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I am writing this thread because i feel it is missing in this forum, at least i haven´t come across something similar.
I just watched a youtube video about a neurosurgeon giving an interview about his job. As the degenerate i am, i evaluated his looks while listening to his answers. Dude was somewhat handsome, but scrawny and in his mid 40s, nothing special. Then i started to listen to his answers about his job. I was amazed at how much responsibility this man carries, being responsible for so many lifes on a daily basis. It made me - a 24 year old wanna-be-player whos main focus in life right now is to get his hands on melanotan and hit the gym - feel like i am aiming really low in life. Could i be doing more besides trying to look my best to get some horizontal cardio?
Now i know about the halo effect and i am just about smart enough to understand, that looks can open you many doors, especially with the ladies. But i admired the neurosurgeon in a way, i could never admire someone because of their looks. The responsibility he carries is heavy, but he does it with grace and dignity it felt like. And he talked about his family and his home being his sanctuary. He is the kind of person you would like to have as a father, since you can count on him to be competent and good. As someone who grew up without a father, this really struck a nerve.
I recently asked myself, if i were to have kids (which i really want someday), what would i teach them and what example would i try to set them? I certainly wouldn´t get them on tretinoin and beta carotene once they hit puberty. But if my main concern as a man is my looks, then they will inevitably adopt my behavior. That is how children are, you can´t tell them how to live, you have to be an example, which they can mirror. I would not want them to have the same flawed value structure that i have, where your looks are your number one concern.
Now you might say: "Dude, the only reason he has a family is because he is at least half decent looking, if he was as ugly as i am, he wouldn´t have a family". And maybe you are right (although i doubt it, neurosurgeons are lady killers, since they are smart, hardworking, competent, wealthy and respected). And the point of this thread is not to get you guys to stop looksmaxxing, looksmax all you want. I won´t and can´t stop either lmao. BUT i want to appeal to you that you aim for something beyond your looks. Something that gives your life more meaning, that makes your parents proud to be your parents, that makes other people respect you and that makes your (future) children happy to be your children. It will give you responsibility, which is a weight you will have to carry. It seems as if the weight of your responsibilities must be heavy enough to justify your existence.
Don´t try to ascend, try to transcend.
I just watched a youtube video about a neurosurgeon giving an interview about his job. As the degenerate i am, i evaluated his looks while listening to his answers. Dude was somewhat handsome, but scrawny and in his mid 40s, nothing special. Then i started to listen to his answers about his job. I was amazed at how much responsibility this man carries, being responsible for so many lifes on a daily basis. It made me - a 24 year old wanna-be-player whos main focus in life right now is to get his hands on melanotan and hit the gym - feel like i am aiming really low in life. Could i be doing more besides trying to look my best to get some horizontal cardio?
Now i know about the halo effect and i am just about smart enough to understand, that looks can open you many doors, especially with the ladies. But i admired the neurosurgeon in a way, i could never admire someone because of their looks. The responsibility he carries is heavy, but he does it with grace and dignity it felt like. And he talked about his family and his home being his sanctuary. He is the kind of person you would like to have as a father, since you can count on him to be competent and good. As someone who grew up without a father, this really struck a nerve.
I recently asked myself, if i were to have kids (which i really want someday), what would i teach them and what example would i try to set them? I certainly wouldn´t get them on tretinoin and beta carotene once they hit puberty. But if my main concern as a man is my looks, then they will inevitably adopt my behavior. That is how children are, you can´t tell them how to live, you have to be an example, which they can mirror. I would not want them to have the same flawed value structure that i have, where your looks are your number one concern.
Now you might say: "Dude, the only reason he has a family is because he is at least half decent looking, if he was as ugly as i am, he wouldn´t have a family". And maybe you are right (although i doubt it, neurosurgeons are lady killers, since they are smart, hardworking, competent, wealthy and respected). And the point of this thread is not to get you guys to stop looksmaxxing, looksmax all you want. I won´t and can´t stop either lmao. BUT i want to appeal to you that you aim for something beyond your looks. Something that gives your life more meaning, that makes your parents proud to be your parents, that makes other people respect you and that makes your (future) children happy to be your children. It will give you responsibility, which is a weight you will have to carry. It seems as if the weight of your responsibilities must be heavy enough to justify your existence.
Don´t try to ascend, try to transcend.
made me so jaded and even more self-centered than before
