Magical Apple
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This is why the why standards for men are so high and birth rates are so damn low. In a nuclear family, the pressures of having children is enormous. You need to make a ridiculous amount of money and at least one parent (usually the woman) has to stay home and live a very isolated life to take care of children. This is one reason modern women are so selective and expect so much from men. The costs of raising kids in the modern world are ridiculous and there is no one to help. If a woman has a family with a man he damn well needs to be able to provide. This basically confines the group of men elligible for marriage to very motivated, capable and high performing men. The average dude simply is not good enough to cut it.
The other problem is a shift to "love" as oppose to family being the reason for marriage. Now people marry for love as oppose to practicality. This means stuff like appearance is now extremely important. Romantic love is very superficial and thus people now marry for very superficial reasons. These types of marriages are also very tenuous and stressful. If one relationship goes bad, everything suffers. Being a housewife in the modern world is also very lonely and shitty. Basically no woman wants to be stuck alone in a house raising some bad behaved kids who are bored out of their minds.
This is the real cause behind extreme female hypergamy. In asia, the financial pressures are just too much for most men and they cannot marry. In the west, the same thing has happened but the idea of romance has made looks a huge factor as well. The result is declining birth rates and very unequal and unhappy societies.
The other problem is a shift to "love" as oppose to family being the reason for marriage. Now people marry for love as oppose to practicality. This means stuff like appearance is now extremely important. Romantic love is very superficial and thus people now marry for very superficial reasons. These types of marriages are also very tenuous and stressful. If one relationship goes bad, everything suffers. Being a housewife in the modern world is also very lonely and shitty. Basically no woman wants to be stuck alone in a house raising some bad behaved kids who are bored out of their minds.
This is the real cause behind extreme female hypergamy. In asia, the financial pressures are just too much for most men and they cannot marry. In the west, the same thing has happened but the idea of romance has made looks a huge factor as well. The result is declining birth rates and very unequal and unhappy societies.