Can you be a 'mental incel'?

[BigBallsLarry]

Had this conversation with someone on discord - with the question being whether it's possible for someone to be a 'mental incel'.

I don't mean a volcel, i mean someone who ISN'T an incel, but mentally is. Like having the mentality of an incel.

The argument of the opposing person sounded like this:

Someone who isn't an incel cannot possibly comprehend the mentality of someone who is one, therefore being a mental incel isn't possible.

My argument sounded like this:

Not being an incel doesn't stop someone from having the world views of someone who is an incel. For example, an incel who just got laid can still have the old mentality he had.. even though he is no longer an incel, he's has the mentality of someone who would be one.

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I believe the entire argument depends on what you consider an incel.

By definition, an incel is someone who is involuntarily celibate, so, it's theoretically impossible to be mentally involuntarily celibate.

However, modern media sees the word 'incel' with a different meaning. It's used as an offensive degrading term, like calling someone a 'loser' - in this scenario, it is possible to be mentally an 'incel', or a loser.

I'm curious what you guys think!

Tagging friends: @Daddy's Home @enchanted_elixir @Jason Voorhees @Orka @iblamexyz

 

[Orka]

I'm curious what you guys think!

Enthusiastic ass nigga

 

[chang cypionate]

I don't know

 

[BigBallsLarry]

Enthusiastic ass nigga

read my ban appeal

 

[registerfasterusing]

Had this conversation with someone on discord - with the question being whether it's possible for someone to be a 'mental incel'.

I don't mean a volcel, i mean someone who ISN'T an incel, but mentally is. Like having the mentality of an incel.

The argument of the opposing person sounded like this:

Someone who isn't an incel cannot possibly comprehend the mentality of someone who is one, therefore being a mental incel isn't possible.

My argument sounded like this:

Not being an incel doesn't stop someone from having the world views of someone who is an incel. For example, an incel who just got laid can still have the old mentality he had.. even though he is no longer an incel, he's has the mentality of someone who would be one.

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I believe the entire argument depends on what you consider an incel.

By definition, an incel is someone who is involuntarily celibate, so, it's theoretically impossible to be mentally involuntarily celibate.

However, modern media sees the word 'incel' with a different meaning. It's used as an offensive degrading term, like calling someone a 'loser' - in this scenario, it is possible to be mentally an 'incel', or a loser.

I'm curious what you guys think!

Tagging friends: @Daddy's Home @enchanted_elixir @Jason Voorhees @Orka @iblamexyz

Why is ur username screaming at me

 

[Orion's Eclipse]

I am so glad you're back, it's been boring lately, don't worry you didn't miss anything much.


Edit:
I can kinda relate to being a "mentalcel" since i can't even imagine having a relationship with a girl, i won't even talk about having sex with a girl.

My mind can't process having a girlfriend, because i know she will always yearn for someone better than me, better personality, better looks.

I am not an incel since i am still young but i am scared i will become one in the future.

All my life i've been isolated from female attention due to my looks, so now the consequence is that i can't even talk to a girl without getting nervous or akward.


Now that i think about it, i have never had an actuall conversation with a girl besides "hello" and "goodbye."
But i might just be autistic idk.

Ok, i will stop now, this rant is getting pretty long.

@BigBallsLarry

 

[Anakin.]

fuck you back

 

[Orka]

read my ban appeal

Fucker

 

[BigBallsLarry]

I am so glad you're back, it's been boring lately, don't worry you didn't miss anything much.

I doubt I'll post much anymore anyway, the site looks really bland compared to what it used to be, but thank you for the kind words!

 

[BigBallsLarry]

Why is ur username screaming at me

fuck you back

not a SINGLE response to the thread btw

 

[Jason Voorhees]

I thought you left

 

[mateus17]

Had this conversation with someone on discord - with the question being whether it's possible for someone to be a 'mental incel'.

I don't mean a volcel, i mean someone who ISN'T an incel, but mentally is. Like having the mentality of an incel.

The argument of the opposing person sounded like this:

Someone who isn't an incel cannot possibly comprehend the mentality of someone who is one, therefore being a mental incel isn't possible.

My argument sounded like this:

Not being an incel doesn't stop someone from having the world views of someone who is an incel. For example, an incel who just got laid can still have the old mentality he had.. even though he is no longer an incel, he's has the mentality of someone who would be one.

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I believe the entire argument depends on what you consider an incel.

By definition, an incel is someone who is involuntarily celibate, so, it's theoretically impossible to be mentally involuntarily celibate.

However, modern media sees the word 'incel' with a different meaning. It's used as an offensive degrading term, like calling someone a 'loser' - in this scenario, it is possible to be mentally an 'incel', or a loser.

I'm curious what you guys think!

Tagging friends: @Daddy's Home @enchanted_elixir @Jason Voorhees @Orka @iblamexyz

This is me.
I have a bitterness towards women. I lost my virginity in April and it didn’t really change my mentality at all.

 

[Histy]

Had this conversation with someone on discord - with the question being whether it's possible for someone to be a 'mental incel'.

I don't mean a volcel, i mean someone who ISN'T an incel, but mentally is. Like having the mentality of an incel.

The argument of the opposing person sounded like this:

Someone who isn't an incel cannot possibly comprehend the mentality of someone who is one, therefore being a mental incel isn't possible.

My argument sounded like this:

Not being an incel doesn't stop someone from having the world views of someone who is an incel. For example, an incel who just got laid can still have the old mentality he had.. even though he is no longer an incel, he's has the mentality of someone who would be one.

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I believe the entire argument depends on what you consider an incel.

By definition, an incel is someone who is involuntarily celibate, so, it's theoretically impossible to be mentally involuntarily celibate.

However, modern media sees the word 'incel' with a different meaning. It's used as an offensive degrading term, like calling someone a 'loser' - in this scenario, it is possible to be mentally an 'incel', or a loser.

I'm curious what you guys think!

Tagging friends: @Daddy's Home @enchanted_elixir @Jason Voorhees @Orka @iblamexyz

I thought he meant "chud" or as they believe it is a meaning of ldaring or having certain beliefs or ideas

But mental incel is such a weird term
It basically so ironic, and it's not a real term with definition. It is just a TikTokcel word atp.

 

[BigBallsLarry]

I thought you left

I came back only to post this because it's been on my mind too much, i need to hear more thoughts

 

[registerfasterusing]

not a SINGLE response to the thread btw

cuz nobody care

 

[lol]

Someone who isn't celibate can't be one 'mentally', because the word names a circumstance, not a state of mind; either it holds or it doesn't.

 

[Blasian-K]

Had this conversation with someone on discord - with the question being whether it's possible for someone to be a 'mental incel'.

I don't mean a volcel, i mean someone who ISN'T an incel, but mentally is. Like having the mentality of an incel.

The argument of the opposing person sounded like this:

Someone who isn't an incel cannot possibly comprehend the mentality of someone who is one, therefore being a mental incel isn't possible.

My argument sounded like this:

Not being an incel doesn't stop someone from having the world views of someone who is an incel. For example, an incel who just got laid can still have the old mentality he had.. even though he is no longer an incel, he's has the mentality of someone who would be one.

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I believe the entire argument depends on what you consider an incel.

By definition, an incel is someone who is involuntarily celibate, so, it's theoretically impossible to be mentally involuntarily celibate.

However, modern media sees the word 'incel' with a different meaning. It's used as an offensive degrading term, like calling someone a 'loser'.

I'm curious what you guys think!

Tagging friends: @Daddy's Home @enchanted_elixir @Jason Voorhees @Orka @iblamexyz

I feel like by definition a basis, you can’t just be mentally an "incel." As you said, it’s involuntary. And if you still could get laid. However you say it’s because of your views/personality and mentality. Then you’re either overestimating yourself or could get laid but just can’t overcome your mentality/views to actually get the dead done. Therefore, I think you’d still just be volcel who's a head case.

But by the modern definition of how society interprets incels. Then yes, you theoretically could be a “mental incel." But by a textbook definition, I don’t think so…

 

[mangotimer]

prob not

 

[sadlonelyincel]

Had this conversation with someone on discord - with the question being whether it's possible for someone to be a 'mental incel'.

I don't mean a volcel, i mean someone who ISN'T an incel, but mentally is. Like having the mentality of an incel.

The argument of the opposing person sounded like this:

Someone who isn't an incel cannot possibly comprehend the mentality of someone who is one, therefore being a mental incel isn't possible.

My argument sounded like this:

Not being an incel doesn't stop someone from having the world views of someone who is an incel. For example, an incel who just got laid can still have the old mentality he had.. even though he is no longer an incel, he's has the mentality of someone who would be one.

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I believe the entire argument depends on what you consider an incel.

By definition, an incel is someone who is involuntarily celibate, so, it's theoretically impossible to be mentally involuntarily celibate.

However, modern media sees the word 'incel' with a different meaning. It's used as an offensive degrading term, like calling someone a 'loser' - in this scenario, it is possible to be mentally an 'incel', or a loser.

I'm curious what you guys think!

Tagging friends: @Daddy's Home @enchanted_elixir @Jason Voorhees @Orka @iblamexyz

You know it’s gonna be interesting when they start it with “ had this conversation with someone on discord”

 

[BigBallsLarry]

cuz nobody care

have some respect for your elders buddy

 

[iwannasleeponurlap]

Had this conversation with someone on discord - with the question being whether it's possible for someone to be a 'mental incel'.

I don't mean a volcel, i mean someone who ISN'T an incel, but mentally is. Like having the mentality of an incel.

The argument of the opposing person sounded like this:

Someone who isn't an incel cannot possibly comprehend the mentality of someone who is one, therefore being a mental incel isn't possible.

My argument sounded like this:

Not being an incel doesn't stop someone from having the world views of someone who is an incel. For example, an incel who just got laid can still have the old mentality he had.. even though he is no longer an incel, he's has the mentality of someone who would be one.

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I believe the entire argument depends on what you consider an incel.

By definition, an incel is someone who is involuntarily celibate, so, it's theoretically impossible to be mentally involuntarily celibate.

However, modern media sees the word 'incel' with a different meaning. It's used as an offensive degrading term, like calling someone a 'loser' - in this scenario, it is possible to be mentally an 'incel', or a loser.

I'm curious what you guys think!

Tagging friends: @Daddy's Home @enchanted_elixir @Jason Voorhees @Orka @iblamexyz

If you are not physically an incel you are by definition not an incel. Even if you have the viewpoint of an incel that does not make you an incel. I dont think there is an word for an mentally incel person but "loser" would fit

 

[TrvePvle]

Had this conversation with someone on discord - with the question being whether it's possible for someone to be a 'mental incel'.

I don't mean a volcel, i mean someone who ISN'T an incel, but mentally is. Like having the mentality of an incel.

The argument of the opposing person sounded like this:

Someone who isn't an incel cannot possibly comprehend the mentality of someone who is one, therefore being a mental incel isn't possible.

My argument sounded like this:

Not being an incel doesn't stop someone from having the world views of someone who is an incel. For example, an incel who just got laid can still have the old mentality he had.. even though he is no longer an incel, he's has the mentality of someone who would be one.

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I believe the entire argument depends on what you consider an incel.

By definition, an incel is someone who is involuntarily celibate, so, it's theoretically impossible to be mentally involuntarily celibate.

However, modern media sees the word 'incel' with a different meaning. It's used as an offensive degrading term, like calling someone a 'loser' - in this scenario, it is possible to be mentally an 'incel', or a loser.

I'm curious what you guys think!

Tagging friends: @Daddy's Home @enchanted_elixir @Jason Voorhees @Orka @iblamexyz

That's just a volcel tho, but yeah it's possible to have a loser mentality for example if you weren't really gifted in life and always lost

 

[iblamexyz]

Had this conversation with someone on discord - with the question being whether it's possible for someone to be a 'mental incel'.

I don't mean a volcel, i mean someone who ISN'T an incel, but mentally is. Like having the mentality of an incel.

The argument of the opposing person sounded like this:

Someone who isn't an incel cannot possibly comprehend the mentality of someone who is one, therefore being a mental incel isn't possible.

My argument sounded like this:

Not being an incel doesn't stop someone from having the world views of someone who is an incel. For example, an incel who just got laid can still have the old mentality he had.. even though he is no longer an incel, he's has the mentality of someone who would be one.

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I believe the entire argument depends on what you consider an incel.

By definition, an incel is someone who is involuntarily celibate, so, it's theoretically impossible to be mentally involuntarily celibate.

However, modern media sees the word 'incel' with a different meaning. It's used as an offensive degrading term, like calling someone a 'loser' - in this scenario, it is possible to be mentally an 'incel', or a loser.

I'm curious what you guys think!

Tagging friends: @Daddy's Home @enchanted_elixir @Jason Voorhees @Orka @iblamexyz

Yeah ofc mentalcel exist for this reason

I mean even if you are a autistic htn or even cl

Your quality of life will always be a lot worse than if you were neurotypical

There might other things that are physically making you an incel by pure definition if you can’t pick up on social skills or social cues you’ll perma rot and ldar due to ur lack of skills

Sure your looks may help but if you have extremely high social anxiety or you heavily rely on drugs or alcohol to lower inhibition it’s truly over

 

[registerfasterusing]

have some respect for your elders buddy

BigBallsLarry

𝕸𝖊𝖗𝖈𝖊𝖓𝖆𝖗𝖞 𝕮𝖔𝖗𝖕 | 𝟐𝟎𝟐𝟓
Joined Jun 8, 2025

 

[L(oser)ooksmaxxer]

Bro wtf is that name

 

[BigBallsLarry]

If you are not physically an incel you are by definition not an incel. Even if you have the viewpoint of an incel that does not make you an incel. I dont think there is an word for an mentally incel person but "loser" would fit

You're right, i think 'mental incel' is just calling someone a loser with more steps lol.

 

[iwannasleeponurlap]

You're right, i think 'mental incel' is just calling someone a loser with more steps lol.

If you are mentally an incel women will call you an incel lol

 

[AryanSchizo]

Mentalcel

 

[karmacitathugmaxx]

yes if you're an actual fucking retard

anyone matching this description could literally just put the damn phone down and go outside and they would lose the mentality

 

[Punjabi Waffen]

Had this conversation with someone on discord - with the question being whether it's possible for someone to be a 'mental incel'.

I don't mean a volcel, i mean someone who ISN'T an incel, but mentally is. Like having the mentality of an incel.

The argument of the opposing person sounded like this:

Someone who isn't an incel cannot possibly comprehend the mentality of someone who is one, therefore being a mental incel isn't possible.

My argument sounded like this:

Not being an incel doesn't stop someone from having the world views of someone who is an incel. For example, an incel who just got laid can still have the old mentality he had.. even though he is no longer an incel, he's has the mentality of someone who would be one.

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I believe the entire argument depends on what you consider an incel.

By definition, an incel is someone who is involuntarily celibate, so, it's theoretically impossible to be mentally involuntarily celibate.

However, modern media sees the word 'incel' with a different meaning. It's used as an offensive degrading term, like calling someone a 'loser' - in this scenario, it is possible to be mentally an 'incel', or a loser.

I'm curious what you guys think!

Tagging friends: @Daddy's Home @enchanted_elixir @Jason Voorhees @Orka @iblamexyz

im not telling you nigga.

 

[x_stghl_x]

Had this conversation with someone on discord - with the question being whether it's possible for someone to be a 'mental incel'.

I don't mean a volcel, i mean someone who ISN'T an incel, but mentally is. Like having the mentality of an incel.

The argument of the opposing person sounded like this:

Someone who isn't an incel cannot possibly comprehend the mentality of someone who is one, therefore being a mental incel isn't possible.

My argument sounded like this:

Not being an incel doesn't stop someone from having the world views of someone who is an incel. For example, an incel who just got laid can still have the old mentality he had.. even though he is no longer an incel, he's has the mentality of someone who would be one.

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I believe the entire argument depends on what you consider an incel.

By definition, an incel is someone who is involuntarily celibate, so, it's theoretically impossible to be mentally involuntarily celibate.

However, modern media sees the word 'incel' with a different meaning. It's used as an offensive degrading term, like calling someone a 'loser' - in this scenario, it is possible to be mentally an 'incel', or a loser.

I'm curious what you guys think!

Tagging friends: @Daddy's Home @enchanted_elixir @Jason Voorhees @Orka @iblamexyz

Look at me nigga I'm totally a mentalcel

 

[BigBallsLarry]

Mentalcel

Look at me nigga I'm totally a mentalcel

a mentalcel is someone who is an incel because of their mentality.

im asking whether it's possible to not be an incel but have the mentality of an incel.

 

[x_stghl_x]

Had this conversation with someone on discord - with the question being whether it's possible for someone to be a 'mental incel'.

I don't mean a volcel, i mean someone who ISN'T an incel, but mentally is. Like having the mentality of an incel.

The argument of the opposing person sounded like this:

Someone who isn't an incel cannot possibly comprehend the mentality of someone who is one, therefore being a mental incel isn't possible.

My argument sounded like this:

Not being an incel doesn't stop someone from having the world views of someone who is an incel. For example, an incel who just got laid can still have the old mentality he had.. even though he is no longer an incel, he's has the mentality of someone who would be one.

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I believe the entire argument depends on what you consider an incel.

By definition, an incel is someone who is involuntarily celibate, so, it's theoretically impossible to be mentally involuntarily celibate.

However, modern media sees the word 'incel' with a different meaning. It's used as an offensive degrading term, like calling someone a 'loser' - in this scenario, it is possible to be mentally an 'incel', or a loser.

I'm curious what you guys think!

Tagging friends: @Daddy's Home @enchanted_elixir @Jason Voorhees @Orka @iblamexyz

Ph seems like I misinterpreted your thread.

You can totally be a mentalcel -> involuntary celibate because of your mentality.
Example would be extreme high inhibition


With your definition it's also possible.
Example would be someone who was extremely ugly and ascended, still having the same mindset

 

[ØUROBOROS]

Incel is a state of being you can't be a mental incel because being an incel isn't a mentality now a days the mainstream media uses the word incel to describe a lot of different behaviors or ideologies that aren't connected like misogyny and being black pilled or believing in lookism or some times even just being in the alt right pipeline so the idea of a "mental incel" Just came from the word loosing it's meaning. Therefore I don't think it excites.

 

[coax96]

Not being an incel doesn't stop someone from having the world views of someone who is an incel. For example, an incel who just got laid can still have the old mentality he had.. even though he is no longer an incel, he's has the mentality of someone who would be one.

i dont think there is a specific slang for people like this. you can call them "mentally incel" if you want even though its weird asf

 

[enchanted_elixir]

Had this conversation with someone on discord - with the question being whether it's possible for someone to be a 'mental incel'.

I don't mean a volcel, i mean someone who ISN'T an incel, but mentally is. Like having the mentality of an incel.

The argument of the opposing person sounded like this:

Someone who isn't an incel cannot possibly comprehend the mentality of someone who is one, therefore being a mental incel isn't possible.

My argument sounded like this:

Not being an incel doesn't stop someone from having the world views of someone who is an incel. For example, an incel who just got laid can still have the old mentality he had.. even though he is no longer an incel, he's has the mentality of someone who would be one.

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I believe the entire argument depends on what you consider an incel.

By definition, an incel is someone who is involuntarily celibate, so, it's theoretically impossible to be mentally involuntarily celibate.

However, modern media sees the word 'incel' with a different meaning. It's used as an offensive degrading term, like calling someone a 'loser' - in this scenario, it is possible to be mentally an 'incel', or a loser.

I'm curious what you guys think!

Tagging friends: @Daddy's Home @enchanted_elixir @Jason Voorhees @Orka @iblamexyz

My existence supports your thesis.

 

[enchanted_elixir]

Had this conversation with someone on discord - with the question being whether it's possible for someone to be a 'mental incel'.

I don't mean a volcel, i mean someone who ISN'T an incel, but mentally is. Like having the mentality of an incel.

The argument of the opposing person sounded like this:

Someone who isn't an incel cannot possibly comprehend the mentality of someone who is one, therefore being a mental incel isn't possible.

My argument sounded like this:

Not being an incel doesn't stop someone from having the world views of someone who is an incel. For example, an incel who just got laid can still have the old mentality he had.. even though he is no longer an incel, he's has the mentality of someone who would be one.

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I believe the entire argument depends on what you consider an incel.

By definition, an incel is someone who is involuntarily celibate, so, it's theoretically impossible to be mentally involuntarily celibate.

However, modern media sees the word 'incel' with a different meaning. It's used as an offensive degrading term, like calling someone a 'loser' - in this scenario, it is possible to be mentally an 'incel', or a loser.

I'm curious what you guys think!

Tagging friends: @Daddy's Home @enchanted_elixir @Jason Voorhees @Orka @iblamexyz

My own existence arguably supports your thesis.


This can happen when someone was previously an incel and later experiences an improvement in appearance, social status, or romantic opportunities without undergoing the psychological recalibration required to internalize that change. His circumstances may have improved, but his self-concept remains organized around the assumptions he formed when he was isolated, rejected, or socially unsuccessful.


That recalibration usually requires repeated and sufficiently strong corrective experiences. A person may receive compliments or notice indicators of interest, but if he remains isolated and rarely acts on those opportunities, the reinforcement may be too weak or ambiguous to revise his underlying model of himself. He has not accumulated enough concrete evidence—through relationships, sexual experiences, sustained social participation, or repeated demonstrations of higher social value—to make his brain fully accept that his former identity is no longer accurate.


As a result, he may objectively look better or possess greater status while continuing to feel like the person he used to be. His external position has changed, but his internal reference point has not. Without prolonged exposure to environments that repeatedly contradict his old beliefs, his self-perception may remain anchored to an obsolete social reality.


Continuing to consume incel-oriented content can intensify this problem. Such content repeatedly activates and reinforces the same interpretive framework, causing the person to process new experiences through the assumptions of his former identity. He may therefore return psychologically to the mentality he once had, even when his present circumstances no longer justify it.

 

[Blasian-K]

I feel like by definition a basis, you can’t just be mentally an "incel." As you said, it’s involuntary. And if you still could get laid. However you say it’s because of your views/personality and mentality. Then you’re either overestimating yourself or could get laid but just can’t overcome your mentality/views to actually get the dead done. Therefore, I think you’d still just be volcel who's a head case.

But by the modern definition of how society interprets incels. Then yes, you theoretically could be a “mental incel." But by a textbook definition, I don’t think so…

I'm curious what you guys think!

Brutal, DNR!

 

[Klasik616]

Short answer: no.
He is probably gay not mentalcel.
Any man who has options will try no matter if he is introvert or ND

 

[Klasik616]

My own existence arguably supports your thesis.


This can happen when someone was previously an incel and later experiences an improvement in appearance, social status, or romantic opportunities without undergoing the psychological recalibration required to internalize that change. His circumstances may have improved, but his self-concept remains organized around the assumptions he formed when he was isolated, rejected, or socially unsuccessful.


That recalibration usually requires repeated and sufficiently strong corrective experiences. A person may receive compliments or notice indicators of interest, but if he remains isolated and rarely acts on those opportunities, the reinforcement may be too weak or ambiguous to revise his underlying model of himself. He has not accumulated enough concrete evidence—through relationships, sexual experiences, sustained social participation, or repeated demonstrations of higher social value—to make his brain fully accept that his former identity is no longer accurate.


As a result, he may objectively look better or possess greater status while continuing to feel like the person he used to be. His external position has changed, but his internal reference point has not. Without prolonged exposure to environments that repeatedly contradict his old beliefs, his self-perception may remain anchored to an obsolete social reality.


Continuing to consume incel-oriented content can intensify this problem. Such content repeatedly activates and reinforces the same interpretive framework, causing the person to process new experiences through the assumptions of his former identity. He may therefore return psychologically to the mentality he once had, even when his present circumstances no longer justify it.

Psychologism. Inceldom has to do with how others treat you (women). Constant rejections = incel mentality. No man has born believing he doesn't deserve women. I am 24 and KV, incel. Before 21 I thought I just had bad luck, after the blackpill I knew it was my looks.

 

[enchanted_elixir]

Short answer: no.
He is probably gay not mentalcel.
Any man who has options will try no matter if he is introvert or ND

You know, I have the option to smash
an aboriginal granny and it would be homosexual for me not to try

 

[Klasik616]

You know, I have the option to smash
an aboriginal granny and it would be homosexual for me not to try

If you want to fuck her you will try even if you don't know if she will like you. If you don't try, congratz on becoming GAY.

 

[enchanted_elixir]

If you want to fuck her you will try even if you don't know if she will like you. If you don't try, congratz on becoming GAY.

The issue is that I’m not attracted to that although I do have so-called options because she is giving me indicators of interest and I am v inferring that there is a decent probability that if I make it advance, she will be receptive to it