What should I have done in this situation?

[lilhorizontal32]

I was at a party talking to a girl that liked me and had a pretty big crush on me (it was pretty obvious by that point). I wasn't making great conversation though tbh because I was incredibly nervous, but she was doing her best to accommodate for my lack of NTness

however, the girl that I was talking to was quite attractive and sooner or later more and more guys would try to join our conversation, and stand either next to me, her, or in between us and hope to join

I let anyone and everyone join in because I didn't wanna seem like I was insecure and mate guarding but eventually a guy came along who NTmogged me and steered the conversation away from what I wanted, and our dynamic sorta got worse from that point on ngl

looking back I'm not too sure what the best option would've been: should I have just ignored him? let him in and keep the conversation going?

and mind you all of these guys are friendly acquaintances at best, and this one guy in particular definitely didn't want to be my friend as I saw him at another party and we said hi to each other, shook hands, and he excused himself quite quickly to go talk to someone else before we could have a proper conversation jfl

 

[Mongrelcel]

sounds like it was over before it started

 

[hebbewem]

You should asked her to go somewhere else

 

[Deleted member 15302]

retard alert

 

[Deleted member 15698]

There's no easy fix there. You just got your girl stolen basically, you lack the social skills to do anything about it. Not a simple fix just get better with girls and people

 

[Lawton88]

I was at a party talking to a girl that liked me and had a pretty big crush on me (it was pretty obvious by that point). I wasn't making great conversation though tbh because I was incredibly nervous, but she was doing her best to accommodate for my lack of NTness

however, the girl that I was talking to was quite attractive and sooner or later more and more guys would try to join our conversation, and stand either next to me, her, or in between us and hope to join

I let anyone and everyone join in because I didn't wanna seem like I was insecure and mate guarding but eventually a guy came along who NTmogged me and steered the conversation away from what I wanted, and our dynamic sorta got worse from that point on ngl

looking back I'm not too sure what the best option would've been: should I have just ignored him? let him in and keep the conversation going?

and mind you all of these guys are friendly acquaintances at best, and this one guy in particular definitely didn't want to be my friend as I saw him at another party and we said hi to each other, shook hands, and he excused himself quite quickly to go talk to someone else before we could have a proper conversation jfl

Guys pull that mess especially if they consider themselves better looking than the guy already talking to the girl. It's probably best to stay and keep talking to see if she is just going to focus on the other guy and if so you are probably screwed that night anyway. If the guy is the same looks level stand your ground and he may leave eventually.

 

[Anomaly]

I didn't wanna seem like I was insecure and mate guarding

High inhib detected

 

[lilhorizontal32]

sounds like it was over before it started

cope

 

[lilhorizontal32]

There's no easy fix there. You just got your girl stolen basically, you lack the social skills to do anything about it. Not a simple fix just get better with girls and people

I think this is the truth tbh

and I don't really lack social skills, just appear non-NT as I have quite bad social anxiety. I'm fine when I'm drunk however

 

[Deleted member 15698]

Mate guarding being insecure is a feminist gaslight concept. If you are successfully territorial of girls, they find that extremely attractive and get wet. If you let a random guy walk up to your girl and have a conversation in front of you, she will lose all attraction to you because it's a blatant display of your weakness and inferiority

 

[Unmoggablegingercel]

Another brutal NTpill. be nt or it’s over. Nt is worth 2-3 psl tbh

 

[lilhorizontal32]

Guys pull that mess especially if they consider themselves better looking than the guy already talking to the girl. It's probably best to stay and keep talking to see if she is just going to focus on the other guy and if so you are probably screwed that night anyway. If the guy is the same looks level stand your ground and he may leave eventually.

pretty sure it was me who let him into the conversation and it was because I started sensing a bit of tension and just gave in. will definitely stand my ground next time

 

[Deleted member 15698]

I think this is the truth tbh

and I don't really lack social skills, just appear non-NT as I have quite bad social anxiety. I'm fine when I'm drunk however

Social skills go deep. It's not just about not being awkward, and being agreeable so that people tolerate you. It's also about how to optimally deal with situations like this so that you scare off competition without looking bad. And about closing with dates

 

[lilhorizontal32]

Mate guarding being insecure is a feminist gaslight concept. If you are successfully territorial of girls, they find that extremely attractive and get wet. If you let a random guy walk up to your girl and have a conversation in front of you, she will lose all attraction to you because it's a blatant display of your weakness and inferiority

this is literally exactly the conclusion I came to. one of my good friends started acting a bit distant after I talked to his gf at a party, and even though I had no bad intentions I think he realised that I mogged him in a few ways and it best that I don't talk to her too much

tbh when I talk to my friends' gfs I just jestermaxx and talk up my friends, but at the same time it can accidentally create attraction, especially as she can trust me because I am her bf's friend after all

 

[lilhorizontal32]

Social skills go deep. It's not just about not being awkward, and being agreeable so that people tolerate you. It's also about how to optimally deal with situations like this so that you scare off competition without looking bad. And about closing with dates

tbh if I was drunk I would've seamlessly integrated him into the convesation and just NTmogged him so that he felt left out. its because I was sober I need to make the "correct" move

 

[lilhorizontal32]

Social skills go deep. It's not just about not being awkward, and being agreeable so that people tolerate you. It's also about how to optimally deal with situations like this so that you scare off competition without looking bad. And about closing with dates

but appreciate your advice though

 

[Deleted member 15698]

this is literally exactly the conclusion I came to. one of my good friends started acting a bit distant after I talked to his gf at a party, and even though I had no bad intentions I think he realised that I mogged him in a few ways and it best that I don't talk to her too much

tbh when I talk to my friends' gfs I just jestermaxx and talk up my friends, but at the same time it can accidentally create attraction, especially as she can trust me because I am her bf's friend after all

You seem like someone capable of learning from experience, which indicates you have a good chance of making it

Your friend was upset because you misunderstood the unspoken social rules. You never talk to a guy's girl, unless he initiates the conversation. You broke a serious social rule because you don't know about it

The guy who did that to you probably did know about it and was undermining you. The girl knew too, all girls know the social rules

 

[efes]

next time try to cut his conservation even if he trys to continue do it again and while doing that try to make humiliating smile and say things like "Ohh" "Reallly?" "Wow soo cool" ...but don't make it too blatant. dont be scared to see him as enemy

 

[lilhorizontal32]

Your friend was upset because you misunderstood the unspoken social rules. You never talk to a guy's girl, unless he initiates the conversation. You broke a serious social rule because you don't know about it

ngl didnt really know this one. but he did kind of introduce me to her.

iirc we got into an uber together (they were going somewhere different) and I was telling her a story that only me and her could relate to (bad move in hindsight, but was just trying to make myself acquainted with her as we met then) and wasn't flirting at all really, she was pretty interested and I could tell, but in the same way that good friends are interested in what each other has to say, and then my friend kinda cut it off and steered the conversation elsewhere

 

[Deleted member 15698]

ngl didnt really know this one. but he did kind of introduce me to her.

iirc we got into an uber together (they were going somewhere different) and I was telling her a story that only me and her could relate to (bad move in hindsight, but was just trying to make myself acquainted with her as we met then) and wasn't flirting at all really, she was pretty interested and I could tell, but in the same way that good friends are interested in what each other has to say, and then my friend kinda cut it off and steered the conversation elsewhere

Yeah you fucked up, I kinda cringed reading that. No big deal though now you know

 

[lilhorizontal32]

next time try to cut his conservation even if he trys to continue do it again and while doing that try to make humiliating smile and say things like "Ohh" "Reallly?" "Wow soo cool" ...but don't make it too blatant. dont be scared to see him as enemy

wouldn't that make me seem insecure and like I'm trying too hard?

 

[Deleted member 15698]

For reference, here's what I'd do in that situation

I'd cut the guy off mid sentence and say "What was your name?"... "It was good to meet you name ." Then gently move him aside, turn my shoulders back to my girl and continue the conversation

 

[Deleted member 15698]

next time try to cut his conservation even if he trys to continue do it again and while doing that try to make humiliating smile and say things like "Ohh" "Reallly?" "Wow soo cool" ...but don't make it too blatant. dont be scared to see him as enemy

This is passive aggressive and cringe, women will not like this

 

[AscendingHero]

I was at a party talking to a girl that liked me and had a pretty big crush on me (it was pretty obvious by that point). I wasn't making great conversation though tbh because I was incredibly nervous, but she was doing her best to accommodate for my lack of NTness

however, the girl that I was talking to was quite attractive and sooner or later more and more guys would try to join our conversation, and stand either next to me, her, or in between us and hope to join

I let anyone and everyone join in because I didn't wanna seem like I was insecure and mate guarding but eventually a guy came along who NTmogged me and steered the conversation away from what I wanted, and our dynamic sorta got worse from that point on ngl

looking back I'm not too sure what the best option would've been: should I have just ignored him? let him in and keep the conversation going?

and mind you all of these guys are friendly acquaintances at best, and this one guy in particular definitely didn't want to be my friend as I saw him at another party and we said hi to each other, shook hands, and he excused himself quite quickly to go talk to someone else before we could have a proper conversation jfl

sounds like it was over before it started

Mate guarding being insecure is a feminist gaslight concept. If you are successfully territorial of girls, they find that extremely attractive and get wet. If you let a random guy walk up to your girl and have a conversation in front of you, she will lose all attraction to you because it's a blatant display of your weakness and inferiority

There's no easy fix there. You just got your girl stolen basically, you lack the social skills to do anything about it. Not a simple fix just get better with girls and people

this but OP the most important thing to is continue to looksmaxx+size/physique maxx to attract and warn off other males. take things like cabergoline for more low inhib.

Fixing ur social skills is another big thing, wont happen overnight.

 

[AscendingHero]

Social skills go deep. It's not just about not being awkward, and being agreeable so that people tolerate you. It's also about how to optimally deal with situations like this so that you scare off competition without looking bad. And about closing with dates

^^^^Fucking this, another high iq user, welcome to the tribe brudda.

 

[Salieri]

liked me and had a pretty big crush on me (it was pretty obvious by that point).

just take ur meds pls