93symmetrymog
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Ascending doesn't really matter the way people think it does. You can improve your face, body, style, or whatever, but if you don't have the confidence to act on it, nothing really changes. You're still the same person mentally, just looking better. You're not suddenly going to approach people, speak more, or take risks just because you look better.
If you weren't good looking growing up, it hits hard. You build your identity around that, and it doesn't just go away. You learn to hold back, not try, and expect rejection before anything happens. So even if you look better now, your mind doesn't update. It still runs on that old version of you, where you feel below everyone else. You end up looking down on yourself without realizing it, and you get scared to actually take action.
Then people start looking at you differently, and it doesn't even feel good. It just feels off. There's a strange mismatch where they see something you don't believe is real. Instead of using that attention, you tend to freeze or avoid it because deep down, you still feel like the same person you were before.
If you're neurodivergent, it makes things even more complicated. The problem was never just about looks. It was always how you process things, read people, and handle social situations. That doesn’t magically fix itself just because your appearance changed. Now you might get more opportunities, but you don't know what to do with them or you hesitate to take them. Your life ends up feeling pretty much the same.
That’s why it doesn’t really matter on its own. Looks don’t carry your life for you. If your mindset and behavior stay the same, it’s just surface level change and nothing more. Sometimes, it even makes you more aware of the gap between how you look and how you feel, which only makes everything feel worse instead of better.
Id love to hear you guys views on this topic please rep
If you weren't good looking growing up, it hits hard. You build your identity around that, and it doesn't just go away. You learn to hold back, not try, and expect rejection before anything happens. So even if you look better now, your mind doesn't update. It still runs on that old version of you, where you feel below everyone else. You end up looking down on yourself without realizing it, and you get scared to actually take action.
Then people start looking at you differently, and it doesn't even feel good. It just feels off. There's a strange mismatch where they see something you don't believe is real. Instead of using that attention, you tend to freeze or avoid it because deep down, you still feel like the same person you were before.
If you're neurodivergent, it makes things even more complicated. The problem was never just about looks. It was always how you process things, read people, and handle social situations. That doesn’t magically fix itself just because your appearance changed. Now you might get more opportunities, but you don't know what to do with them or you hesitate to take them. Your life ends up feeling pretty much the same.
That’s why it doesn’t really matter on its own. Looks don’t carry your life for you. If your mindset and behavior stay the same, it’s just surface level change and nothing more. Sometimes, it even makes you more aware of the gap between how you look and how you feel, which only makes everything feel worse instead of better.
Id love to hear you guys views on this topic please rep
