Breaking the Dependency Cycle: How to Stop Relying on Her Validation?

[zerotohero]

Lately, I've been struggling with this weird dependency issue. It's like I can only find motivation to do things when I feel like this girl I'm talking to is into me. But the moment she goes silent or ghosts me, my entire drive just plummets, and I end up in a vicious cycle of procrastination and self-indulgence.

Instead of working on my projects, hitting the gym, or just doing anything productive, I find myself glued to my bed, mindlessly scrolling through TikTok, Instagram, and Looksmax.org. It's like I'm stuck in this rut, and I hate feeling like this.

So, my question is, how do I break free from this unhealthy reliance on external validation? How do I find the motivation to pursue my goals and passions regardless of whether she's interested or not?

 

[zerotohero]

 

[Deleted member 60080]

Lately, I've been struggling with this weird dependency issue. It's like I can only find motivation to do things when I feel like this girl I'm talking to is into me. But the moment she goes silent or ghosts me, my entire drive just plummets, and I end up in a vicious cycle of procrastination and self-indulgence.

Instead of working on my projects, hitting the gym, or just doing anything productive, I find myself glued to my bed, mindlessly scrolling through TikTok, Instagram, and Looksmax.org. It's like I'm stuck in this rut, and I hate feeling like this.

So, my question is, how do I break free from this unhealthy reliance on external validation? How do I find the motivation to pursue my goals and passions regardless of whether she's interested or not?

Brootal. Idk man

 

[Deleted member 31072]

You're just a fucking pussy and deserve to get your jaw rocked and take 6 months for your jaw to recover and be able to eat normally.

 

[zerotohero]

Brootal. Idk man

Rotter trait, tbh.

 

[zerotohero]

I'm so goddamn impatient.

 

[zerotohero]

Bump.

 

[zerotohero]

Dating with ADHD is a nightmare.

 

[zerotohero]

She’s my drug, I’m getting withdrawal symptoms.

 

[zerotohero]

I’m cooked.

 

[zerotohero]

 

[zerotohero]

Nah, bro. This is not worth my time.

 

[zerotohero]

This bitch makes me wanna go ER.

 

[AlbinoMaxxer]

Experienced the same thing for the last couple of months, until she left me. I suffer from ADHD as well and can’t get her out of my brain, not sure how to improve it besides abusing drugs.