Your parents are responsible for 90% of your problems

[Whatever]

Fair enough, but blaming it all on them seems a little unfair and it's not going to get you anywhere. Maybe work with them and a psychologist to try to solve the issues you find out you have later on in life, that's exactly what my trans-brother did with my mum. I'm not gonna go into detail, but my mother fucked up quite a bit with my older brother a few years back, but they're working on it now. It might be because no huge issue has ever occurred between me and my parents that I believe I'm immune to any mental problems stemming from my parents. Either way I believe most mental health problems are solvable and we are all living for the first time so I don't think it's right to blame your parents.

I’ve found that “mental health” often gets used as this vague catch all term when more concrete and specific issues should be addressed instead. What my parents did and didn’t do has left me with complexes, neuroses, and also voids. Of course I’ve worked on these but the solutions have been real world experiences, because actually the more aware or high IQ you are, the less can be done on only the mental level.

And what this has done to the relationship with my mom is basically force me to leave her behind. Because now she won’t move on with me. Me and my siblings have wanted for years for her to get help for her untreated PTSD, suicide attempts and threats, self induced poverty and social isolation, I’ve offered to pay for it multiple times, it’s just another thing she won’t do.

So people get to this point where they’re now the adult in the room, the parent-child dynamic collapses and new roles get assigned. If the parent doesn’t get with that then the relationship can’t really continue. Your case sounds more workable than mine or other people’s but please don’t accuse others of coping or whatever when you don’t understand what they have to deal with.

 

[Fikaacek]

I’ve found that “mental health” often gets used as this vague catch all term when more concrete and specific issues should be addressed instead. What my parents did and didn’t do has left me with complexes, neuroses, and also voids. Of course I’ve worked on these but the solutions have been real world experiences, because actually the more aware or high IQ you are, the less can be done on only the mental level.

And what this has done to the relationship with my mom is basically force me to leave her behind. Because now she won’t move on with me. Me and my siblings have wanted for years for her to get help for her untreated PTSD, suicide attempts and threats, self induced poverty and social isolation, I’ve offered to pay for it multiple times, it’s just another thing she won’t do.

So people get to this point where they’re now the adult in the room, the parent-child dynamic collapses and new roles get assigned. If the parent doesn’t get with that then the relationship can’t really continue. Your case sounds more workable than mine or other people’s but please don’t accuse others of coping or whatever when you don’t understand what they have to deal with.

Yeah no you're right I apologize for that, I wasn’t trying to accuse anyone of coping in a dismissive way. I'd say that from the outside, it’s very easy for me to underestimate what people are dealing with and I create shallow explanations.

What you describe with your mom sounds like a situation where your responsibility and roles flipped long ago and at some point, you need to protect yourself and continue your own life, the same way as you've done. It must've been very hard for you and I realize that it could have created many mental problems that she's responsible for.

I've just never had such an experience and I have to thank my parents for that; however, I'm clearly unaware of how easily parents' actions can scar their children, that's why I used the term cope because I didn't view it as that big of a deal. Sorry about that, you've changed my mind

 

[McSkziofren]

Actually no

 

[McSkziofren]

however, I'm clearly unaware of how easily parents' actions can scar their children, that's why I us

Molly scarred me not my parents

 

[Fikaacek]

nah bro, GGMU

thanks for beating city

 

[Amnesia]

90? No, 100 percent, all of the pain and negative emotions and struggles you go through is because you were created against your consent by them. Also your death and suffering is their fault too. Having children is one of the most immoral things you can do

 

[trump]

truke

 

[theladarer2000]

This is cope. The only thing parents are responsible for is genetics and your nutrition below the age of 11.

The way your parents treating you, habits that they had and habits that they learned you, every bad word, every time you felt left out with them, every time you thought that you had to prove yourself and your worth to them. This is only a quarter of the things they did that shape the person you are today. Did you ever felt like your parents actualy dont like you? Are you sure they even wanted you? They blame YOU for being CREATION OF THEIR ACTIONS.

 

[Luquier]

The way your parents treating you, habits that they had and habits that they learned you, every bad word, every time you felt left out with them, every time you thought that you had to prove yourself and your worth to them. This is only a quarter of the things they did that shape the person you are today. Did you ever felt like your parents actualy dont like you? Are you sure they even wanted you? They blame YOU for being CREATION OF THEIR ACTIONS.

Only if they prevent you from going out. If they let you have freedom to figure things out and learn for yourself then it’s your responsibility to succeed in life

Controlling + incompetent parents is a lethal combo tho

 

[LoLoyi]

thanks for beating city

 

[LoLoyi]

This is cope. The only thing parents are responsible for is genetics and your nutrition below the age of 11.

then you obv dont have this problem lol

 

[theladarer2000]

then you obv dont have this problem lol

If it’s not applicable to everyone then why is your post a statement regarding everyone?

 

[kababcel]

Some people are low IQ and selfish and never bothered to think off such things

Our generation are the first to have truly higher empathetic thought over this. My dad is poor and he believes it’s comelylrt fine to breed th fucking planet as a deadbeat because he can and he’s proud of doing that…. Makes my blood boil that this cunt has kids he can’t even look after basically nerfing our fuckin lives and he sees 0 issue with it

I’m so shocked I am lost for words as to how tone death it all is it makes me rage ngl. These are the type of people we are dealing with here tbh generation and yes my dads a Boomer he had me when he was old after being a Tyrone and slaying when he was younger

Your dad brought a fucking dogshit nigger like you, my blood would boil too