This site has killed my confidence

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When I first came her I thought I was a normal guy with a couple of specific flaws (unilateral ptosis/uee, crooked nose/deviated septum and a asymmetric jaw/face) but who was otherwise fairly attractive and got with a good number of girls. I was here for aesthetic reasons not to pick up more girls or due to insecurity/lack of confidence since coming here ive realised that basically every aspect of me is severely lacking. this has destroyed my self image. i should never have come; ive become one of you...
 
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When I first came her I thought I was a normal guy with a couple of specific flaws (unilateral ptosis/uee, crooked nose/deviated septum and a asymmetric jaw/face) but who was otherwise fairly attractive and got with a good number of girls. I was here for aesthetic reasons not to pick up more girls or due to insecurity/lack of confidence since coming here ive realised that basically every aspect of me is severely lacking. this has destroyed my self image. i should never have come; ive become one of you...
Im so sorry for you realizing truth lmao
 
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you will get used to it and you won't give a fuck up about it
you will also understand how many of those features in you are just average (or maybe its a cope idk)
anyways blackpill is very good at depressing its believers even when its incorrect since it will
call everything a cope (aka destroy your defense mechanism) which will make you ask yourself if its the defense mechanism
or reality
 
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if you were slaying before your confidence should have never faltered. But you are incel like many users here, it's ok son just continue looksmaxxing
 
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if you were slaying before your confidence should have never faltered. But you are incel like many users here, it's ok son just continue looksmaxxing
I was never slaying but im not an incel. im really just an average guy. I live in London, which means that getting with girls is very easy, but the standard of men is also quite high (at least in my area now, which is posh and white, where i used to live is a shithole full of desperate ethnic girls and chavs). Im really worried that ill be affected psychologically. going down the road to Mass this evening I walked past restaurants and bars with young couples and realised all of the guys mog me. strong facial structures hunter eyes etc. I dont have any of that shit. im just normal
 
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up until this week I genuinely thought (or just presumed) I mogged everyone who wasnt conspicuously attractive. I had so much swagger and confidence. I used to look down on people tbh. now i feel like an untermensch
 
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I was never slaying but im not an incel. im really just an average guy. I live in London, which means that getting with girls is very easy, but the standard of men is also quite high (at least in my area now, which is posh and white, where i used to live is a shithole full of desperate ethnic girls and chavs). Im really worried that ill be affected psychologically. going down the road to Mass this evening I walked past restaurants and bars with young couples and realised all of the guys mog me. strong facial structures hunter eyes etc. I dont have any of that shit. im just normal
if you can't get your looksmatch your incel tbh. Even average guys can, the effects of hypergamy are overstated on this stie
 
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up until this week I genuinely thought (or just presumed) I mogged everyone who wasnt conspicuously attractive. I had so much swagger and confidence. I used to look down on people tbh. now i feel like an untermensch
 
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There was never any confidence to kill so this site hasn't changed much.
 
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if you can't get your looksmatch your incel tbh. Even average guys can, the effects of hypergamy are overstated on this stie
almost all the girls ive dated are more attractive than i am. (apart from the current girl but shes rich and i think its hot that she treats me so badly). i can guarantee i was not an incel (at least not until now)
 
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I get this is a rather immature attempt at humour. i get it. but im actually so thankful. youre right. thankyou so much bro.
“It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything.”
 
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Your brain goes in to cope mode to avoid despair and you perceived yourself as more attractive than you were. It sucks to be hit with the reality however now you can only go UP.
 
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almost all the girls ive dated are more attractive than i am. (apart from the current girl but shes rich and i think its hot that she treats me so badly). i can guarantee i was not an incel (at least not until now)
how do you have sex and then magically become incel nigga? smells....smells like larp
 
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Your brain goes in to cope mode to avoid despair and you perceived yourself as more attractive than you were. It sucks to be hit with the reality however now you can only go UP.
yeah i guess. but i wasnt hideous. like i was gl enough (with white rich personality humour thug and educated halos) to get with decent (and occasionally very gl) women. i knew i wasnt chad i just thought there was some special intangible that made girls like me. now i know they just settle and have low standards and just wanna have random fun with someone beneath them sometimes. with what i know now i cant imagine why anyone has or every will be attracted to me. coming on here was a mistake ngl. no one actually ascends lets face it
 
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how do you have sex and then magically become incel nigga? smells....smells like larp
i didnt say i was or am incel. i just said my self image has collapsed and im worried about the affect that will have on my relationships with women, as well as with myself
 
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When I first came her I thought I was a normal guy with a couple of specific flaws (unilateral ptosis/uee, crooked nose/deviated septum and a asymmetric jaw/face) but who was otherwise fairly attractive and got with a good number of girls. I was here for aesthetic reasons not to pick up more girls or due to insecurity/lack of confidence since coming here ive realised that basically every aspect of me is severely lacking. this has destroyed my self image. i should never have come; ive become one of you...
no one asked and no one cares
 
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almost all the girls ive dated are more attractive than i am. (apart from the current girl but shes rich and i think its hot that she treats me so badly). i can guarantee i was not an incel (at least not until now)
Did you milkmire or gain weight or something?
 
i didnt say i was or am incel. i just said my self image has collapsed and im worried about the affect that will have on my relationships with women, as well as with myself
if you've done well in the past and your face hasn't dramtically changed you should be able to replicate your results. This comes across as a poorly done thread by another delusional poster, @Hozay send him another vid bro
 
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If you havent had a girlfriend before you joined you were just delusional and ugly in real life
 
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if you can't get your looksmatch your incel tbh. Even average guys can, the effects of hypergamy are overstated on this stie
Cope, most 5 -6/10 guys have to dumpster dive, especially if black, curry, aisan jfl
 
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Did you milkmire or gain weight or something?
i dont think im less attractive than i was. if anything due to getting bigger, growing hair and looking more mature facially after the end of puberty i probably look better than ever. the issue isnt that ive declined physically or that ive seen a decline in my romantic performance (lockdown hasnt been great but to be expected), its that ive realised im not actually good looking in any real, positive sense, and my image of who i am and why i get with women has changed totally, and idk if ive actually got anything to gain in return
 
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I have no pratice whatsoever im sorry bhai please pardon me :feelswah::feelswhy::feelswhy::feelswhy:
 
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When I first came her I thought I was a normal guy with a couple of specific flaws (unilateral ptosis/uee, crooked nose/deviated septum and a asymmetric jaw/face) but who was otherwise fairly attractive and got with a good number of girls. I was here for aesthetic reasons not to pick up more girls or due to insecurity/lack of confidence since coming here ive realised that basically every aspect of me is severely lacking. this has destroyed my self image. i should never have come; ive become one of you...
It's ok man. Just calm down and don't let it consume you. You can only improve from now on since you got blackpilled. Your looks will improve with looksmaxing and so will your self esteem
 
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literally a weeb
didn't read
Pubertymaxxingcel
 

oh wow thanks dude. didnt think of it like that! youve really lifted my spirits! sending so much thanks and love! SUPER BIG HUG!!!
 
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if you've done well in the past and your face hasn't dramtically changed you should be able to replicate your results. This comes across as a poorly done thread by another delusional poster, @Hozay send him another vid bro

on it
 
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if you've done well in the past and your face hasn't dramtically changed you should be able to replicate your results. This comes across as a poorly done thread by another delusional poster, @Hozay send him another vid bro
face is a prerequisite for success but its not the only factor. yes confidence and motivation wont get you laid but a lack of can prevent you getting laid, especially as, frankly, i put in quite a lot of effort and approach and text a lot of women
 
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face is a prerequisite for success but its not the only factor. yes confidence and motivation wont get you laid but a lack of can prevent you getting laid, especially as, frankly, i put in quite a lot of effort and approach and text a lot of women
blackpill gives you more info, should make things even easier now that you know about women's actual behavioral patterns
 
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blackpill gives you more info, should make things even easier now that you know about women's actual behavioral patterns
maybe long term. youre probably right
 
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the secret to escaping this prison of self critique is to turn that same uncompromising regard upon women

you will be less self conscious when you realize how the average woman is just a subhuman and will treat them accordingly
 
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the secret to escaping this prison of self critique is to turn that same uncompromising regard upon women

you will be less self conscious when you realize how the average woman is just a subhuman and will treat them accordingly
yeah i guess. i find it harder to rate women though. can to some extent, but theyre not talked about to in the same detail as much on here and irl when i see one irl my natural attraction takes over, and it just goes subjective
 
yeah i guess. i find it harder to rate women though. can to some extent, but theyre not talked about to in the same detail as much on here and irl when i see one irl my natural attraction takes over, and it just goes subjective
force yourself to do objective ratings of women while youre walking around outside/in the store or w/e

notice the flaws you would pick out in a dude asking for a rating on here, eventually it will be reflexive for you to objectively rate a girl you would before have pedestalized for her looks. This will help you be more nt with women and to be more confident in your interactions with them.
 
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force yourself to do objective ratings of women while youre walking around outside/in the store or w/e

notice the flaws you would pick out in a dude asking for a rating on here, eventually it will be reflexive for you to objectively rate a girl you would before have pedestalized for her looks. This will help you be more nt with women and to be more confident in your interactions with them.
cool man thanks
 
force yourself to do objective ratings of women while youre walking around outside/in the store or w/e

notice the flaws you would pick out in a dude asking for a rating on here, eventually it will be reflexive for you to objectively rate a girl you would before have pedestalized for her looks. This will help you be more nt with women and to be more confident in your interactions with them.
im pretty nt with women which i think is why i can get laid in the first place. but yeah this seems like a really good idea. thanks bro!
 
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Hey man, just wanted to say that I totally sympathize with you. When I first really swallowed the blackpill this April, it hurt BAD. I had BDD for many months (still do kinda) and I went through many depressive episodes, and had many suicidal thoughts. But I really believe you'll come to terms with it, I'm finally starting to. Although I go to a big uni in the states and the blackpill is despicably blatant, I'm finally starting to come to terms with reality and accept it as it is. I came to the conclusion I'd rather know the truth and be in pain, then be terribly ignorant my entire life. It's allowed me to see the beautiful little things in life, such as eating a good meal or enjoying nature walks, or enjoying my solitude or even company with friends. I think that you'll slowly come to terms with it as I am, and eventually it will empower you more than it hinders you. If you have any questions let me know.
 
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Face > Confidence
 
When I first came her I thought I was a normal guy with a couple of specific flaws (unilateral ptosis/uee, crooked nose/deviated septum and a asymmetric jaw/face) but who was otherwise fairly attractive and got with a good number of girls. I was here for aesthetic reasons not to pick up more girls or due to insecurity/lack of confidence since coming here ive realised that basically every aspect of me is severely lacking. this has destroyed my self image. i should never have come; ive become one of you...
If you’re getting girls that’s all that matters
 
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Face > Confidence
obviously. infinitely. but you wont get women sitting in your room all day, not talking to anyone at bars etc. then its a vicious cycle
 
obviously. infinitely. but you wont get women sitting in your room all day, not talking to anyone at bars etc. then its a vicious cycle
You still need to be NT though. I don't believe what this site says about how autistic chad slays more than a normie. Simply not true. But a non-autistic chad will slay infinitely more than a normie, of course.
 
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You still need to be NT though. I don't believe what this site says about how autistic chad slays more than a normie. Simply not true. But a non-autistic chad will slay infinitely more than a normie, of course.
A straight up chad, I think will slay no matter what. But yeah, I absolutely agree that having a fun confident personality matters so much more than people here say.

I should listen to mine own advice and stop coming here, people here are legitimately some of the most socially “off” people out there
 
the secret to escaping this prison of self critique is to turn that same uncompromising regard upon women

you will be less self conscious when you realize how the average woman is just a subhuman and will treat them accordingly
such a bullshit cope from an older user, don't listen to this guy dude. The average woman smv mogs gandy, rating her harshly won't do anything for you she'll still find you undesirable. Just looksmax and stick to your guns, they worked in the past didn't they?
 
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i dont think im less attractive than i was. if anything due to getting bigger, growing hair and looking more mature facially after the end of puberty i probably look better than ever. the issue isnt that ive declined physically or that ive seen a decline in my romantic performance (lockdown hasnt been great but to be expected), its that ive realised im not actually good looking in any real, positive sense, and my image of who i am and why i get with women has changed totally, and idk if ive actually got anything to gain in return
I get less girls now than when I wasn't blackpilled looll.
 
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if you can't get your looksmatch your incel tbh. Even average guys can, the effects of hypergamy are overstated on this stie
Very true the effects of hypergamy are very overstated on this website especially if we are talking about third world countries
 
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Sorry if you responded to this before: but how would you rate yourself? Also do you have your pic here? As a life long incel I have a strong feeling that you're a high tier normie who managed to get demoralised because of some autistic teenagers who posted too many models they fantasize about.
 
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