleted member 275]

reminder than charles manson had a cult of thotties that would otherwise have been normal dumb girls going to bars and doing their makeup so obsessed with him that they literally murdered people for him

you dont have to be NT you just have to have charisma and magnetism

non-NT is ideal. Theres too many NT people already and theyre just borign.

Just need to have a dominant personality that is interesting.

 

[Deleted member 5189]

Fam it can't be 'learned' because it's already in you, only for you it's less developed. You socialised less when you were younger and therefore you're behind and need to catch up. Just fucking loosen up and be brave and you're gonna have to fuck up and make awkward mistakes because that's how you improve, that's how these people got it to be their natural instinct only they were doing this as a kid.

Also stop trying to fit in. Stop saying and doing things because you think it'll make you seem normal. Genuinely be yourself Obviously don't talk about Jews n dat but if you have an opinion or joke then just say it. "I smoke socially" if you keep wasting your time being a robot like this then you're social skills won't go anywhere and they'll never improve.

You gotta realise that the whole purpose of social situations is to actually have fun. If someone says to you "I work in a pub" don't say something robotic and retarded like "I know someone who works at a pub too, what's it like?" Instead just be yourself. If you don't care that she works at a pub then literally just say "oh cool" and then move the convosation into the direction you want it to go in.

 

[Deleted member 8244]

You either have social instinct or you don't, you are either extroverted or not, it's not something you can learn

This is BS, I’m living proof, get you chad ass up and become NT

 

[enzo]

This is BS, I’m living proof, get you chad ass up and become NT

Elab tbh.

 

[Deleted member 6380]

Whatever quality of life you have as of right now is basically the quality you are going to have until the day you die. Stop coping that it's gunna get better someday.

I'm happy with most of what i have. But i'm open to improvement;

1. More close friends
2. Wife/s
3. Children
4. Houses

And aesthetically

1. Take braces off, re-open extaction sites, and get tooth extraction reversal surgery TERS by a good surgeon
2. Mew and achieve a lower gonial/compact/er midface
3. Lower hairline via thyroid medication and natural supplements, and in form of foods instead of pills.

 

[Deleted member 5786]

Iois

 

[Deleted member 6380]

I totally identify with that.

I am somewaht NT and make others laught when I am with my cousins(before covid), when we play cards or other table games. Or in rare situations when I talk on voice with some retarded friends.
I also were NT at school with the people that I used to talk(very little), they found me funny and strange. All others found me strange, the gL girl of the class said once I was ultra antisocial.
The hot girl in class once said when I skipped class that I was the most anti-social person she had ever knew. I only talked to my friends and an ugly girl in the back of the room.


I've always used to stay away watching people. I remember the Chinese boy in my class once saw this behaviour of mine and laughed(ath the bus, i was observing him).

Nah you're just an autist give up

 

[delta7]

You're wasting your Chad genetics being a high inhib cuck. Do meth and start your own sex cult. Go out with a bang

 

[sub6manletnozygos]

Shut up, you brooding, catastrophizing, melodramatic failed normie.
You lived more in your 3 decades of emotionally absent party-going than most of the kissless virgins here ever could even if they had 1000 years of life.
REMINDER @Amnesia had a waifu in his teens and the worst facial flaw he had to deal with was a slightly bulbous nose and brown eyes which were fixed with rhino and eye contacts (or just embrace your romantic brown eyes which render you, in conjunction with your top tier craniofacial development, a melancholic bad boy dark triad anime character).

>Whatever quality of life you have as of right now is basically the quality you are going to have until the day you die. Stop coping that it's gunna get better someday
defeatist cope. WAGMI WAGMI WAGMI WAGMI WAGMI WAGMI WAGMI WAGMI WAGMI WAGMI WAGMI WAGMI WAGMI WAGMI
quality of life can drastically change up to 35 which is the average age were millionaires become millionaires, and which has the the highest probability of changing ones quality of life, by shifting their focus from wagecukery to developing passions, if they have passions or finding passions if they dont have any.
but the only passion amnesia has developed and reinforces is wallowing in his self-pity and having sex with wrinkly raisins.
>inb4 amnesia insists he has money and it hasnt changed his life
you are free from wageslavery. your quality of life (free time) is emancipating but you are too much of a inflamed amygdala, dopaminergic desensitivity, narcissistic failednormie, to realize how lucky you are.
i assume, deep down you know how lucky you are but persist with this glass half empty (or even 9/10 empty) mentality because you enjoy giving up. you enjoy the lack of responsibility. you enjoy the LDAR mindset.
you are the biggest loser on this forum, because you have everything that is congruent to creating a happy life but pull yourself down because you are addicted to wallowing in your own self-pity and CRAVE pressure free social interaction from other losers.
tick tick normie. you are 33 and not getting any younger. why dont you dedicate yourself to positivity and/or enlightenment?
alternatively, why not get a biochem/science degree and dedicate your autism to anti-aging and wrestle with your fear of aging?
why not? its because you are LAZY and enjoy being LAZY.
pressure. free. social. interaction.
easy. validation. from. losers. on. the. internet.

i wish i had your cheekbones and orbital growth, and although i have vertical orbital dystopia and negative orbital vector, and am deficient in most facets of my existence, i will never give up, i will never settle for pressure free social interaction and will never be content with mental or physical stagnation.

 

[cmfanel]

im a high inhibiated fuck when im sober, when im drunk i talk to everyone, start fights, become aggressive, talk to random girls, drive drunk, anything goes

 

[Amexmaxx]

Imagine being this defeated

 

[AlwaysHaveQuestions]

Sounds like literal autism, i’ve heard diagnosed autistic guys describe autism like you just did.
“It’s like playing a game where everyone knows the rules and expects for you to know them too, but you don’t”
-Some autistic fag i guess

sums up my school experience. hence my name

 

[EasternRightWinger15]

when I feel down I will read this post to realize that my mentality could be much worse

bookmarked

 

[MakinItHappenReturn]

when I feel down I will read this post to realize that my mentality could be much worse

bookmarked

Pussies like you love hating on Amnesia because his misery gives you the illusion that you are missing out on nothing

Let's keep it 1000

 

[EasternRightWinger15]

Pussies like you love hating on Amnesia because his misery gives you the illusion that you are missing out on nothing

Let's keep it 1000

tell me then what am I missing

 

[Pill]

everything you said makes me think its autism induced

i was the same as you until around 20y/o i just fully accepted my inability to socialize and gained supreme confidence in being a mute retard.

now i look at social NT guys and their feminine mannerisms make me nauseous, men shouldnt be acting that way its unnatural

i am above nt's and girls just naturally know it and are drawn to me