What can be done for NTmaxxing and for social skills improvement

[Weter]

I tried being myself and friendly with normies, most of them are alredy in some sort of friendgroup and a lot of them are emotional celibates, so they wont let anyone new in, they just ignore me, i do not consist in any male/female friendgroup nor do i have friends at general.
i did everything i could about my looks to fix this, but it seems it didn’t enhance the quality of my life.

I will appreciate any advices on “friendmaxxing”(i deeply hate that we got brainrotted and have to use word maxxing) and advices on how to actually get in normies friendgroups and be an active part of society

 

[thecel]

bump

i have the same problem

 

[nathan]

I tried being myself and friendly with normies, most of them are alredy in some sort of friendgroup and a lot of them are emotional celibates, so they wont let anyone new in, they just ignore me, i do not consist in any male/female friendgroup nor do i have friends at general.
i did everything i could about my looks to fix this, but it seems it didn’t enhance the quality of my life.

I will appreciate any advices on “friendmaxxing”(i deeply hate that we got brainrotted and have to use word maxxing) and advices on how to actually get in normies friendgroups and be an active part of society

 

[KpopmaxxingGuy]

I tried being myself and friendly with normies, most of them are alredy in some sort of friendgroup and a lot of them are emotional celibates, so they wont let anyone new in, they just ignore me, i do not consist in any male/female friendgroup nor do i have friends at general.
i did everything i could about my looks to fix this, but it seems it didn’t enhance the quality of my life.

I will appreciate any advices on “friendmaxxing”(i deeply hate that we got brainrotted and have to use word maxxing) and advices on how to actually get in normies friendgroups and be an active part of society

It doesn't matter if you are part of a normie group or not. The contrast between my social life and the number of IOIs disproves the bluepill/redpill. Only the blackpill makes sense.

I've NTmaxxed to the point where people call me extroverted. Still no signs of attraction from girls who actually look good. Where you fall in the looks hierarchy (and make no mistake, there is an objective hierarchy that doesn't allow for movement with the exception of terrible failos being fixed) determines your life.

 

[Deleted member 39838]

yup the older u get it gets damn near impossible to join a social circle. that’s why high schoolers and people at uni need to prioritize this heavily

 

[vermillioncorefan]

well you'll never "become nt" and be an "active participant" in the way u think if you're already non-NT
but just text ur old bros yk or go to ur family gatherings or talk to kids at school idk

 

[ShawarmaFilth]

well you'll never "become nt" and be an "active participant" in the way u think if you're already non-NT
but just text ur old bros yk or go to ur family gatherings or talk to kids at school idk

Kill yourself

 

[vermillioncorefan]

Kill yourself

hey cmon bud i thought we made up

 

[ShawarmaFilth]

hey cmon bud i thought we made up

Fine i love you gangster

 

[newperson]

the only way to really do it is by taking small steps.
say goodmorning to ur neighbors, have a small talk with that cashier, whatever, u get the idea. just do it consistency and u will notice u become more and more a social person.

if its hard to join an already formed friend group (and it can be hard) then u either create a new one, or go to places where ure forced to be in a new group -> hobby clubs / new job ect.

 

[nuisance]

if your in high school its not hard, you see the same people every day just talk to people and eventually, you will get friends. After high school its hard because you don't see the same people everyday. The only friends I made after high school are from work and church.

 

[Allornothing]

I tried being myself and friendly with normies, most of them are alredy in some sort of friendgroup and a lot of them are emotional celibates, so they wont let anyone new in, they just ignore me

This is a common looks problem. Many people, even outside of this forum, suffer from it. Making friends should be easy.

 

[scarrfxce]

Take it step by step. It's all about getting out of your comfort zone. Start with little actions, by getting just facing things your uncomfortable with already and gradually step it up. If you go about things the right way it will take a year or two to somewhat get to a good point where you're comfortable talking to new people.

I'll mention some good starting points:
Get over your fear of rejection (Go on ome.tv and talk to people, eventually you will become numb and social interaction will come to your more easily)
Learn to communicate your boundaries aka saying no
Be more empathetic (people want to feel understood)
Body language is extremely important, learn to communicate positively with your body. Practice your smile and how approachable you are. I would also like to include good posture in this.
Stop feeling shame. Quite literally the worst emotion someone can feel right next to guilt. Shame holds you back and isn't needed for developing as a person, so try to shut it out as much you can.
Develop your personality into something most normies would be into, i.e laidback, funny etc.

once you've achieved all this, going a step further would be learning how to split your attention between multiple people. That's how you make friends when hanging out in big friend groups or just in any situation where a lot of people are talking and just talking over each other. People want to be heard and attended to so this will tickle their pickle enough to acknowledge you more.

I did all of this when I was still sub 4 and it does work. It's just a matter of practice and now my life is so much better because I did all of this before I ascended.

 

[Shogun]

Not possible. You are supposed to learn Socialising during childhood and adolescense naturally, just like you learnt how to talk or to eat naturally. If you are 18+ and still dont know how to socialise then its over, that train is gone

 

[Shogun]

Making friends should be easy.

kys normie

 

[Allornothing]

kys normie

?

I’ve struggled with making friends in the past because of looks. Lost weight and it became 10x easier.

 

[Shogun]

?

I’ve struggled with making friends in the past because of looks. Lost weight and it became 10x easier.

Another proof that fatcel = volcel

 

[Allornothing]

Another proof that fatcel = volcel

Hardly fat. I was like 18%

 

[Shogun]

Hardly fat. I was like 18%

My statement remains unchanged

 

[Deleted member 66828]

Take it step by step. It's all about getting out of your comfort zone. Start with little actions, by getting just facing things your uncomfortable with already and gradually step it up. If you go about things the right way it will take a year or two to somewhat get to a good point where you're comfortable talking to new people.

I'll mention some good starting points:
Get over your fear of rejection (Go on ome.tv and talk to people, eventually you will become numb and social interaction will come to your more easily)
Learn to communicate your boundaries aka saying no
Be more empathetic (people want to feel understood)
Body language is extremely important, learn to communicate positively with your body. Practice your smile and how approachable you are. I would also like to include good posture in this.
Stop feeling shame. Quite literally the worst emotion someone can feel right next to guilt. Shame holds you back and isn't needed for developing as a person, so try to shut it out as much you can.
Develop your personality into something most normies would be into, i.e laidback, funny etc.

once you've achieved all this, going a step further would be learning how to split your attention between multiple people. That's how you make friends when hanging out in big friend groups or just in any situation where a lot of people are talking and just talking over each other. People want to be heard and attended to so this will tickle their pickle enough to acknowledge you more.

I did all of this when I was still sub 4 and it does work. It's just a matter of practice and now my life is so much better because I did all of this before I ascended.

@northern mogger lue