How Social Interaction Actually Works

[RichardSpencel]

It’s such water but it’s literally so true, there is no bad conversation starter if people see you as this:

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An autist can either spend thousands of hours dedicated perfecting his act, only to be brushed off the same way, and STILL appear uncanny/weird + eventually burn out from faking his entire concept of self

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Or just change your “self” directly, to the point where you don’t need to torture yourself into an endless search for the unattainable perfect combination of words and charisma to be accepted by others

this meme is still undefeated since 2017

 

[Daddy's Home]

After I managed to become more social thanks to group sports activities that forced me to constantly interact with stranger, and spending three years in the office at multinational companies, working with people both my age and older, I can say the following:

- The things Op listed you should have by default

If you don't have them, something is wrong with the way you grew up (retarded and antisocial parents, few friends, you are an only child, your extended family does not live nearby etc.), so you were more isolated/did not find value in social interactions because the feedback from them was always negative (usually because of your retarded parents and the general environment in which you grew up)

- You must be able to offer value in one way or another

You must be something or someone for people to value you/give you credit so that you can move beyond superficial discussions and form a real, long-lasting connection (yeah bro, good luck with that if you start from scratch, and you're not too smart or too rich)

People want to see that you have the authority and power to change things

- You must always know what you want from the person you are interacting with. If no one approaches you or does so rarely, it is probably because they think you are useless (brutal ik)

Op implies that with every person you interact with, you should reach the point where you go out for a drink/form a stronger connection, but this is often either logistically impossible or unnecessary to do.

So normies will always analyze you, and you should do the same with them, and know what limits to set in terms of escalating conversations. One of the biggest problems is when you do too little with people who deserve more, and too much with people who deserve less

- You have to be willing to invest time and energy, and that is often the biggest problem, because we don't know where, when, why, if it's worth it, and often we just give up at first or we are indifferent

You experience these symptoms especially when you don't have things going on in your life, so you don't know your goals and priorities, because then you would know better what you want and with whom.

This is pretty much the main reason why you are not social/don't have friends, because if they knew you better, they would realize what a boring and miserable life you have

And unfortunately in our generation, this thing of not having things going in life for whatever reasons is growing alarmingly..




A very good example of a person for the thread created by Op, who at the age of 22 went from zero to the top of the world just because he learned and knew how to interact socially from an early age, is Adin Ross

I highly recommend watching this video below, to understand how you can build an empire just by knowing what to say to whom and where, and how important the connections you can build in real life are to becoming rich and successful

 

[Glorious King]

@Jattdontcare @Mogs Me

 

[acm]

Way too late for me.

Don't worry gengy, we have each other atleast

 

[extractor]

Do you actually believe in the bp and if so how do you believe in Islam at the same time?

I understand the theology can make the most sense in Islam, but the bp contradicts Islam's teachings in lots of ways

Great thread

 

[LiL 369]

Never kill the loop

Spoiler: Example

Them: “It’s warm today.”
Retard: “Yeah. So what do you do for work?”
Normal human: “Yeah, feels like summer never ended.”

That spoiler killed me man jfl. Btw you can spot a autist like this in just 10 seconds of conversation or even in their maneirism.

When someone is clearly bad in conversations or just straight up awkward, the first thing that crosses my mind is “this guy is autistic” and that feeling simply doesnt leave, is like talking to a clearly low sentience individual.

 

[Phaethon]

We've come full circle. Personalitymax.

 

[Menas]

Social Interaction 101​

Most of you are socially dead because you refuse to accept one brutal truth:

People mirror what you output. Zero input = zero output.

If you:

• don’t smile
• don’t initiate
• Give stone faced dead energy
• Sit there like a NPC waiting for “signals”

You get nothing.

No one is coming to save you. No friendly person is going to crack your autistic shell. You are 100% responsible for the empty the social reality you experience every day.


Initiation Is Mandatory

There is no perfect moment. You force the moment into existence.

Don’t wait for a signal.
Create one.

Spoiler: Lowest effort open

Start by noticing something in the environment and bringing attention to it. That’s literally it. Anything else is coping.
Don’t overthink
Don’t hesitate

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Conversations Aren’t About interesting Topics​

They’re about momentum.
The topic is literally almost irrelevant.

A boring topic with momentum will flow for hours.
A good topic with zero momentum dies in ten seconds flat.

What keeps a convo alive isn’t the subject, it’s the back and forth energy.

Every good convo goes has three steps:

1. Shown interest
2. Response
3. Expansion

You toss something → they catch it and toss back → you catch and toss again.
That loop is everything and keeps things alive.


Never kill the loop

Never ignore shown interest or give one word responses like a retard.
If you do this it’s over, no matter how interesting the topic was supposed to be.One of the biggest conversation killing mistakes is topic jumping. You think you’re being charismatic and having a smooth conversation, but in reality you just nuked the entire interaction. Never do this shit.You completely skipped Step 3: Expansion.

That’s conversational suicide.

Spoiler: Example

Them: “It’s warm today.”
Retard: “Yeah. So what do you do for work?”
Normal human: “Yeah, feels like summer never ended.”

Most of you autists obsess over what to say when the real problem is you don’t know how to keep the damn ball in the air.
Momentum > content. Always.

Only switch topics when there’s a natural bridge.

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Low-Effort, High-Flow Technique: Invite Stories
The easiest way to keep a convo going with less effort is to invite them to talk:

• “How’d that happen?”
• “What was that like?”
• “Why’d you pick that?”

If they answer with more than one sentence, you’re doing it right.
It forces them to talk, keeps momentum alive, and you barely have to say shit.

It’s piss easy. The laziest, most foolproof hack that works even for low verbal autists (yeah, that’s you reading this)

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Show You’re Listening​

Do this:

1. Repeat a small part of what they said
2. Add a light opinion or question

This signals emotional presence.

Spoiler: Example

Them: "I relocated for work and starting over has been hard bla bla bla"
You: "I get that. I moved cities once and didn’t know a soul, the first month felt unreal.”

Then toss it back:
You: “How long did it take before it felt like home?”

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Share, But Don’t Overshare
Never dump your life story.
Share just enough:

• a related thought
• a short personal angle
• a light reaction

Then pass the ball back

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Turning These Strangers Into Acquaintances: Soft Escalation​

The entire point of talking to strangers isn’t the chat itself, it’s turning them into acquaintances, then friends, then whatever the fuck else you want (network, wingmen, girls, whatever).

Use soft escalation, keep energy rising, slowly shift from surface → personal → playful.

Stage 1: Surface topics

• environment
• situation
• shared inconvenience

Stage 2: Personal topics

• preferences
• feelings
• opinions

Stage 3: Playful

• light teasing
• hypotheticals
• “us vs the world” framing

Stage 3 is where actual bonding happens. Stay surface level forever and you’re just another forgettable background character.

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End on an Up Note

Always leave people slightly better than you found them.

They might not remember you specifically, but if you give them a small hit of positive emotion, they’ll associate you with that good feeling, how you made them feel.

Humans are far more predictable than we like to think. For most people, feelings beat logic every single time. We run on emotion.

Don’t underestimate how much impact something small and simple can have. Even a line like:

Spoiler: Example

You: “Cool talking to you, you actually made this wait less boring.”

can stick more than you’d expect. That’s how impressions last.

Even better is if you end with a low pressure hook:

Spoiler: Examples

“We should grab coffee sometime, you seem chill.”
“You know any good spots around here? We could check one out.”
Or just straight: “Give me your number, let’s keep this going.”

If they hesitate, you read the room and back off. No begging.

Every interaction has one goal: plant a seed for the next one. Small talk is just the entry ticket. If you eject after “nice talking bro” and never follow up, you’ve wasted your time and stayed exactly where you started: alone.

You’re not practicing small talk. You’re building a social circle from scratch, one follow up at a time. Turn one acquaintance into a gateway: meet their friends, go to their events, bring them into your circle.

Ignore this all and keep coping that “personality doesn’t matter” while you rot in silence.

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@Menas

Mogs bro, Imma read it in a few hours