you really have to be careful with friends sometimes

[paulus]

bc especially during puberty they try to mog you and undermine your selfesteem from time to time

might even happen subconscious and in subbtle ways but it happens

im talking about comments etc

eg my „friends“ where the reason i felt for the bulking meme and always thought i wasnt „big“ enough for my height even when i was already a fatcel

 

[Veganist]

Yes man I know man thats exactly why I have no friends man

 

[paulus]

Yes man I know man thats exactly why I have no friends man

that is avoidant behavior and selfcucking tbh

friends are crucial for proper development and a few jokes and comments under buddies are normal and shouldnt bother you - but its important to mindfullnessmax and always to reflect if this comment are legit and how they influence you and your behavior

if the comments get too much and disrespectful and approaching bully territory though its important to avoid this people. they are false friends. however dont become a loner. REPLACE this people - meaning you have to built a new social circle while still being in the old group. once the new social corcle is stable leave the old group.


btw imho its better to be in a high position in a low social status group then being low status member in a high status group of you know what i mean

unfortunately during highschool i was too arrogant (and was also a bit in self denial about my social position) to hang out with low social people and was mostly with people who looked better then me/had a higher status then me...which is a death sentence for your self esteem when you are a bit neurotic from beginn with

 

[blackcat]

bc especially during puberty they try to mog you and undermine your selfesteem from time to time

might even happen subconscious and in subbtle ways but it happens

im talking about comments etc

eg my „friends“ where the reason i felt for the bulking meme and always thought i wasnt „big“ enough for my height even when i was already a fatcel

lol, guy friends do it all the time. soft roasting, and if you can't answer for yourself they'll continue and you'll be someone who just gets roasted all the time

that is avoidant behavior and selfcucking tbh

friends are crucial for proper development and a few jokes and comments under buddies are normal and shouldnt bother you - but its important to mindfullnessmax and always to reflect if this comment are legit and how they influence you and your behavior

if the comments get too much and disrespectful and approaching bully territory though its important to avoid this people. they are false friends. however dont become a loner. REPLACE this people - meaning you have to built a new social circle while still being in the old group. once the new social corcle is stable leave the old group.

finally someone who values social interaction on this site lmfao

 

[paulus]

@blackcat socialising is so important for mental and eventually physical health...common sense in medicin and psychology, proven by studies

we know loneliness is a bigger risk faktor than smoking or obesity to die early

we know from expirements with ballgames that if you get excluded from the group interaction the same regions of your brain get activated that get activated if you feel physical pain and that your cortisol lvl skyrockets

we know a legit social circle is more important for personal happiness than money and your job status

...


however socialising is and can be exhausting


there is always a bit competition and mogging going on. this is normal to a certain degree and not bullying (even though you always have to watch out for this - if you get disrespected too much its time to replace your current social circle).
which means dont be a special snowflake. if you are neurotic or narcissistic, with a vulnerable ego its important to be aware of that. selfreflection. because then you can adapt your behavior and dont let random comments impact you.

 

[IntolerantSocialist]

Puberty was years ago.

JFL @ giving a shit about other peoples' opinions.

 

[Deleted member 281]

@blackcat socialising is so important for mental and eventually physical health...common sense in medicin and psychology, proven by studies

we know loneliness is a bigger risk faktor than smoking or obesity to die early

we know from expirements with ballgames that if you get excluded from the group interaction the same regions of your brain get activated that get activated if you feel physical pain and that your cortisol lvl skyrockets

we know a legit social circle is more important for personal happiness than money and your job status

...


however socialising is and can be exhausting


there is always a bit competition and mogging going on. this is normal to a certain degree and not bullying (even though you always have to watch out for this - if you get disrespected too much its time to replace your current social circle).
which means dont be a special snowflake. if you are neurotic or narcissistic, with a vulnerable ego its important to be aware of that. selfreflection. because then you can adapt your behavior and dont let random comments impact you.

What are your thoughts on missing out on teen love? Can this leave you fucked up for the rest of your life?

 

[Tony]

What are your thoughts on missing out on teen love? Can this leave you fucked up for the rest of your life?

why dont u ask our lord

 

[bain]

yeah lower status males will try to cuck you all the time
its ok if its equal status banter but if someone is actually trying to change power dynamics you should be really careful bcs its easy to become "that guy" that ppl shit on all the time
hard to deal with sometimes
for example i have finally found the hypernt, fat and ugly manlet of my life in my uni classes. one of the most estrogenized cucks you will every meet, the literal embodiment of the soyboy meme, will do anything for a laugh, everything he does, he does it for a laugh, pathetic (and everyone knows it) but good to have around sometimes. starts fun, i have good convo with him we laugh around a bit, atm he's trying to creep into my group. constantly trying to neg everyone around me, making group assignements in class and you make a suggestion? "huh bain is that true huh? hahaha is that true? (jfl at this guy)", like wtf do you want here man. its hard to deflect straight up bcs hes such a pathetic joker, reacting strongly to this tiny neg would imply i feel threatened by him, which would be sad and a display of low confidence. not reacting strongly means he will keep doing it and it makes you look weak. previously i would have chosen to not do anything, now i straight up tell him to fuck off, just lower tone and ask "wtf are you crying about bitch". neither of options is perfect, in my scenario i can get away with it because no one takes this guy srsly and hes not in my group yet. with actual friends the line between banter and neg is tiny af though, you cant react this strongly with guys youre chill with. its hard af, wonder how chad deals with it tbh.

 

[Deleted member 281]

why dont u ask our lord

Our lord has abandoned us, he is now a Chad.

 

[Tony]

Our lord has abandoned us, he is now a Chad.

he is militarycel now

 

[Deleted member 281]

he is militarycel now

Cope. He is a Chad.

 

[Tony]

Cope. He is a Chad.

He is rly charismatic I miss his sperg tho

 

[Deleted member 281]

He is rly charismatic I miss his sperg tho

Miss him too, tbh, ngl. We are all lost without his guidance.

 

[IntolerantSocialist]

being "the guy everyone shat on" was me years ago.

now idgaf. I treat almost everyone with contempt.

 

[Deleted member 470]

btw imho its better to be in a high position in a low social status group then being low status member in a high status group of you know what i mean

200 iq

 

[IceCutter]

it was the other way round for me

I always hated insecure faggots within social circle that noticeably disliked me because I was bigger, fitter and/or better looking

 

[IntolerantSocialist]

it was the other way round for me

I always hated insecure faggots within social circle that noticeably disliked me because I was bigger, fitter and/or better looking

post pics naked or it didn't happen. scratch that, you entire family, nude.