Your parents are responsible for 90% of your problems

[LoLoyi]

The way your parents treating you, habits that they had and habits that they learned you, every bad word, every time you felt left out with them, every time you thought that you had to prove yourself and your worth to them. This is only a quarter of the things they did that shape the person you are today. Did you ever felt like your parents actualy dont like you? Are you sure they even wanted you? They blame YOU for being CREATION OF THEIR ACTIONS.

 

[LoLoyi]

The way your parents treating you, habits that they had and habits that they learned you, every bad word, every time you felt left out with them, every time you thought that you had to prove yourself and your worth to them. This is only a quarter of the things they did that shape the person you are today. Did you ever felt like your parents actualy dont like you? Are you sure they even wanted you? They blame YOU for being CREATION OF THEIR ACTIONS.

CHRIST_764 didnt saw your post till now, nice that we share almost the same opinion

 

[Societal Reject]

If they shit you out they should be responsible for you until death

 

[LoLoyi]

If they shit you out they should be responsible for you until death

maybe they shouldve been ready for being a parent then shit me out

 

[Assymetry]

Not in my case, my parents are supportive of me and often far too lenient even. Really a blessing.

 

[Fikaacek]

Blaming mental health issues on parents is cope imo, I grew up with my parents divorced and never had any problems because of it. Sure you learn bad habits from your parents, which are easily fixable if you're a little self aware.

 

[Whatever]

Legit and it’s not just what they did, it’s what they didn’t do that can be even more damaging. My mom moved us around a lot and never had people over so I had no friends until college. My dad never taught me shit, I didn’t learn some of the most basic things about life until I was workceling and it was all the hard way.

Blaming all your problems on your looks or personality is overly individualizing the problem. Even for the ugliest and stupidest kids and teenagers certain things are supposed to happen and if they don’t, someone at some point was fucking off and let them down.

 

[LoLoyi]

Not in my case, my parents are supportive of me and often far too lenient even. Really a blessing.

yea bro youre blessed fr, i just find it hard to accept that the only people that should be there for you are not

 

[Assymetry]

yea bro youre blessed fr, i just find it hard to accept that the only people that should be there for you are not

There is something wrong with me, I have a difficult time accepting help from others.

 

[Tenres]

So true kang

 

[PrinceLuenLeoncur]

The way your parents treating you, habits that they had and habits that they learned you, every bad word, every time you felt left out with them, every time you thought that you had to prove yourself and your worth to them. This is only a quarter of the things they did that shape the person you are today. Did you ever felt like your parents actualy dont like you? Are you sure they even wanted you? They blame YOU for being CREATION OF THEIR ACTIONS.

Nah my mums awesome.

You niggas just has shit parents don’t lump that on the entire world some of us have great parents. Well my dad’s shit but that’s due to his parents so he has that in common with you terrible parents which led him to be shit. My mums ones were trash as well tbh but she came out great

Maybe Financally I’m cooked because I only had one parent bringing in the bacon so to speak but that’s it

 

[LoLoyi]

There is something wrong with me, I have a difficult time accepting help from others.

wdym?

 

[Outlander]

Lot of things were definitely my parents' fault but I still appreciated the good things they did. Very glad I did my best to get along and enjoy time together before one of them passed away. Unless your parents are absolute shit and don't do anything nice, you should probably try to at least be on good terms or you'll regret it when they die.

 

[Van]

The way your parents treating you, habits that they had and habits that they learned you, every bad word, every time you felt left out with them, every time you thought that you had to prove yourself and your worth to them. This is only a quarter of the things they did that shape the person you are today. Did you ever felt like your parents actualy dont like you? Are you sure they even wanted you? They blame YOU for being CREATION OF THEIR ACTIONS.

no habits for my subhuman face buddy

 

[LoLoyi]

Nah my mums awesome.

You niggas just has shit parents don’t lump that on the entire world some of us have great parents

ofc im not saying it to every single person on the whole forum, im saying it to people that can relate

 

[Assymetry]

wdym?

People offer to help me, then I tell them thanks, but no.

 

[Whatever]

Blaming mental health issues on parents is cope imo, I grew up with my parents divorced and never had any problems because of it. Sure you learn bad habits from your parents, which are easily fixable if you're a little self aware.

This is much easier said than done. Because in some cases you can’t be fully aware of how bad and it what ways your parents fucked up until you yourself are in the adult world and have better examples to compare them to.

 

[PrinceLuenLeoncur]

ofc im not saying it to every single person on the whole forum, im saying it to people that can relate

I updated my comment and made it make more sense you’ll like what I replaced it with

 

[Van]

ofc im not saying it to every single person on the whole forum, im saying it to people that can relate

What are you even talking about? You got mad at your parents for grounding you, maybe instead of ranting on incel forum go do your homework, how about that

 

[LoLoyi]

This is much easier said than done. Because in some cases you can’t be fully aware of how bad and it what ways your parents fucked up until you yourself are in the adult world and have better examples to compare them to.

ofcourse, and once you realise this you cant think of them the same

 

[LoLoyi]

Nah my mums awesome.

You niggas just has shit parents don’t lump that on the entire world some of us have great parents. Well my dad’s shit but that’s due to his parents so he has that in common with you terrible parents which led him to be shit. My mums ones were trash as well tbh but she came out great

Maybe Financally I’m cooked because I only had one parent bringing in the bacon so to speak but that’s it

i wanted to make that point to, they themselves (if theyre shit to you) had bad parents, but they shouldve solve their problems before they had you so that the cycle stops

 

[PrinceLuenLeoncur]

i wanted to make that point to, they themselves (if theyre shit to you) had bad parents, but they shouldve solve their problems before they had you so that the cycle stops

Some people are low IQ and selfish and never bothered to think off such things

Our generation are the first to have truly higher empathetic thought over this. My dad is poor and he believes it’s comelylrt fine to breed th fucking planet as a deadbeat because he can and he’s proud of doing that…. Makes my blood boil that this cunt has kids he can’t even look after basically nerfing our fuckin lives and he sees 0 issue with it

I’m so shocked I am lost for words as to how tone death it all is it makes me rage ngl. These are the type of people we are dealing with here tbh generation and yes my dads a Boomer he had me when he was old after being a Tyrone and slaying when he was younger

 

[LoLoyi]

What are you even talking about? You got mad at your parents for grounding you, maybe instead of ranting on incel forum go do your homework, how about that

well maybe i didnt get grounded and maybe if you deep the thread you would get what im talking about

 

[Outlander]

ofc im not saying it to every single person on the whole forum, im saying it to people that can relate

I can actually relate to this a lot since many things my parents did were quite shitty to me. But there was also a lot of good times too so you kinda gotta weigh the good and the bad. If the good outweighs the bad then your life is still better with them than without them, and you shouldn't be a douche to them unprovoked.

There was plenty of times I had heated arguments with them, and I had to be harsh because they were being absolutely ridiculous and nasty first. But when they were being nice to me, I didn't just go hating on them for no reason either of course. The vast majority here complaining about parents might even have had significantly more helpful parents than I did but they take it for granted till they get a rude awakening of what life is like without one or both of them

My main philosophy is it's ok to be mad at them for having you at too old of an age which caused you life problems of various forms, and for anything else that's directly a result of their stupid actions. But you also should appreciate the good things they do for you as long as they treat you mostly well. When I look back at the memory of the parent I lost, I remember them in a mostly positive light because despite the significant character flaws and shortcomings, they did more good than bad, and we had a lot of fun memories together and did fun stuff a lot of parents would be too boring to do.

 

[LoLoyi]

Some people are low IQ and selfish and never bothered to think off such things

Our generation are the first to have truly higher empathetic thought over this. My dad is poor and he believes it’s comelylrt fine to breed th fucking planet as a deadbeat because he can and he’s proud of doing that…. Makes my blood boil that this cunt has kids he can’t even look after basically nerfing our fuckin lives and he sees 0 issue with it

I’m so shocked I am lost for words as to how tone death it all is it makes me rage ngl. These are the type of people we are dealing with here tbh generation and yes my dads a Boomer he had me when he was old after being a Tyrone and slaying when he was younger

my parents had me in their 40s, i can say that i see that my dad is not happy about his life and angry about it, but that doesnt mean he should be spitting it out on me
and i also think that our gen is the first one to think about this because its obvious that their in this cycle of "transfering" their problems onto new generations

 

[Fikaacek]

This is much easier said than done. Because in some cases you can’t be fully aware of how bad and it what ways your parents fucked up until you yourself are in the adult world and have better examples to compare them to.

Fair enough, but blaming it all on them seems a little unfair and it's not going to get you anywhere. Maybe work with them and a psychologist to try to solve the issues you find out you have later on in life, that's exactly what my trans-brother did with my mum. I'm not gonna go into detail, but my mother fucked up quite a bit with my older brother a few years back, but they're working on it now. It might be because no huge issue has ever occurred between me and my parents that I believe I'm immune to any mental problems stemming from my parents. Either way I believe most mental health problems are solvable and we are all living for the first time so I don't think it's right to blame your parents.

 

[LoLoyi]

I can actually relate to this a lot since many things my parents did were quite shitty to me. But there was also a lot of good times too so you kinda gotta weigh the good and the bad. If the good outweighs the bad then your life is still better with them than without them, and you shouldn't be a douche to them unprovoked.

There was plenty of times I had heated arguments with them, and I had to be harsh because they were being absolutely ridiculous and nasty first. But when they were being nice to me, I didn't just go hating on them for no reason either of course. The vast majority here complaining about parents might even have had significantly more helpful parents than I did but they take it for granted till they get a rude awakening of what life is like without one or both of them

My main philosophy is it's ok to be mad at them for having you at too old of an age which caused you life problems of various forms, and for anything else that's directly a result of their stupid actions. But you also should appreciate the good things they do for you as long as they treat you mostly well. When I look back at the memory of the parent I lost, I remember them in a mostly positive light because despite the significant character flaws and shortcomings, they did more good than bad, and we had a lot of fun memories together and did fun stuff a lot of parents would be too boring to do.

damn bro deep, youre right and i agree with you, you can see that youre very smart, my look at this topic is that if you need to often stress about it and overthink if they love you or not, they arent a good parent (IF ITS OBVIOUS THAT THEYRE NOT TRYING TO BE ONE)

 

[LoLoyi]

Fair enough, but blaming it all on them seems a little unfair and it's not going to get you anywhere. Maybe work with them and a psychologist to try to solve the issues you find out you have later on in life, that's exactly what my trans-brother did with my mum. I'm not gonna go into detail, but my mother fucked up quite a bit with my older brother a few years back, but they're working on it now. It might be because no huge issue has ever occurred between me and my parents that I believe I'm immune to any mental problems stemming from my parents. Either way I believe most mental health problems are solvable and we are all living for the first time so I don't think it's right to blame your parents.

Yea, this topic really is deep and i think that you can talk with someone 12 hours and dont come to a conclusion

 

[Fikaacek]

Yea, this topic really is deep and i think that you can talk with someone 12 hours and dont come to a conclusion

It is yeah, spurs are shit btw

 

[Acquiescence]

Agreed but it’s not because of anything in particular that they did while I was growing up, it was because they decided to play the genetic recombination lottery and I lost big time with a winning combo of subpar looks, height, low IQ and severe ocd and tourettes

The absolute best possible thing a parenting couple can do to prime their children for success is to have offspring that is, from the moment of conception, genetically primed for robust physical and mental health and aesthetics. The parenting afterwards is just details so long as it’s not abject poverty or abuse

 

[LoLoyi]

It is yeah, spurs are shit btw

im not gonna say which team i support bc im gonna get flamed even more

 

[Fikaacek]

im not gonna say which team i support bc im gonna get flamed even more

Please tell me you're a fellow gooner

 

[lottacoping]

true, they fed me goyslop, didnt care to encourage any healthy habits, forced me inside all day, looked down upon on me all my life and now all of a sudden my younger sister eats a primal diet with no carbs and they focus on her health

 

[metxn]

The way your parents treating you, habits that they had and habits that they learned you, every bad word, every time you felt left out with them, every time you thought that you had to prove yourself and your worth to them. This is only a quarter of the things they did that shape the person you are today. Did you ever felt like your parents actualy dont like you? Are you sure they even wanted you? They blame YOU for being CREATION OF THEIR ACTIONS.

Extremly true. When I was like 9 I always wanted to figh for fun and relieve with my dad and he most of the time just call me out for it and I remember how later on I felt that something is wrong with me for being too aggresive and that its not normal.
But all the fuckers that I went to school with fought with their dads and whatever regulary and were already aggresive af and in that time were growing up stronger then me.

 

[LoLoyi]

Please tell me you're a fellow gooner

nah bro, GGMU

 

[Outlander]

damn bro deep, youre right and i agree with you, you can see that youre very smart, my look at this topic is that if you need to often stress about it and overthink if they love you or not, they arent a good parent (IF ITS OBVIOUS THAT THEYRE NOT TRYING TO BE ONE)

Yeah I agree with that. My parents would at times be complete assholes and we'd argue but the good times outweighed the bad by a lot. So if I was to think about it anytime I was in a neutral mindset (not in the middle of an argument or something) it's easy to decide that overall they were good parents. Doesn't take much thought to remember all the fun times and good moments with the one who died, and I view them in a positive light instead of that indecisive grey area someone who had shittier parents probably would.

When I was in my early teens my parents bought an off road vehicle to go cruising around in the countryside with and we drove all over random roads in remote areas with no cell service we never went on before so it was some fun adventures. Still have the vehicle and every time I take it for a drive it brings back the memories. That's just one of the many good memories but you get my point. The stuff like this far outweighs the times they were nastier.

 

[Fikaacek]

nah bro, GGMU

oh, enjoy your 40 games in the season dw there's always a next year, thats what weve been told the last 3..

 

[EvilSatanArseRapist]

The way your parents treating you, habits that they had and habits that they learned you, every bad word, every time you felt left out with them, every time you thought that you had to prove yourself and your worth to them. This is only a quarter of the things they did that shape the person you are today. Did you ever felt like your parents actualy dont like you? Are you sure they even wanted you? They blame YOU for being CREATION OF THEIR ACTIONS.

Idk if this is a truke or not.
I think i do agree to some extent.

 

[EvilSatanArseRapist]

Idk if this is a truke or not.
I think i do agree to some extent.

Early childhood and exogenous factors are law

 

[LoLoyi]

Yeah I agree with that. My parents would at times be complete assholes and we'd argue but the good times outweighed the bad by a lot. So if I was to think about it anytime I was in a neutral mindset (not in the middle of an argument or something) it's easy to decide that overall they were good parents. Doesn't take much thought to remember all the fun times and good moments with the one who died, and I view them in a positive light instead of that indecisive grey area someone who had shittier parents probably would.

When I was in my early teens my parents bought an off road vehicle to go cruising around in the countryside with and we drove all over random roads in remote areas with no cell service we never went on before so it was some fun adventures. Still have the vehicle and every time I take it for a drive it brings back the memories. That's just one of the many good memories but you get my point. The stuff like this far outweighs the times they were nastier.

thats sounds like lot of fun, and when i think about it now, when im in a neutral mindset i still cant appreciate the good things bc of how they treated me most of the time

 

[LoLoyi]

Early childhood and exogenous factors are law

i didnt think of the looks part in this thread, its suppose to mean only how their actions impact your mood, behavior, social ability and other non physical aspects

 

[Outlander]

thats sounds like lot of fun, and when i think about it now, when im in a neutral mindset i still cant appreciate the good things bc of how they treated me most of the time

Brutal. You'd know your personal situation better than me and if they're decent people or not but you don't wanna end up seeing a parent dead and then regretting not spending more time with them, not being nicer, etc if they were decent.

When my one parent died it was heartbreaking and tore me apart inside but I had zero regrets and things didn't end on bad terms. I made the most of what time I had with them and was reasonably nice, so there wasn't anything to regret afterwards. Too many people don't even really entertain that it's an actual possibility for their family to die at any time, and act like there's always tomorrow. But sometimes tomorrow never comes...

 

[EvilSatanArseRapist]

i didnt think of the looks part in this thread, its suppose to mean only how their actions impact your mood, behavior, social ability and other non physical aspects

I know.
I wasn't referring to looks.

 

[Lefty Rankin]

The way your parents treating you, habits that they had and habits that they learned you, every bad word, every time you felt left out with them, every time you thought that you had to prove yourself and your worth to them. This is only a quarter of the things they did that shape the person you are today. Did you ever felt like your parents actualy dont like you? Are you sure they even wanted you? They blame YOU for being CREATION OF THEIR ACTIONS.

How stupid. Adversity will either make it break you. I'm damn glad I had an evil, selfish, unloving manipulative mother. Otherwise I might have turned into a cuck like my father and married someone just like her.

 

[LoLoyi]

Brutal. You'd know your personal situation better than me and if they're decent people or not but you don't wanna end up seeing a parent dead and then regretting not spending more time with them, not being nicer, etc if they were decent.

When my one parent died it was heartbreaking and tore me apart inside but I had zero regrets and things didn't end on bad terms. I made the most of what time I had with them and was reasonably nice, so there wasn't anything to regret afterwards. Too many people don't even really entertain that it's an actual possibility for their family to die at any time, and act like there's always tomorrow. But sometimes tomorrow never comes...

high iq bro
I would absolutely love to spend time with them, but i just cant bc whenever i try to i feel that they dont want to and that they have some sort of hatred towards me, and that feeling isnt me being delusional

 

[LoLoyi]

I know.
I wasn't referring to looks.

i missread it, sorry

 

[diditeverbegin]

Blaming mental health issues on parents is cope imo, I grew up with my parents divorced and never had any problems because of it. Sure you learn bad habits from your parents, which are easily fixable if you're a little self aware.

It’s not cope when mental health issues are giga genetic

 

[Outlander]

high iq bro
I would absolutely love to spend time with them, but i just cant bc whenever i try to i feel that they dont want to and that they have some sort of hatred towards me, and that feeling isnt me being delusional

Yeah I understand that. Some parents just aren't the friendliest in general and expect too much from their child. Most of the time other than arguments you wouldn't feel on edge around my parents. However with people like a few of my aunts and uncles, you do get that feeling of unrest being around them and can tell they don't like you, and I never spent time with ones like those unless I had to.

 

[LoLoyi]

oh, enjoy your 40 games in the season dw there's always a next year, thats what weve been told the last 3..

skill issue

 

[LoLoyi]

Yeah I understand that. Some parents just aren't the friendliest in general and expect too much from their child. Most of the time other than arguments you wouldn't feel on edge around my parents. However with people like a few of my aunts and uncles, you do get that feeling of unrest being around them and can tell they don't like you, and I never spent time with ones like those unless I had to.

im glad that were almost on the same page