Update on my family situation: my parents made an agreement with my sister to not live with us permanently anymore

[Deleted member 3828]

Welcome to life in an immigrant household. Well, life in a household where one parent is an immigrant from a non-Western country. Still an immigrant household.

The struggles of ethnic man

 

[Deleted member 17791]

Welcome to life in an immigrant household. Well, life in a household where one parent is an immigrant from a non-Western country. Still an immigrant household.

This stuff has to be rare wtf.

 

[Deleted member 2381]

For me, doing what they wanted, lead to social suicide. Which has been extremely detrimental to my social life, mental health and as a consequence, also my future carreer/dating perspectives.

In the end it's about deciding what you think is best for you. For you and your sister, those were different things. You both have different experiences, different brain-wiring and therefore different ideas of what kind of life you want to live.

My brother kept with my parents lifestyle mostly. He finished medschool at 3PSL, virgin at 26yo. Now he is working/learning to become a trauma surgeon. He recently got a 3PSL fat girlfriend and works 60 hours a week. I know that he hates his life though, he told me, but he copes with some forms of luxury/wealth which we were never given by our cheapskate parents in our youth. Going to restaurants every week, etc.

For me, I have distanced myself from my family and am now basically an orphan. The rest of my family was never close to me, and after having to leave my parents/brother behind, I don't have any family left. It's a very mentally unhealthy situation to not have a support network like that.

I hope you can be supportive to your sister even if you disagree with her and even if your family is distancing themselves from her.

You should help your brother ascend

Does he have potential for improvement?

 

[Xangsane]

For me, doing what they wanted, lead to social suicide. Which has been extremely detrimental to my social life, mental health and as a consequence, also my future carreer/dating perspectives.

In the end it's about deciding what you think is best for you. For you and your sister, those were different things. You both have different experiences, different brain-wiring and therefore different ideas of what kind of life you want to live.

My brother kept with my parents lifestyle mostly. He finished medschool at 3PSL, virgin at 26yo. Now he is working/learning to become a trauma surgeon. He recently got a 3PSL fat girlfriend and works 60 hours a week. I know that he hates his life though, he told me, but he copes with some forms of luxury/wealth which we were never given by our cheapskate parents in our youth. Going to restaurants every week, etc.

For me, I have distanced myself from my family and am now basically an orphan. The rest of my family was never close to me, and after having to leave my parents/brother behind, I don't have any family left. It's a very mentally unhealthy situation to not have a support network like that.

I hope you can be supportive to your sister even if you disagree with her and even if your family is distancing themselves from her.

I understand how you feel about this. How did they react when you wanted to follow mainstream Western ways of living?

Like your brother I'm on the same path as him, only that I'm a Chadlite. It's not so bad now and I'm on a small break, but it'll get tougher as time goes by. However I know I'll have a comfortable lifestyle if I follow what they're telling me to do. Get married young, get a home young, drive a nice car young and live in a typical middle class manner while my other peers are struggling to pay rent in a major city.

Some others here are in shock that situations like this happen, even going as far as saying it's make-believe, while situations like these are all very common in immigrant households where parents have clear-cut goals for their kids and the life they want them to live so they live securely and they won't punish in their middle-ages and retirement. Especially since my dad is an Arab Muslim.

In such households a support network is vital hence why I'm very close to my family. A lot of people who aren't from immigrant backgrounds don't get this.

I'll let my sis calm down and I will talk to her. I still want to give her the support and attention she needs because I don't want her to get hurt by anyone that's out to get her.

 

[Xangsane]

This stuff has to be rare wtf.

It's not in ethnic/some Slav households.

 

[Xangsane]

The struggles of ethnic man

Are you also ethnic?

 

[Deleted member 17791]

It's not in ethnic households.

over then. I never heard of this stuff happening before. You guys are down bad then

 

[Xangsane]

Jfl if ur dad actually said love island, and distancing her from the family you must be sure that she will come back with a body count of more than 20 if she didn't do that by now already. Not the best thing to do imo. And the racism won't end for sure, also nvm if u are a libtard and want her freedom jfl
anyway Take care of yourself op. Stay safe saudi king

Yes. We all watch love island as a family since my mother loves that show.

I understand how you feel about this. How did they react when you wanted to follow mainstream Western ways of living?

Like your brother I'm on the same path as him, only that I'm a Chadlite. It's not so bad now and I'm on a small break, but it'll get tougher as time goes by. However I know I'll have a comfortable lifestyle if I follow what they're telling me to do. Get married young, get a home young, drive a nice car young and live in a typical middle class manner while my other peers are struggling to pay rent in a major city.

Some others here are in shock that situations like this happen, even going as far as saying it's make-believe, while situations like these are all very common in immigrant households where parents have clear-cut goals for their kids and the life they want them to live so they live securely and they won't punish in their middle-ages and retirement. Especially since my dad is an Arab Muslim.

In such households a support network is vital hence why I'm very close to my family. A lot of people who aren't from immigrant backgrounds don't get this.

I'll let my sis calm down and I will talk to her. I still want to give her the support and attention she needs because I don't want her to get hurt by anyone that's out to get her.

Have a read of this. I still want to give my support to my sister because I would weep if she ever got hurt by someone out to exploit her. I want her to be a reformed person and to go out there and shine.

 

[Xangsane]

over then. I never heard of this stuff happening before. You guys are down bad then

Have you watched the world's strictest parents?

 

[Deleted member 17791]

Have you watched the world's strictest parents?

no, what happens?

 

[Deleted member 3828]

Are you also ethnic?

I'm slav

 

[Xangsane]

no, what happens?

Want me to link you a video?

 

[Deleted member 17791]

Want me to link you a video?

nah it's alright.

Will your parents be alright after all this?

 

[Xangsane]

nah it's alright.

Will your parents be alright after all this?

They're all good.

 

[Deleted member 7580]

Op is prob talking about his family on sims @alriodai @looksmaxxer234 @gamma @vanilla

 

[Deleted member 17791]

They're all good.

Probably just pretending to be alright, I wouldn't be very good if I had to basically kick out my kid.

 

[Xangsane]

Probably just pretending to be alright, I wouldn't be very good if I had to basically kick out my kid.

A lot of white families often kick their kids out at 18

 

[StrangerDanger]

mutt problems

 

[Xangsane]

mutt problems

All immigrants and mutts tbh

 

[Deleted member 16275]

@FailedNormieManlet Realistically, do you think this will solve her self-hatred and white worshipping, bro? question to u too, Xangsane

 

[Xangsane]

@FailedNormieManlet Realistically, do you think this will solve her self-hatred and white worshipping, bro? question to u too, Xangsane

I hope it does because even my white mum (lifelong Labour supporter) told her off for it.

 

[Deleted member 15674]

@FailedNormieManlet Realistically, do you think this will solve her self-hatred and white worshipping, bro? question to u too, Xangsane

No, but it’s good that their family pushed back and didn’t accept her racism

 

[Deleted member 17791]

A lot of white families often kick their kids out at 18

that's a myth tbh. I never see that happen, they don't just kick em out at 18. Maybe swedes and Americans do.

 

[Xangsane]

No, but it’s good that their family pushed back and didn’t accept her racism

I hope it does because even my white mum (lifelong Labour supporter) told her off for it.

My sister votes Conservative

 

[Deleted member 15674]

My sister votes Conservative

I support some conservative stuff. But she only votes cons because she hates ethnics lol. When rishi sunak runs for pm, she’ll be a diehard Labour supporter

 

[Deleted member 16984]

You didn't go far enough, you should've done the honorable sir

 

[Xangsane]

You didn't go far enough, you should've done the honorable sir

The honourable?

 

[Xangsane]

that's a myth tbh. I never see that happen, they don't just kick em out at 18. Maybe swedes and Americans do.

Brits too

 

[Xangsane]

I support some conservative stuff. But she only votes cons because she hates ethnics lol. When rishi sunak runs for pm, she’ll be a diehard Labour supporter

Tories and labour have some good points but I'm not a fan of either of them. Since I live in a tory stronghold sometimes mum gets made fun of jokingly as a labour supporter

Last time I voted, I drew a doodle of a cow on the ballot paper.

 

[Deleted member 17791]

Brits too

dog shit culture tbh. That needs to change

 

[Xangsane]

dog shit culture tbh. That needs to change

It's common for white families to tell their 18 year old kids to scoot off @FailedNormieManlet

 

[Deleted member 17791]

It's common for white families to tell their 18 year old kids to scoot off @FailedNormieManlet

Maybe like 20% maximum

 

[Deleted member 12002]

My sister has been feeling uneasy for the past couple of days.

Mum told me that she has been grounded this summer, and when she goes back to uni this September, she is only allowed to come home for a short period of time during the holidays, but not for the summer term and should find a job in her uni town instead, away from us, because dad said "she clearly wanted a different life like those white people with no guidance in their life like the ones on Love Island" and "doesn't accept her father for who he is, and openly denying where he came from". They both said they are slowly trying to distance themselves away from her.

TLDR: "my house, my rules".

If I were her I just wouldn't come home at all. I wouldn't call or interact with them online either.

 

[DoctorLooksmax]

Nigga destroyed his family for reacts

Destroyed his family for reacts and still has a negative posts:reacts ratio

 

[Deleted member 15674]

Tories and labour have some good points but I'm not a fan of either of them. Since I live in a tory stronghold sometimes mum gets made fun of jokingly as a labour supporter

Last time I voted, I drew a doodle of a cow on the ballot paper.

Tories have good messaging, whereas Labour sound like university students trying to fight “the system”. They’re too edgy and play the moral high ground which makes them gross. I think cost of living crisis is fucked, and support the unions striking. But honestly I think there is no way to beat the crisis unless some form of radical action is taken. Labour just doesn’t seem competent in my eyes

 

[Deleted member 15674]

It's common for white families to tell their 18 year old kids to scoot off @FailedNormieManlet

white families charge their kids rent lol

 

[Deleted member 3828]

white families charge their kids rent lol

Dutch are famous for being jew @Lars

 

[DoctorLooksmax]

It's common for white families to tell their 18 year old kids to scoot off @FailedNormieManlet

Quite rare in my experience - all my friends from school except me live at home still

 

[DoctorLooksmax]

white families charge their kids rent lol

When I was at home straight after uni I didn’t pay rent - but I was on a training salary for a while before I got certified.

Now that I was earning more I’d feel slightly guilty if I still lived at home and didn’t pay my parents anything towards housing costs

 

[fogdart]

My sister has been feeling uneasy for the past couple of days.

Mum told me that she has been grounded this summer, and when she goes back to uni this September, she is only allowed to come home for a short period of time during the holidays, but not for the summer term and should find a job in her uni town instead, away from us, because dad said "she clearly wanted a different life like those white people with no guidance in their life like the ones on Love Island" and "doesn't accept her father for who he is, and openly denying where he came from". They both said they are slowly trying to distance themselves away from her.

TLDR: "my house, my rules".

Lol who is in your pfp and signature? tell me about her

 

[Deleted member 15674]

When I was at home straight after uni I didn’t pay rent - but I was on a training salary for a while before I got certified.

Now that I was earning more I’d feel slightly guilty if I still lived at home and didn’t pay my parents anything towards housing costs

In my culture you basically don’t pay rent and parents refuse it, they expect you to earn save and buy a house

 

[Xangsane]

Lol who is in your pfp and signature? tell me about her

Kate Bush, a singer zoomers are simping for.

 

[DoctorLooksmax]

In my culture you basically don’t pay rent and parents refuse it, they expect you to earn save and buy a house

I get that- but I think that’s more of an individual thing and depends on your own and families financial situation rather than culturally specific.

Plenty of white kids get loads of money off their parents if they are rich- equally some ethnics could have to help their parents out with bills etc cos they can’t afford to keep feeding and housing them all through their 20s without suppirt

 

[Deleted member 15674]

I get that- but I think that’s more of an individual thing and depends on your own and families financial situation rather than culturally specific.

Plenty of white kids get loads of money off their parents if they are rich- equally some ethnics could have to help their parents out with bills etc cos they can’t afford to keep feeding and housing them all through their 20s without suppirt

Yeah ofc, I’m lucky that my parents are doing okay. But yeah generally speaking unless family are struggling we aren’t expected to pay rent. That’s just how households work with us

 

[Xangsane]

Yeah ofc, I’m lucky that my parents are doing okay. But yeah generally speaking unless family are struggling we aren’t expected to pay rent. That’s just how households work with us

I can confirm this too. My parents want me to buy a nice house and save up. Meanwhile my white friend is struggling with rent in London.

 

[Deleted member 18244]

Fuck all of you british niggas that have parents and can live at home for free. Ohh muh hard life I have free time and no bills. Kys

 

[Racky]

I gave mum an interview when I asked people here to write her questions and someone asked her about my sister's recent behaviour

From then she kept prodding me for more info

Come on man, don't act oblivious now. You knew what you were doing. Obviously you didn't ask your mom to answer all the questions these guys were asking in that thread, considering some were very offensive/disrespectful to ask an elderly woman let alone your own mom. Similarly you could have ignored the questions about your sister to avoid further drama.

 

[Xangsane]

Come on man, don't act oblivious now. You knew what you were doing. Obviously you didn't ask your mom to answer all the questions these guys were asking in that thread, considering some were very offensive/disrespectful to ask an elderly woman let alone your own mom. Similarly you could have ignored the questions about your sister to avoid further drama.

I ignored some of the questions

 

[Xangsane]

If I were her I just wouldn't come home at all. I wouldn't call or interact with them online either.

Why not?

 

[Chadeep]

No more halal chicken for her. So sad