If you don't prioritize your social life in your 20s you WILL be left behind

[6ft8InTheNetherlands]

When I was in my early 20s all I spent my time on was the gym, steroids, constantly 'researching' things on forums and gaming.

I thought going to college was stupid so I never went, and I looked down on people who drank alcohol and did drugs and went out with friends. For whatever reason I simply felt superior to them.

I basically stayed home on the computer and occasionally went on dates with girls.

The truth is that when you don't at least somewhat prioritize your social life when young, you will suffer greatly in your late 20s and early 30s as most bonds are formed during your college years.

All the hours of being a loner and surfing the internet and forums added up for me.

Social inexperience is very real and you won't see the effect until you are 28 and older like me and more lonely than ever. It will be an uphill battle to have meaningful relationships for the rest of your life if you significantly neglect your social life in your early 20's.

Personally, it has negatively affected many areas of my life. For example, I cannot introduce my girlfriend to my friends because I do not have them and you miss the social skills you need to mingle with strangers. It is also very bad that the only person you are in contact with is your girlfriend. There are not many things lower status than having no social life.

I am currently working in security in an area with LOTS of hot young girls and all the guys I work with are HIGHLY social and VERY popular with the staff because of their incredible social skills. They can have small talk with strangers for hours if they would have to and are respected and well liked by many because of their CHARISMA and SOCIAL SKILLS. And yes, many of them get laid despite their very average looks.

 

[TeraCope54]

CHARISMA

Lmao charisma is a meme, it's just another name for status and money. Look up the origins of the word. Comes from actors. It's not even defined in psychology.

And yes, many of them get laid despite their very average looks.

Pics or didn't happen.

 

[toolateforme]

Lmao charisma is a meme, it's just another name for status and money. Look up the origins of the word. Comes from actors. It's not even defined in psychology.

Pics or didn't happen.

do you really believe it didnt happen?

 

[Edgar]

do you really believe it didnt happen?

look at his username

 

[Looksmax305]

The good news is you can improve your Social skills if you’re not a pussy

 

[Deleted member 7044]

just be 6'8 theory

 

[Jagged0]

Chad has strangers asking to be his friend

 

[Gonthar]

Lmao charisma is a meme, it's just another name for status and money. Look up the origins of the word. Comes from actors. It's not even defined in psychology.

Ever heard of "Charisma on Command"?

 

[.👽.]

yea friends are very important. my social circle is getting smaller and smaller each year or so cuz they find Jobs in different Cities etc.
you can find new ones but it doesnt feel the same tbh idk why.

 

[eduardkoopman]

yea friends are very important. my social circle is getting smaller and smaller each year or so cuz they find Jobs in different Cities etc.
you can find new ones but it doesnt feel the same tbh idk why.

Kinda this, imo.

Ideal, is to have friends since childhood.

But even when have friends in teens and twenties.
One can easily-ish lose them. Over time.
Due to moving, different lifestyle, and so on...

* Friendships build after school period are different, I notice.
Friendships in school times, is build around chilling and fun.
Friendships after school period, seem more build around same goals, need each other to achieve something, and so on.. they seem to have more practical aspects to them.

Basically, when older one doesn't have as much time to chill. So friendships happen more around shared goals, interest, etc..

 

[Mastermind]

Same old "just pull a social circle out of your ass" theory being shout at permarotters who are either high functioning autistic fucks or scraping the bottom of the barrel in terms of looks, maybe even both.

"Bro just leave your brain hardwired to deflect social situations home!! It's so easy I swear you will regret it if you don't!!"

 

[APJ]

The ROI on social circle regardless of your physical attractiveness level is absolutely hideous and if by chance you do manage to get an LTR out of social circle your behaviour is going to be policed to shit by the group (and don’t think the guys in the social circle won’t be trying to sabotage your relationship). There’s a reason I’m still using apps and it’s not because I like being treated like a disposable object

 

[pakipassion]

I wasted lot of time after my graduation , on internet forums and gaming and all that , and I regret it the most now , each day you should be increasing your value as a man and forums and useless online discussions is the worst waste of precious limited energy. Get rid of any addiction , once you are high on addiction , you brain release chemicals that justify it and you think you its cant be left but it cant be with effort, you have to take ownership of your only life.
Corona lockdown has been turning point of my life and I have get rid of most uselss time wastage stuff and focusing on my specialization in robotics

A man should be focusing on these three things

Increasing his value and you do it by : building social circle/network, getting passion and pusuing excellence in any field that make you above average, increasing knowledge and skill that results in money in modern times , all this results in increase in power.

Looksmaxxing: Good diet and atheletic physique , body language , tonality and good communication skills, you are your biggest asset work on it.


Mindfullness:Being Present in the moment

I encourage everyone to read

Richard cooper's Unplugged Alpha

 

[JamesHowlett]

I agree but prepare to be swarmed by PSL autists calling this cope.

The ironic thing is that they call this cope because they’ve never experienced it due to being anti-social.

 

[grimy]

I'm already feelings these effects at 23. After high school, if you don't go to college it becomes very hard to find new friends that don't just want to do drugs.

 

[6ft8InTheNetherlands]

I agree but prepare to be swarmed by PSL autists calling this cope.

The ironic thing is that they call this cope because they’ve never experienced it due to being anti-social.

Brutal Truth.

 

[ReignsChad]

OP is 6’8 and has a girlfriend. The fuck you whining about friends for?

 

[Going2KillMyself]

jfl

 

[MewingJBP]

replace 20s with teens and you are right

in mid 20s people already having kids and are settled in their jobs

 

[klamus]

Absolutely brutal heightpill

 

[6ft8InTheNetherlands]

Absolutely brutal heightpill

being six foot eight doesn't help socially at all

if anything it works against you

 

[klamus]

being six foot eight doesn't help socially at all

if anything it works against you

Do males ever wanna talk To you? How do you make friend after high school at that height? I mean its not a good strategy for anyone below 6'5 To talk To you and willingly mog themselves.

 

[6ft8InTheNetherlands]

Do males ever wanna talk To you? How do you make friend after high school at that height? I mean its not a good strategy for anyone below 6'5 To talk To you and willingly mog themselves.

Almost never.

 

[klamus]

Almost never.

Figured so. You arent ugly btw?

 

[6ft8InTheNetherlands]

Figured so. You arent ugly btw?

No

 

[oldcelloser]

Richard cooper's Unplugged Alpha

whaaat? are you serious man
Richard Coper is a Buttplugged Beta who "dated" single moms, being the truecel that he was
Frankenstein looking mother fucker

 

[oldcelloser]

Chad has strangers asking to be his friend

this ; huge cope by the OP thinking his "friends" will make him happy; after the black pill, and hypergamy theres nothing but disgust that awaits you seeing beta males in LTRs, blue pillers, football watchers and all the other retarded copes that normies usually have; if you're High IQ most ppl should annoy you because they're retarded JFL

 

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This should be a required post to read for new members

 

[BeenLMSsinceMSN]

When I was in my early 20s all I spent my time on was the gym, steroids, constantly 'researching' things on forums and gaming.

I thought going to college was stupid so I never went, and I looked down on people who drank alcohol and did drugs and went out with friends. For whatever reason I simply felt superior to them.

I basically stayed home on the computer and occasionally went on dates with girls.

The truth is that when you don't at least somewhat prioritize your social life when young, you will suffer greatly in your late 20s and early 30s as most bonds are formed during your college years.

All the hours of being a loner and surfing the internet and forums added up for me.

Social inexperience is very real and you won't see the effect until you are 28 and older like me and more lonely than ever. It will be an uphill battle to have meaningful relationships for the rest of your life if you significantly neglect your social life in your early 20's.

Personally, it has negatively affected many areas of my life. For example, I cannot introduce my girlfriend to my friends because I do not have them and you miss the social skills you need to mingle with strangers. It is also very bad that the only person you are in contact with is your girlfriend. There are not many things lower status than having no social life.

I am currently working in security in an area with LOTS of hot young girls and all the guys I work with are HIGHLY social and VERY popular with the staff because of their incredible social skills. They can have small talk with strangers for hours if they would have to and are respected and well liked by many because of their CHARISMA and SOCIAL SKILLS. And yes, many of them get laid despite their very average looks.

So looking back how would you have prioritised social life/circle ?

 

[Patient A]

I'm already feelings these effects at 23. After high school, if you don't go to college it becomes very hard to find new friends that don't just want to do drugs.

All of my old friends just want to do drugs

 

[Deleted member 9274]

this ; huge cope by the OP thinking his "friends" will make him happy; after the black pill, and hypergamy theres nothing but disgust that awaits you seeing beta males in LTRs, blue pillers, football watchers and all the other retarded copes that normies usually have; if you're High IQ most ppl should annoy you because they're retarded JFL

Disagree. Friends are a huge need for everyone. We are social animals and unless you can live comfortably alone and hate social interactions. You actually need friends to meet girls and friends in general is nice to have to hangout with. Also reminder that no one here is chad and this thread is aimed at us

 

[Seth Walsh]

When I was in my early 20s all I spent my time on was the gym, steroids, constantly 'researching' things on forums and gaming.

I thought going to college was stupid so I never went, and I looked down on people who drank alcohol and did drugs and went out with friends. For whatever reason I simply felt superior to them.

I basically stayed home on the computer and occasionally went on dates with girls.

The truth is that when you don't at least somewhat prioritize your social life when young, you will suffer greatly in your late 20s and early 30s as most bonds are formed during your college years.

All the hours of being a loner and surfing the internet and forums added up for me.

Social inexperience is very real and you won't see the effect until you are 28 and older like me and more lonely than ever. It will be an uphill battle to have meaningful relationships for the rest of your life if you significantly neglect your social life in your early 20's.

Personally, it has negatively affected many areas of my life. For example, I cannot introduce my girlfriend to my friends because I do not have them and you miss the social skills you need to mingle with strangers. It is also very bad that the only person you are in contact with is your girlfriend. There are not many things lower status than having no social life.

I am currently working in security in an area with LOTS of hot young girls and all the guys I work with are HIGHLY social and VERY popular with the staff because of their incredible social skills. They can have small talk with strangers for hours if they would have to and are respected and well liked by many because of their CHARISMA and SOCIAL SKILLS. And yes, many of them get laid despite their very average looks.

Great anecdotal advice from a great member

 

[6ft8InTheNetherlands]

So looking back how would you have prioritised social life/circle ?

To start, I would have said yes to all social invites. In my early 20s I missed lots of opportunities to build a circle of people but I rejected almost all of them because I 'had to go to bed early to be in the gym at 7AM the next day'

 

[6ft8InTheNetherlands]

Disagree. Friends are a huge need for everyone. We are social animals and unless you can live comfortably alone and hate social interactions. You actually need friends to meet girls and friends in general is nice to have to hangout with. Also reminder that no one here is chad and this thread is aimed at us

Very true, and even if you don't 'want' friends, you need to at least have experience talking to people and know how to socialise.

Most guys who say they don't want friends use it as an excuse though.

 

[OOGABOOGA]

This is so fucking brutal man I’m so far behind. Too tired so I dropped out after a semester of college. Too tired so I don’t keep in touch with many of my hs friends. No social media. A few people who are “friends” of mine but that I rarely hang out with. I’m an afterthought to everyone I’ve known.

 

[volcelfatcel]

This is so fucking brutal man I’m so far behind. Too tired so I dropped out after a semester of college. Too tired so I don’t keep in touch with many of my hs friends. No social media. A few people who are “friends” of mine but that I rarely hang out with. I’m an afterthought to everyone I’ve known.

At least u phenomog this subhuman dravidian Chad,

 

[Deleted member 7725]

being six foot eight doesn't help socially at all

if anything it works against you

Does height help you with girls at bars/clubs/cold? I'm 6'7" and guys don't interact with me either.

 

[6ft8InTheNetherlands]

Does height help you with girls at bars/clubs/cold? I'm 6'7" and guys don't interact with me either.

That one yes. No issue getting girls or girlfriends.

 

[Deleted member 7725]

That one yes. No issue getting girls or girlfriends.

Do you think height carries you or would you get just as many girls if you were 6'0 too? I just ascended to 5/10 from 3.5/10.

 

[6ft8InTheNetherlands]

Do you think height carries you or would you get just as many girls if you were 6'0 too? I just ascended to 5/10 from 3.5/10.

I believe if I wasn't six foot eight I would not be getting laid at all as I have no personality whatsoever.

 

[Deleted member 7725]

I believe if I wasn't six foot eight I would not be getting laid at all as I have no personality whatsoever.

If you have no friends or social circle do you just go to the bar/club alone?

 

[6ft8InTheNetherlands]

If you have no friends or social circle do you just go to the bar/club alone?

Well I never go as I feel out of place in those environments but whenever I walk outside I do get female attention, in gyms or online.

 

[Deleted member 7725]

Well I never go as I feel out of place in those environments but whenever I walk outside I do get female attention, in gyms or online.

What PSL is your face? How do you get attention online with your height?

 

[6ft8InTheNetherlands]

What PSL is your face? How do you get attention online with your height?

not sure. maybe 6/10 face

i try putting full body photos so they notice height

 

[dnrd]

When I was in my early 20s all I spent my time on was the gym, steroids, constantly 'researching' things on forums and gaming.

I thought going to college was stupid so I never went, and I looked down on people who drank alcohol and did drugs and went out with friends. For whatever reason I simply felt superior to them.

I basically stayed home on the computer and occasionally went on dates with girls.

The truth is that when you don't at least somewhat prioritize your social life when young, you will suffer greatly in your late 20s and early 30s as most bonds are formed during your college years.

All the hours of being a loner and surfing the internet and forums added up for me.

Social inexperience is very real and you won't see the effect until you are 28 and older like me and more lonely than ever. It will be an uphill battle to have meaningful relationships for the rest of your life if you significantly neglect your social life in your early 20's.

Personally, it has negatively affected many areas of my life. For example, I cannot introduce my girlfriend to my friends because I do not have them and you miss the social skills you need to mingle with strangers. It is also very bad that the only person you are in contact with is your girlfriend. There are not many things lower status than having no social life.

I am currently working in security in an area with LOTS of hot young girls and all the guys I work with are HIGHLY social and VERY popular with the staff because of their incredible social skills. They can have small talk with strangers for hours if they would have to and are respected and well liked by many because of their CHARISMA and SOCIAL SKILLS. And yes, many of them get laid despite their very average looks.

just fart

 

[thereallegend]

The ROI on social circle regardless of your physical attractiveness level is absolutely hideous and if by chance you do manage to get an LTR out of social circle your behaviour is going to be policed to shit by the group (and don’t think the guys in the social circle won’t be trying to sabotage your relationship). There’s a reason I’m still using apps and it’s not because I like being treated like a disposable object

Well social circles and online dating are the only viable options nowadays.

However, you're right socializing in real life is basically an intense, high stakes version of social media. The benefits of social circles as a dating method is that everybody is sort of vetted and preselected, especially if you trust your friends.

 

[killer400]

mate i can relate i have the same shit, multiple girls etc i was with for like 6-7 months then they rlly expect you to meet your friends etc but i feel like i only have buddys not rlly core friends that i would have my girl meet or something al though i am doing better than early twenties because i worked hard still i dont have like jo come over my friends are here or something you know what i'm saying

goodluck in your pursuite of happiness also let me know if you want to meet up im totally sane

 

[studiocel]

Left behind? Im going my own way!
#MGTOW

 

[MostGLSlayer]

Fuck a social life, I just want pussy, goddamit!

 

[grimy]

Fuck a social life, I just want pussy, goddamit!

just hold frame and have abundance mindset