Why do people act like divorce is such a traumatic event?

[Deleted member 2403]

You have people literally self harming and suicidal cause their parents divorce? Like it’s not like their relationship is yours, plus you can still see both of them. Why does them being together even matter in the long run? My parents have been divorced for ages and even when I was really young I genuinely didn’t care that much because I didn’t care too much about seeing them show love for each other as long as I could see them both. Why do people even adults act like it’s such a major traumatic event?

 

[AlexAP]

Why do people even adults act like it’s such a major traumatic event?

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[Deleted member 2403]

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What does my post count have to do with it? I’m only here cause I’m ugly. When my parents divorced I was surprised but I didn’t dwell on it let alone become suicidal and emotional like lots of people. I don’t know why people are so overreactive about lots of things.

 

[AlexAP]

What does my post count have to do with it? I’m only here cause I’m ugly. When my parents divorced I was surprised but I didn’t dwell on it let alone become suicidal and emotional like lots of people. I don’t know why people are so overreactive about lots of things.

It's bad for many kids because most liked ther parents and wanted them to stay together. I guess I was an exception, I would have liked it if my parents divorced, as they had an unhappy marriage and were fighting all the time.

 

[Deleted member 2403]

It's bad for many kids because most liked ther parents and wanted them to stay together. I guess I was an exception, I would have liked it if my parents divorced, as they had an unhappy marriage and were fighting all the time.

To each their own but I liked my parents and I still didn’t really feel sad when they divorced

I didn’t see much difference between when they were together and when they were individually raising me

 

[Deleted member 11053]

Depend how the divorce went

 

[Deleted member 2403]

Depend how the divorce went

I guess if they were fighting and causing the children mental anguish then maybe but wouldn’t the kids be happy their parents are finally not fighting anymore cause divorced?

 

[Doober]

Anytime parents separate it's bad for kids. I'm a big believer in defunding all police so these whores lose their synthetic rights

 

[SLA]

I agree in a sense - it’s ironic that people treat marriage like shit ( living together before marriage, premarital sex, not respecting the proper roles of husband and wife individually, failure to reproduce, etc,) yet get upset when it goes bad. Makes no sense tbh.

but people do get upset because marriage is the greatest “non forgiveness related” gift that we get from God, and when it goes bad, people should be upset.

what god has joined, let not man separate.

 

[Deleted member 11053]

I guess if they were fighting and causing the children mental anguish then maybe but wouldn’t the kids be happy their parents are finally not fighting anymore cause divorced?

Ye the the separation in itself is not really a big deal ig

 

[Deleted member 2403]

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I agree in a sense - it’s ironic that people treat marriage like shit ( living together before marriage, premarital sex, not respecting the proper roles of husband and wife individually, failure to reproduce, etc,) yet get upset when it goes bad. Makes no sense tbh.

but people do get upset because marriage is the greatest “non forgiveness related” gift that we get from God, and when it goes bad, people should be upset.

what god has joined, let not man separate.

Maybe I was too young to understand the gravity of marriage but still I didn’t care a whole lot about them not loving each other anymore, I understood that and I didn’t rlly care

 

[Deleted member 5189]

I guess if they were fighting and causing the children mental anguish then maybe but wouldn’t the kids be happy their parents are finally not fighting anymore cause divorced?

if they're agueing a ton right infront of u then yeah it will be bad but not traumatic.

normies just through around words like ptsd and anxiety like its nuttin

 

[Deleted member 2403]

if they're agueing a ton right infront of u then yeah it will be bad but not traumatic.

normies just through around words like ptsd and anxiety like its nuttin

ptsd and anxiety is just bad environment

 

[Deleted member 5189]

ptsd and anxiety is just bad environment

 

[john2]

If you're the man getting divorced then the only reason why you will consider it to be traumatic is because you will lose your hard-earned wealth to some whore, plus you will have the burden of providing for your kids who you most likely can't meet often.

If you're a child and your parents are getting divorced, then the only reason why you will go suicidal or depressed is because other people (like your school mates) will bully you for not having a normal life where you have a mother and father at home to care for you jfl.

 

[isis_Bleach]

You have people literally self harming and suicidal cause their parents divorce? Like it’s not like their relationship is yours, plus you can still see both of them. Why does them being together even matter in the long run? My parents have been divorced for ages and even when I was really young I genuinely didn’t care that much because I didn’t care too much about seeing them show love for each other as long as I could see them both. Why do people even adults act like it’s such a major traumatic event?

Their bluepilled delusion that their parents r perfect got ruined

 

[Deleted member 11414]

cause there weak

 

[fallacy]

I've seen several cases of a a divorcee female demonizing their ex-husband to their children and not allowing them to see them. And then they learn years later their mother was just lying.

 

[Butthurt Dweller]

Dr Dre has to pay 300k a month to his ex wife now

“ equality” this system is so fucked up, you could literally save a fuck ton more money not getting married and sleeping with the hottest 18 year old strippers/escorts of YOUR CHOOSING, which is much more exciting anyways. No point to get married, especially as a rich man. That shit ain’t fair...

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[mulattomaxxer]

People like the comfort of having both parents around. If the mother is crazy she may prevent the father from seeing his children again (family court supports this). All she has to do is say he is abusive to the kids, and its over for him.

Also what comes after isn't great either. One party may get depressed they got divorced. There is also the discomfort of moving if the house gets sold. You could also get shitty step parents. And if you have a rotation of step parents you are never going to build trust with them.

In conclusion I think the fallout after the divorce is worse then the divorce itself. You probably had a good fallout after the divorce. Other children may experience a terrible fallout after the divorce, making the divorce a traumatic expereince. Some children may also blame themselves for the divorce. Everyone is different.

My parents never got divorced, I don't think I would care right now, but if they got divorced when I was young I would have been devistated.

 

[Deleted member 13994]

because its traumatic for children

 

[RODEBLUR]

You have people literally self harming and suicidal cause their parents divorce? Like it’s not like their relationship is yours, plus you can still see both of them. Why does them being together even matter in the long run? My parents have been divorced for ages and even when I was really young I genuinely didn’t care that much because I didn’t care too much about seeing them show love for each other as long as I could see them both. Why do people even adults act like it’s such a major traumatic event?

tbh true

i didn't even know my parents got divorced when they did lmfao i found out years later

 

[Deleted member 4430]

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this was unexpected