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I'm completely new here and literally made this account because this has been eating away at me for months and I don't have anyone in real life I can ask without them either calling me an asshole or just telling me what they think I want to hear.
This is a difficult thing to admit because it makes me sound shallow, but I'd rather be honest than pretend I don't feel this way.
I think I'm better looking than my girlfriend. Not by some tiny amount where I'm grasping at straws, but enough that it's become a recurring thought in the relationship. I'm 6'2", she's 4'11" I train consistently, take my health seriously, watch what I eat, stay lean, groom myself properly, care about my skincare, dress well, and I'm always trying to improve how I look. I put a lot of time, discipline, and effort into my appearance because it's important to me.
She... just doesn't. like at the very least try to improve her makeup
I love my girlfriend. She's an amazing person, and there are so many qualities about her that I value. But sometimes I catch myself feeling frustrated in the relationship because I'll think she's just not physically attractive enough for me. It sounds horrible to say out loud.
I love her. She's genuinely a good person, and that's why this is so fucking difficult. But there are moments where she'll ask something of me, and I catch myself thinking Why am I making all these compromises when I'm not even that physically attracted to her or get annoyed when shes trying to be touchy because im constantly thinking she just isnt good looking enough and i can pull better, I feel like a complete asshole for even having that thought.
I don't know how to tell her any of this because I know it'd absolutely destroy her confidence. At the same time, I can't keep pretending everything's fine when this keeps coming back into my head. What makes it worse is that even if I decided I wanted to be with someone I'm more attracted to, ending an otherwise healthy relationship over looks alone makes me sound like the biggest prick on the planet. So I feel completely stuck.
The only thing I'm genuinely unsure about is whether social media all these discussions about hypergamy, "leagues," and constantly seeing attractive people online have warped my perception a bit. I don't think that's the main reason I feel this way, but I'd be lying if I said I hadn't wondered whether it's influenced me at all. So I'm asking for honest opinions. If you've been in a similar situation, tell me what you did. If you think I'm overlooking something, tell me. If you think I'm just being shallow, say it. theres also probably people thinking we are a looksmatch or im not ass attractive as i think i am and i js need to be humbled.
Please be honest. I can take criticism. I'd rather hear the truth than keep secondguessing myself. ill put our pictures and a video i took rn here
edit - for the triggered people getting it wrong I am by no means saying shes ugly she is a very beautiful girl well over average please read what im saying (took the pictures off as i was adviced)
This is a difficult thing to admit because it makes me sound shallow, but I'd rather be honest than pretend I don't feel this way.
I think I'm better looking than my girlfriend. Not by some tiny amount where I'm grasping at straws, but enough that it's become a recurring thought in the relationship. I'm 6'2", she's 4'11" I train consistently, take my health seriously, watch what I eat, stay lean, groom myself properly, care about my skincare, dress well, and I'm always trying to improve how I look. I put a lot of time, discipline, and effort into my appearance because it's important to me.
She... just doesn't. like at the very least try to improve her makeup
I love my girlfriend. She's an amazing person, and there are so many qualities about her that I value. But sometimes I catch myself feeling frustrated in the relationship because I'll think she's just not physically attractive enough for me. It sounds horrible to say out loud.
I love her. She's genuinely a good person, and that's why this is so fucking difficult. But there are moments where she'll ask something of me, and I catch myself thinking Why am I making all these compromises when I'm not even that physically attracted to her or get annoyed when shes trying to be touchy because im constantly thinking she just isnt good looking enough and i can pull better, I feel like a complete asshole for even having that thought.
I don't know how to tell her any of this because I know it'd absolutely destroy her confidence. At the same time, I can't keep pretending everything's fine when this keeps coming back into my head. What makes it worse is that even if I decided I wanted to be with someone I'm more attracted to, ending an otherwise healthy relationship over looks alone makes me sound like the biggest prick on the planet. So I feel completely stuck.
The only thing I'm genuinely unsure about is whether social media all these discussions about hypergamy, "leagues," and constantly seeing attractive people online have warped my perception a bit. I don't think that's the main reason I feel this way, but I'd be lying if I said I hadn't wondered whether it's influenced me at all. So I'm asking for honest opinions. If you've been in a similar situation, tell me what you did. If you think I'm overlooking something, tell me. If you think I'm just being shallow, say it. theres also probably people thinking we are a looksmatch or im not ass attractive as i think i am and i js need to be humbled.
Please be honest. I can take criticism. I'd rather hear the truth than keep secondguessing myself. ill put our pictures and a video i took rn here
edit - for the triggered people getting it wrong I am by no means saying shes ugly she is a very beautiful girl well over average please read what im saying (took the pictures off as i was adviced)
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