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Studies have shown that women tend to get over relationships faster initially, but then regret or get reminiscent later on, wheras men tend to struggle initally with the breakup, but once they are over it, they tend to be completely over it and not think about it as much later on.
I think its linked to the fact that women both do and dont get over relationships because they use defensive masking tactics like being intentionally selective with bad memories and painting their ex as a villain. However eventually their brain feels safe enough to not get defensive, and thats when the real regret comes in. Thats why it hits them harder later. Because they cope with their emotions and repress them until eventually the truth comes out.
Thats exactly what happened with my ex too. Initially i was the heartbroken one, and then i got over it and she was the one suddenly regretting things and wanting to restart, only after i forgot about her.
I think its linked to the fact that women both do and dont get over relationships because they use defensive masking tactics like being intentionally selective with bad memories and painting their ex as a villain. However eventually their brain feels safe enough to not get defensive, and thats when the real regret comes in. Thats why it hits them harder later. Because they cope with their emotions and repress them until eventually the truth comes out.
Thats exactly what happened with my ex too. Initially i was the heartbroken one, and then i got over it and she was the one suddenly regretting things and wanting to restart, only after i forgot about her.
