zerotohero
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I’ve been talking to this girl for a while now. I’m 24, she’s 20. From the start I felt something different. Not just a crush but a real chance at something serious, maybe even long-term. I can see a future with her if things go right. But damn, it’s complicated as hell.
She’s not easy to read. She told me she doesn’t consider me her boyfriend yet. Maybe someday, but not now. That hurts more than I can say. I’m trying to be patient, telling her this isn’t a race but a marathon. I want to build something solid and real, step by step. But she’s scared, scared of opening up, scared of what she feels, scared of being vulnerable.
She’s been through a lot and that makes her guarded. She’s responsible, mature and sensitive but hides it behind a tough shell. She’s very selective, even with small things like food. That insecurity makes her hesitant to fully open up.
I’ve been through my own shit too. Trying to get better and build confidence. The first date was great. We spent hours together, walked, ate, held hands, kissed. She gave me a handwritten poem. I gave her a book with a note. She was nervous but said I looked good and wants to meet again.
But since then things got weird. She says she’s not sure about us yet, worries we aren’t compatible. I’m sure her friends are planting doubts in her head. It kills me because I’m honest and all in. But she pulls back and gets distant. I feel stuck.
I want to believe it’s not over. I want us to get through this. But it’s crushing. The uncertainty, the fear, the constant overthinking. I want to give her space but I’m terrified that space will turn into distance forever. I don’t want to suffocate her but I can’t stand limbo either.
I’ve never felt so powerless. Running on empty while she’s stuck in her head. I just want us to be real. To be a team. To move forward instead of circling the same doubts.
Anyone else felt this raw, painful limbo? How do you keep your head straight when your heart is screaming and the other person can’t or won’t meet you halfway?
I’m exhausted and hopeful at the same time. This hurts more than I expected. But maybe it’s worth it.
TLDR: Been talking to a girl I really like and want a serious relationship with. She’s anxious, unsure, and says she doesn’t see me as her boyfriend yet. Her past and her friends mess with her head. I’m honest and ready to go slow but steady. Feeling frustrated and stuck because she won’t let herself move forward. Need advice on what to do next.
She’s not easy to read. She told me she doesn’t consider me her boyfriend yet. Maybe someday, but not now. That hurts more than I can say. I’m trying to be patient, telling her this isn’t a race but a marathon. I want to build something solid and real, step by step. But she’s scared, scared of opening up, scared of what she feels, scared of being vulnerable.
She’s been through a lot and that makes her guarded. She’s responsible, mature and sensitive but hides it behind a tough shell. She’s very selective, even with small things like food. That insecurity makes her hesitant to fully open up.
I’ve been through my own shit too. Trying to get better and build confidence. The first date was great. We spent hours together, walked, ate, held hands, kissed. She gave me a handwritten poem. I gave her a book with a note. She was nervous but said I looked good and wants to meet again.
But since then things got weird. She says she’s not sure about us yet, worries we aren’t compatible. I’m sure her friends are planting doubts in her head. It kills me because I’m honest and all in. But she pulls back and gets distant. I feel stuck.
I want to believe it’s not over. I want us to get through this. But it’s crushing. The uncertainty, the fear, the constant overthinking. I want to give her space but I’m terrified that space will turn into distance forever. I don’t want to suffocate her but I can’t stand limbo either.
I’ve never felt so powerless. Running on empty while she’s stuck in her head. I just want us to be real. To be a team. To move forward instead of circling the same doubts.
Anyone else felt this raw, painful limbo? How do you keep your head straight when your heart is screaming and the other person can’t or won’t meet you halfway?
I’m exhausted and hopeful at the same time. This hurts more than I expected. But maybe it’s worth it.
TLDR: Been talking to a girl I really like and want a serious relationship with. She’s anxious, unsure, and says she doesn’t see me as her boyfriend yet. Her past and her friends mess with her head. I’m honest and ready to go slow but steady. Feeling frustrated and stuck because she won’t let herself move forward. Need advice on what to do next.
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