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I am just about to depart my CBD apartment after living in the city center for two months. It has been a priceless experience. It has culminated in me learning something personally life-saving: That it is actually not that difficult to start succeeding in the social world, even if you are starting at the very bottom.
You see, today it’s not about chasing people, ‘daygaming’ or being super direct. It is about attracting. It is about conveying a value in not just your looks, but your energy and way of living. The non-looks part is what I will be covering in this series.
Keep in mind I have just started awakening, so this will be a very basic starting essay- I want to paint some broad strokes about things I learned, to hopefully shift the perspective of guys who are afraid to go out there and get out of their head.
Normies are like children
So, the culture we live in today has thrown off any standards of behavior expected of people (except conforming to SJW flavours of the month). People aren’t expected to be responsible, polite or selfless- they have been let loose to do as they please.
Like children, they are consumers. They take, take, take and take. They want value, they want dopamine, they want something that catches their interest and their eye. They want to be around someone where they don’t have to think, where they can relax and just suck off their value.
You can use this to your advantage, to massive advantage in fact, but you must learn to do one thing….
If you can do this one thing, you will start to attract people to you (providing you are at least a normie in looks).
YOU MUST ALLOW PEOPLE THEIR INITIAL REACTION TO YOU, WITHOUT TAKING IT PERSONALLY
You see so many men on here make threads complaining about the IOD they received, or how a girl blatantly preferred a taller or more handsome guy than them right in front of them.
YOU GOTTA CUT THAT SHIT OUT. CUT OUT BEING SURPRISED ABOUT THIS. THIS IS NOT NORMIE THINKING, THIS IS SUB-NORMIE THINKING. RETARD THINKING. THE THINKING OF A GUY WHO CAN’T ACCEPT THE HARSH WORLD FOR WHAT IT IS.
I mean, yes, these things happen. I am 5’8 and I used to get angry at how a 6’3 or 6’4 guy would look at me with slight disdain.
But what do I expect? 6’3 is 7 inches taller than me. If I see a guy that I am 7 inches taller than (5’1), I am going to innately react to him as if he is downright disabled. It’s nature. Nature is brutal. If you want to embrace nature and embrace life, don’t take it personally. ROLL WITH IT.
How do you not take it personally?
2 key principles:
I will go deep into this, as this is huge. I used to be extremely deluded about how I came across. I genuinely couldn’t believe when men treated me as if I was an un-masculine, wimpy guy. In my head I was a brutal, dark triad motherfucker.
I thought I was a 6.5 or 7 out of 10 in looks. In reality, my looks are very precarious. One day when about 5 factors are good, I can look above average. You take one or two out of the equation though, and I look totally forgettable, or even below that (although rarely that low these days).
Now, that is ok. The key is I know my place in the pecking order, in the physical food chain, and I ain’t surprised by shit.
Being a 4psl male won’t stop you from having an opportunity to get laid, but being surprised and emotionally affected that you get treated like a 4psl male, will.
Read the above sentence again.
Now, when I say the above, does this mean that you should think of yourself as others think of you? NO. That is the low-self esteem way of doing things, the coward’s way, the incel’s way.
The socially savvy way? The ruthless normie way?
To only see that as data, as a means to an end to get what you want.
Deep down, you should feel as entitled to sex, as hungry for sex, as driven for sex, as any other man. But, strategically, you should know where you lie externally. Like a determined soldier proceeding across a minefield, you should tread carefully, but with your objective ALWAYS being felt in the pit of your gut. Always deep down on the prowl for a woman who is open to you, for a social opening where you can attract people to you.
This is the way of the mature man, a man who sees himself as a social entity rather than a helpless outcast.
The second point ties in with the first. How do you execute the above?
BY NOT PROJECTING YOUR PAST TRAUMA ONTO PRESENT DAY INTERACTIONS.
Once you truly know your value, know how you are perceived externally and are realistic about it, NOTHING CAN REALLY HURT YOU. NOBODY IS TELLING YOU ANYTHING YOU DON’T KNOW
YOU DON’T NEED TO FISH FOR IOIS FOR VALIDATION, YOU DON’T NEED TO BE APPREHENSIVE TO SPEAK UP AROUND BIGGER GUYS, IN ORDER TO AVOID THE MOGGING. YOU KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT YOURSELF YOU NEED TO KNOW, YOU CAN MOVE FORWARD AND ACTUALLY GO FOR WHAT YOU WANT, BE PURPOSEFULL WHEN INTERACTING WITH PEOPLE.
EFFECTIVELY, YOU CAN ‘GET TO WORK’ AS A SOCIAL ENTITY.
Here we have a big distinction, someone ‘IN ACTION, ACTING WITH PURPOSE’, versus some helpless clown being affected emotionally by everything that goes on in the environment.
Again, how do we NOT PROJECT OUR PAST TRAUMA ONTO PRESENT INTERACTIONS?
We let all the bullshit go.
You need to start writing down everything you hate about yourself, everything you’re insecure about, everything you feel preventing you from actually going out and socializing.
Then, look at that list- everything you can handle IMMEDIATELY, go and handle.
Everything you can handle LONG TERM- Make a plan to handle, but accept in the meantime. As I said, if you have the balls to accept it, your energy will still flow out of you confidently, as you won’t be upset by any reaction- everything will be anticipated.
Things you absolutely can’t change, just accept it, learn to challenge the belief that you can’t be successful because of it. There are always outliers, and you will be one of them.
The final truth about Normies?
LIKE WOMEN, NORMIES WANT TO BE MASTERED. NORMIES ARE WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO LEAD THEM OUT OF THEIR MISERABLE EXISTENCE.
Normies DESPERATELY WANT YOU TO BE MORE CONFIDENT THAN ANYONE THEY’VE EVER MET.
They are miserable as they are, miserable slaves to the system and societal conventions.
They desperately crave to orbit a man who is above the system- not reacting to it angrily like an incel or far right fool- but simply beyond it.
This was what I was in 2007-2009, believe it or not. I was a living legend at my university.
Then life happened, trauma happened, heartbreak happened, insecurity, doubt, humiliation, failure happened. And I took all of that personally, I was too afraid to let go and live in the present. Too many wounds were there.
As I press forward in my journey, I am hoping to document more real world gems here.
Peace
You see, today it’s not about chasing people, ‘daygaming’ or being super direct. It is about attracting. It is about conveying a value in not just your looks, but your energy and way of living. The non-looks part is what I will be covering in this series.
Keep in mind I have just started awakening, so this will be a very basic starting essay- I want to paint some broad strokes about things I learned, to hopefully shift the perspective of guys who are afraid to go out there and get out of their head.
Normies are like children
So, the culture we live in today has thrown off any standards of behavior expected of people (except conforming to SJW flavours of the month). People aren’t expected to be responsible, polite or selfless- they have been let loose to do as they please.
Like children, they are consumers. They take, take, take and take. They want value, they want dopamine, they want something that catches their interest and their eye. They want to be around someone where they don’t have to think, where they can relax and just suck off their value.
You can use this to your advantage, to massive advantage in fact, but you must learn to do one thing….
If you can do this one thing, you will start to attract people to you (providing you are at least a normie in looks).
YOU MUST ALLOW PEOPLE THEIR INITIAL REACTION TO YOU, WITHOUT TAKING IT PERSONALLY
You see so many men on here make threads complaining about the IOD they received, or how a girl blatantly preferred a taller or more handsome guy than them right in front of them.
YOU GOTTA CUT THAT SHIT OUT. CUT OUT BEING SURPRISED ABOUT THIS. THIS IS NOT NORMIE THINKING, THIS IS SUB-NORMIE THINKING. RETARD THINKING. THE THINKING OF A GUY WHO CAN’T ACCEPT THE HARSH WORLD FOR WHAT IT IS.
I mean, yes, these things happen. I am 5’8 and I used to get angry at how a 6’3 or 6’4 guy would look at me with slight disdain.
But what do I expect? 6’3 is 7 inches taller than me. If I see a guy that I am 7 inches taller than (5’1), I am going to innately react to him as if he is downright disabled. It’s nature. Nature is brutal. If you want to embrace nature and embrace life, don’t take it personally. ROLL WITH IT.
How do you not take it personally?
2 key principles:
- Self-awareness about your looks level and how you come across in every way.
I will go deep into this, as this is huge. I used to be extremely deluded about how I came across. I genuinely couldn’t believe when men treated me as if I was an un-masculine, wimpy guy. In my head I was a brutal, dark triad motherfucker.
I thought I was a 6.5 or 7 out of 10 in looks. In reality, my looks are very precarious. One day when about 5 factors are good, I can look above average. You take one or two out of the equation though, and I look totally forgettable, or even below that (although rarely that low these days).
Now, that is ok. The key is I know my place in the pecking order, in the physical food chain, and I ain’t surprised by shit.
Being a 4psl male won’t stop you from having an opportunity to get laid, but being surprised and emotionally affected that you get treated like a 4psl male, will.
Read the above sentence again.
Now, when I say the above, does this mean that you should think of yourself as others think of you? NO. That is the low-self esteem way of doing things, the coward’s way, the incel’s way.
The socially savvy way? The ruthless normie way?
To only see that as data, as a means to an end to get what you want.
Deep down, you should feel as entitled to sex, as hungry for sex, as driven for sex, as any other man. But, strategically, you should know where you lie externally. Like a determined soldier proceeding across a minefield, you should tread carefully, but with your objective ALWAYS being felt in the pit of your gut. Always deep down on the prowl for a woman who is open to you, for a social opening where you can attract people to you.
This is the way of the mature man, a man who sees himself as a social entity rather than a helpless outcast.
The second point ties in with the first. How do you execute the above?
BY NOT PROJECTING YOUR PAST TRAUMA ONTO PRESENT DAY INTERACTIONS.
Once you truly know your value, know how you are perceived externally and are realistic about it, NOTHING CAN REALLY HURT YOU. NOBODY IS TELLING YOU ANYTHING YOU DON’T KNOW
YOU DON’T NEED TO FISH FOR IOIS FOR VALIDATION, YOU DON’T NEED TO BE APPREHENSIVE TO SPEAK UP AROUND BIGGER GUYS, IN ORDER TO AVOID THE MOGGING. YOU KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT YOURSELF YOU NEED TO KNOW, YOU CAN MOVE FORWARD AND ACTUALLY GO FOR WHAT YOU WANT, BE PURPOSEFULL WHEN INTERACTING WITH PEOPLE.
EFFECTIVELY, YOU CAN ‘GET TO WORK’ AS A SOCIAL ENTITY.
Here we have a big distinction, someone ‘IN ACTION, ACTING WITH PURPOSE’, versus some helpless clown being affected emotionally by everything that goes on in the environment.
Again, how do we NOT PROJECT OUR PAST TRAUMA ONTO PRESENT INTERACTIONS?
We let all the bullshit go.
You need to start writing down everything you hate about yourself, everything you’re insecure about, everything you feel preventing you from actually going out and socializing.
Then, look at that list- everything you can handle IMMEDIATELY, go and handle.
Everything you can handle LONG TERM- Make a plan to handle, but accept in the meantime. As I said, if you have the balls to accept it, your energy will still flow out of you confidently, as you won’t be upset by any reaction- everything will be anticipated.
Things you absolutely can’t change, just accept it, learn to challenge the belief that you can’t be successful because of it. There are always outliers, and you will be one of them.
The final truth about Normies?
LIKE WOMEN, NORMIES WANT TO BE MASTERED. NORMIES ARE WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO LEAD THEM OUT OF THEIR MISERABLE EXISTENCE.
Normies DESPERATELY WANT YOU TO BE MORE CONFIDENT THAN ANYONE THEY’VE EVER MET.
They are miserable as they are, miserable slaves to the system and societal conventions.
They desperately crave to orbit a man who is above the system- not reacting to it angrily like an incel or far right fool- but simply beyond it.
This was what I was in 2007-2009, believe it or not. I was a living legend at my university.
Then life happened, trauma happened, heartbreak happened, insecurity, doubt, humiliation, failure happened. And I took all of that personally, I was too afraid to let go and live in the present. Too many wounds were there.
As I press forward in my journey, I am hoping to document more real world gems here.
Peace
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