Stuck in Emotional Limbo with a Girl I Really Want — Need Real Talk

[zerotohero]

I’ve been talking to this girl for a while now. I’m 24, she’s 20. From the start I felt something different. Not just a crush but a real chance at something serious, maybe even long-term. I can see a future with her if things go right. But damn, it’s complicated as hell.

She’s not easy to read. She told me she doesn’t consider me her boyfriend yet. Maybe someday, but not now. That hurts more than I can say. I’m trying to be patient, telling her this isn’t a race but a marathon. I want to build something solid and real, step by step. But she’s scared, scared of opening up, scared of what she feels, scared of being vulnerable.

She’s been through a lot and that makes her guarded. She’s responsible, mature and sensitive but hides it behind a tough shell. She’s very selective, even with small things like food. That insecurity makes her hesitant to fully open up.

I’ve been through my own shit too. Trying to get better and build confidence. The first date was great. We spent hours together, walked, ate, held hands, kissed. She gave me a handwritten poem. I gave her a book with a note. She was nervous but said I looked good and wants to meet again.

But since then things got weird. She says she’s not sure about us yet, worries we aren’t compatible. I’m sure her friends are planting doubts in her head. It kills me because I’m honest and all in. But she pulls back and gets distant. I feel stuck.

I want to believe it’s not over. I want us to get through this. But it’s crushing. The uncertainty, the fear, the constant overthinking. I want to give her space but I’m terrified that space will turn into distance forever. I don’t want to suffocate her but I can’t stand limbo either.

I’ve never felt so powerless. Running on empty while she’s stuck in her head. I just want us to be real. To be a team. To move forward instead of circling the same doubts.

Anyone else felt this raw, painful limbo? How do you keep your head straight when your heart is screaming and the other person can’t or won’t meet you halfway?

I’m exhausted and hopeful at the same time. This hurts more than I expected. But maybe it’s worth it.

TLDR: Been talking to a girl I really like and want a serious relationship with. She’s anxious, unsure, and says she doesn’t see me as her boyfriend yet. Her past and her friends mess with her head. I’m honest and ready to go slow but steady. Feeling frustrated and stuck because she won’t let herself move forward. Need advice on what to do next.

 

[zerotohero]

Bump.

 

[chadhamed]

Crazy text bruh atleast put a tdlr

 

[sigma boii]

Move on

 

[Seong Gi-Hun]

Chatgpt dnrd

 

[zerotohero]

Crazy text bruh atleast put a tdlr

Done.

 

[laworg]

I’ve been talking to this girl for a while now. I’m 24, she’s 20. From the start I felt something different. Not just a crush but a real chance at something serious, maybe even long-term. I can see a future with her if things go right. But damn, it’s complicated as hell.

She’s not easy to read. She told me she doesn’t consider me her boyfriend yet. Maybe someday, but not now. That hurts more than I can say. I’m trying to be patient, telling her this isn’t a race but a marathon. I want to build something solid and real, step by step. But she’s scared, scared of opening up, scared of what she feels, scared of being vulnerable.

She’s been through a lot and that makes her guarded. She’s responsible, mature and sensitive but hides it behind a tough shell. She’s very selective, even with small things like food. That insecurity makes her hesitant to fully open up.

I’ve been through my own shit too. Trying to get better and build confidence. The first date was great. We spent hours together, walked, ate, held hands, kissed. She gave me a handwritten poem. I gave her a book with a note. She was nervous but said I looked good and wants to meet again.

But since then things got weird. She says she’s not sure about us yet, worries we aren’t compatible. I’m sure her friends are planting doubts in her head. It kills me because I’m honest and all in. But she pulls back and gets distant. I feel stuck.

I want to believe it’s not over. I want us to get through this. But it’s crushing. The uncertainty, the fear, the constant overthinking. I want to give her space but I’m terrified that space will turn into distance forever. I don’t want to suffocate her but I can’t stand limbo either.

I’ve never felt so powerless. Running on empty while she’s stuck in her head. I just want us to be real. To be a team. To move forward instead of circling the same doubts.

Anyone else felt this raw, painful limbo? How do you keep your head straight when your heart is screaming and the other person can’t or won’t meet you halfway?

I’m exhausted and hopeful at the same time. This hurts more than I expected. But maybe it’s worth it.

TLDR: Been talking to a girl I really like and want a serious relationship with. She’s anxious, unsure, and says she doesn’t see me as her boyfriend yet. Her past and her friends mess with her head. I’m honest and ready to go slow but steady. Feeling frustrated and stuck because she won’t let herself move forward. Need advice on what to do next.

Tell her u got vip on .org

 

[jeffery132525]

Idk bro like shes probably scared to settle down you feel me? Shes 20 in her prime, she probably wants to go out and explore and experience shit unless she genuinely fucks with you and wants to take it seriously, you need to maybe pull back a little bit and let her come to you

 

[chadhamed]

You have to fuck her or sum

 

[nobodylovesme]

DNR

ask her out, either she likes you or not. It's just that simple

 

[laworg]

I’ve been talking to this girl for a while now. I’m 24, she’s 20. From the start I felt something different. Not just a crush but a real chance at something serious, maybe even long-term. I can see a future with her if things go right. But damn, it’s complicated as hell.

She’s not easy to read. She told me she doesn’t consider me her boyfriend yet. Maybe someday, but not now. That hurts more than I can say. I’m trying to be patient, telling her this isn’t a race but a marathon. I want to build something solid and real, step by step. But she’s scared, scared of opening up, scared of what she feels, scared of being vulnerable.

She’s been through a lot and that makes her guarded. She’s responsible, mature and sensitive but hides it behind a tough shell. She’s very selective, even with small things like food. That insecurity makes her hesitant to fully open up.

I’ve been through my own shit too. Trying to get better and build confidence. The first date was great. We spent hours together, walked, ate, held hands, kissed. She gave me a handwritten poem. I gave her a book with a note. She was nervous but said I looked good and wants to meet again.

But since then things got weird. She says she’s not sure about us yet, worries we aren’t compatible. I’m sure her friends are planting doubts in her head. It kills me because I’m honest and all in. But she pulls back and gets distant. I feel stuck.

I want to believe it’s not over. I want us to get through this. But it’s crushing. The uncertainty, the fear, the constant overthinking. I want to give her space but I’m terrified that space will turn into distance forever. I don’t want to suffocate her but I can’t stand limbo either.

I’ve never felt so powerless. Running on empty while she’s stuck in her head. I just want us to be real. To be a team. To move forward instead of circling the same doubts.

Anyone else felt this raw, painful limbo? How do you keep your head straight when your heart is screaming and the other person can’t or won’t meet you halfway?

I’m exhausted and hopeful at the same time. This hurts more than I expected. But maybe it’s worth it.

TLDR: Been talking to a girl I really like and want a serious relationship with. She’s anxious, unsure, and says she doesn’t see me as her boyfriend yet. Her past and her friends mess with her head. I’m honest and ready to go slow but steady. Feeling frustrated and stuck because she won’t let herself move forward. Need advice on what to do next.

Ye jus ask her out straight and simple if she says no move on

 

[zerotohero]

Bump.

 

[McSkziofren]

never grow balls

 

[zerotohero]

never grow balls

What do you mean?

 

[McSkziofren]

What do you mean?

never grow balls

 

[zerotohero]

never grow balls

What?

 

[McSkziofren]

What?

balls

 

[zerotohero]

balls

?

 

[veganessujuc@gmail.]

I’ve been talking to this girl for a while now. I’m 24, she’s 20. From the start I felt something different. Not just a crush but a real chance at something serious, maybe even long-term. I can see a future with her if things go right. But damn, it’s complicated as hell.

She’s not easy to read. She told me she doesn’t consider me her boyfriend yet. Maybe someday, but not now. That hurts more than I can say. I’m trying to be patient, telling her this isn’t a race but a marathon. I want to build something solid and real, step by step. But she’s scared, scared of opening up, scared of what she feels, scared of being vulnerable.

She’s been through a lot and that makes her guarded. She’s responsible, mature and sensitive but hides it behind a tough shell. She’s very selective, even with small things like food. That insecurity makes her hesitant to fully open up.

I’ve been through my own shit too. Trying to get better and build confidence. The first date was great. We spent hours together, walked, ate, held hands, kissed. She gave me a handwritten poem. I gave her a book with a note. She was nervous but said I looked good and wants to meet again.

But since then things got weird. She says she’s not sure about us yet, worries we aren’t compatible. I’m sure her friends are planting doubts in her head. It kills me because I’m honest and all in. But she pulls back and gets distant. I feel stuck.

I want to believe it’s not over. I want us to get through this. But it’s crushing. The uncertainty, the fear, the constant overthinking. I want to give her space but I’m terrified that space will turn into distance forever. I don’t want to suffocate her but I can’t stand limbo either.

I’ve never felt so powerless. Running on empty while she’s stuck in her head. I just want us to be real. To be a team. To move forward instead of circling the same doubts.

Anyone else felt this raw, painful limbo? How do you keep your head straight when your heart is screaming and the other person can’t or won’t meet you halfway?

I’m exhausted and hopeful at the same time. This hurts more than I expected. But maybe it’s worth it.

TLDR: Been talking to a girl I really like and want a serious relationship with. She’s anxious, unsure, and says she doesn’t see me as her boyfriend yet. Her past and her friends mess with her head. I’m honest and ready to go slow but steady. Feeling frustrated and stuck because she won’t let herself move forward. Need advice on what to do next.

i don't really have much esperience with foids and am an autistic high inhib low emotional intelligence chud but: id advise to just be patient, treat her the best you can, maybe share something you are really insecure abt, try to make her feel safe, tell her even if an advance comes from her she doesn't have to do anything, not making it seem like you don't want it obv, just enough to reassure her she is not being used. Some of these things ive done with the person im with since almost year now, who before me wasn't eating, cutting herself, craing daily over exes who didn't give a shit and only wanted one thing or another and so on. Idk you or her tho.

Only read the tldr before reading this so it doesn't really fit that well. But the friends getting in her head is real. Happened to me to and was almost abandoned because some shitty healous friends claimed i treated her badly or some shit even thoigh i was genuienly trying my best. Somehow managed to get back together and its honestly going better than ever but it still sits at the back of my mind.
Idk. Sitting in boring ass math class typing this

 

[zerotohero]

i don't really have much esperience with foids and am an autistic high inhib low emotional intelligence chud but: id advise to just be patient, treat her the best you can, maybe share something you are really insecure abt, try to make her feel safe, tell her even if an advance comes from her she doesn't have to do anything, not making it seem like you don't want it obv, just enough to reassure her she is not being used. Some of these things ive done with the person im with since almost year now, who before me wasn't eating, cutting herself, craing daily over exes who didn't give a shit and only wanted one thing or another and so on. Idk you or her tho.

Only read the tldr before reading this so it doesn't really fit that well. But the friends getting in her head is real. Happened to me to and was almost abandoned because some shitty healous friends claimed i treated her badly or some shit even thoigh i was genuienly trying my best. Somehow managed to get back together and its honestly going better than ever but it still sits at the back of my mind.
Idk. Sitting in boring ass math class typing this

Thanks.

 

[nigtard]

This is obviously AI slop or you are a cuck, she's playing you

 

[zerotohero]

This is obviously AI slop or you are a cuck, she's playing you

Just venting. She’s not playing me, she’s scared and overthinks. I’d rather be patient than throw it all away on assumptions.

 

[nigtard]

Just venting. She’s not playing me, she’s scared and overthinks. I’d rather be patient than throw it all away on assumptions.

This is how ppl get cucked move on there's plenty of girls around why stick around for someone who is wasting your time

 

[LuhManiac]

No avoidance issues for Chad

 

[zerotohero]

No avoidance issues for Chad

True.

 

[xzx_]

I’ve been talking to this girl for a while now. I’m 24, she’s 20. From the start I felt something different. Not just a crush but a real chance at something serious, maybe even long-term. I can see a future with her if things go right. But damn, it’s complicated as hell.

She’s not easy to read. She told me she doesn’t consider me her boyfriend yet. Maybe someday, but not now. That hurts more than I can say. I’m trying to be patient, telling her this isn’t a race but a marathon. I want to build something solid and real, step by step. But she’s scared, scared of opening up, scared of what she feels, scared of being vulnerable.

She’s been through a lot and that makes her guarded. She’s responsible, mature and sensitive but hides it behind a tough shell. She’s very selective, even with small things like food. That insecurity makes her hesitant to fully open up.

I’ve been through my own shit too. Trying to get better and build confidence. The first date was great. We spent hours together, walked, ate, held hands, kissed. She gave me a handwritten poem. I gave her a book with a note. She was nervous but said I looked good and wants to meet again.

But since then things got weird. She says she’s not sure about us yet, worries we aren’t compatible. I’m sure her friends are planting doubts in her head. It kills me because I’m honest and all in. But she pulls back and gets distant. I feel stuck.

I want to believe it’s not over. I want us to get through this. But it’s crushing. The uncertainty, the fear, the constant overthinking. I want to give her space but I’m terrified that space will turn into distance forever. I don’t want to suffocate her but I can’t stand limbo either.

I’ve never felt so powerless. Running on empty while she’s stuck in her head. I just want us to be real. To be a team. To move forward instead of circling the same doubts.

Anyone else felt this raw, painful limbo? How do you keep your head straight when your heart is screaming and the other person can’t or won’t meet you halfway?

I’m exhausted and hopeful at the same time. This hurts more than I expected. But maybe it’s worth it.

TLDR: Been talking to a girl I really like and want a serious relationship with. She’s anxious, unsure, and says she doesn’t see me as her boyfriend yet. Her past and her friends mess with her head. I’m honest and ready to go slow but steady. Feeling frustrated and stuck because she won’t let herself move forward. Need advice on what to do next.

Tell her that "we need to talk" then sort everything out, tell her how u feel and ask her if she wants a serious relationship