Left school with 1 "friend" I barely talk to, and left uni with 1 friend who is very busy. No work mates. Rely on fiancée for friends. Normal?

[Xangsane]

Title. I was severely bullied throughout school.
The girl who introduced me to my fiancée, though I try to talk to her platonically, tries not to talk to me. I struggle making and keeping friends I feel most are acquaintances at best and many of my connections fizzle out.

 

[Xangsane]

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[Xangsane]

@aesthetic beauty @rand anon @Aloha

 

[Deleted member 41284]

How did you meet your fiancée?

If you have a fiancée, surely can’t be that antisocial.

 

[Deleted member 21345]

Imo it's more normal than anyone wants to admit

I've studies saying that between 1 in 5 and 1 in 10 people report having no real close friends, it's higher of younger sample groups

I've met alot of normies who seem perfectly NT, but then you realize once you get to know them their "friends' are facile and they have noone to talk to frequently

 

[Xangsane]

How did you meet your fiancée?

If you have a fiancée, surely can’t be that antisocial.

Through a blasian girl I went on a couple of dates with but she called it off as she was Christian and she didn't think we were compatible.

 

[Xangsane]

Imo it's more normal than anyone wants to admit

I've studies saying that between 1 in 5 and 1 in 10 people report having no real close friends, it's higher of younger sample groups

I've met alot of normies who seem perfectly NT, but then you realize once you get to know them their "friends' are facile and they have noone to talk to frequently

That's a small minority of people who report no close friends

 

[Alt Number 3]

it’s because you got 100,000 posts. Maybe idk

 

[Xangsane]

it’s because you got 100,000 posts. Maybe idk

I was severely bullied at school and I try to make friends but many don't seem interested with me platonically.

 

[Deleted member 41284]

Through a blasian girl I went on a couple of dates with but she called it off as she was Christian and she didn't think we were compatible.

Ahh okay fairs.

Tbf not having many friends isn’t the worst thing in this day and age. A lot of people that I know don’t have tons of friends.

Having a fiancée is wayyy more important. Once you guys start a family, you’ll see that friends don’t matter as much as you think they did.

 

[JovenCansao]

Normal for the average man.
As men age most will revolve their entire social life around their partner.

 

[Deleted member 21345]

That's a small minority of people who report no close friends

I'd say it's a sizable, non-trivial minority reporting 0, then think about how many have 1 or 2

Same with inceldom. A minority are legit virgins, then think about how many got laid once or twice but never again. Or how many are nearcels with long dry spells.

The overall scenario for loneliness, sexual or otherwise is quite glum

 

[mvp2v1]

Through a blasian girl I went on a couple of dates with but she called it off as she was Christian and she didn't think we were compatible.

wait so are you with her or not? My onitis was very christian as well, i think incompatible means not good looking enough

also I relate to this thread. thankfully i have my brother so im not a total loner

 

[Xangsane]

wait so are you with her or not? My onitis was very christian as well, i think incompatible means not good looking enough

I'm not with her, my fiancée is mulatta and Muslim

also I relate to this thread. thankfully i have my brother so im not a total loner

Glad to hear it.

 

[Sprinkles]

you won’t need friends once you start a family

 

[Xangsane]

Ahh okay fairs.

Tbf not having many friends isn’t the worst thing in this day and age. A lot of people that I know don’t have tons of friends.

Having a fiancée is wayyy more important. Once you guys start a family, you’ll see that friends don’t matter as much as you think they did.

Thank you
I just feel like a leech relying on my fiancée for friends. I think they're important for social status and clout but my social status was always low.

 

[Xangsane]

you won’t need friends once you start a family

Social status matters

 

[aesthetic beauty]

Title. I was severely bullied throughout school.
The girl who introduced me to my fiancée, though I try to talk to her platonically, tries not to talk to me. I struggle making and keeping friends I feel most are acquaintances at best and many of my connections fizzle out.

Its becoming more normal. If you were bullied and are neurodivergent, it is an expected outcome, but most people won't have sympathy for your situation.

 

[Xangsane]

Normal for the average man.
As men age most will revolve their entire social life around their partner.

Do I have the right to feel like a leech?

Thank you
I just feel like a leech relying on my fiancée for friends. I think they're important for social status and clout but my social status was always low.

 

[Xangsane]

Its becoming more normal. If you were bullied and are neurodivergent, it is an expected outcome,

Yes I was always suspected neurodivergent and it was confirmed once I was 24

ut most people won't have sympathy for your situation.

Why not? Heartless fucks

 

[5OuttaTen]

Seems normal enough. Most people as they get older don’t see their friends so much, just focusing on work, responsibilities and family

 

[Xangsane]

I'd say it's a sizable, non-trivial minority reporting 0, then think about how many have 1 or 2

Same with inceldom. A minority are legit virgins, then think about how many got laid once or twice but never again. Or how many are nearcels with long dry spells.

The overall scenario for loneliness, sexual or otherwise is quite glum

I also laugh at people who think looks determine social status.

 

[Xangsane]

Seems normal enough. Most people as they get older don’t see their friends so much, just focusing on work, responsibilities and family

I thought social status mattered.

 

[Sprinkles]

Title. I was severely bullied throughout school.

for what?

 

[5OuttaTen]

I thought social status mattered.

It’s all about the face bro

 

[aesthetic beauty]

Yes I was always suspected neurodivergent and it was confirmed once I was 24

Why not? Heartless fucks

Men are valued for their success, dominance, and strength. If the average person, who has lived their life on cruise control hears that you don't have friends it will turn them off. There will be people who will love you unconditionally, but that is rare.

 

[Xangsane]

for what?

"gay" looks and neurodivergence and race (by full whites)

 

[Sprinkles]

It’s all about the face bro

and cold showers

 

[Xangsane]

It’s all about the face bro

I also laugh at people who think looks determine social status.

 

[Xangsane]

Men are valued for their success, dominance, and strength. If the average person, who has lived their life on cruise control hears that you don't have friends it will turn them off. There will be people who will love you unconditionally, but that is rare.

No wonder as an adult people don't want to befriend me. At all. I struggle a lot

 

[5OuttaTen]

Looks determine social status. If an ugly guy is silent and spends no time with others he’s an incel loser. If an attractive guy does it he’s on his grind and focused

 

[recessedd]

normal no, normal for most on this site yes

 

[aesthetic beauty]

I thought social status mattered.

It does. Especially with wealthy people. Friends in highschool and college can definitely open doors for you.

 

[Xangsane]

Looks determine social status. If an ugly guy is silent and spends no time with others he’s an incel loser. If an attractive guy does it he’s on his grind and focused

No it doesn't. I was rated Chadlite and struggle socially

 

[5OuttaTen]

No it doesn't. I was rated Chadlite and struggle socially

I didn’t mention performance I mentioned perception. But looks do okay a big role. There are people who I hate but if they were more attractive then I’d want them to be around me

 

[Xangsane]

It does. Especially with wealthy people. Friends in highschool and college can definitely open doors for you.

That was what I wanted. Friends with high status people. But even mid and low status people wanted nothing to do with me, and posh kids at school and uni saw me as a desperate ethnic trying to befriend them

 

[Deleted member 41284]

Thank you
I just feel like a leech relying on my fiancée for friends. I think they're important for social status and clout but my social status was always low.

Girls find it easier to make friends. A lot of the way I made friends with guys at uni was through girls I knew - who would get chatting to other girls in the bathroom, and would then come with their guy friends to hang out with us.

 

[Xangsane]

normal no, normal for most on this site yes

Y not normal

 

[recessedd]

Y not normal

“normal” people have more than 1 friend pretty simple

 

[aesthetic beauty]

No it doesn't. I was rated Chadlite and struggle socially

You are an outlier. Neurotypicality plays a role too. Also, you said you were chubby in highschool.

That was what I wanted. Friends with high status people. But even mid and low status people wanted nothing to do with me, and posh kids at school and uni saw me as a desperate ethnic trying to befriend them

You can't be a clout chaser or even be perceived as one. It's a big temptation because those people can open doors for you, but good friends too.

 

[Xangsane]

I didn’t mention performance I mentioned perception. But looks do okay a big role. There are people who I hate but if they were more attractive then I’d want them to be around me

I struggled a lot

 

[JovenCansao]

Do I have the right to feel like a leech?

No, if anything she wins when that happens.

 

[Xangsane]

Girls find it easier to make friends. A lot of the way I made friends with guys at uni was through girls I knew - who would get chatting to other girls in the bathroom, and would then come with their guy friends to hang out with us.

I feel so jealous I wasn't born a girl. How the hell do they manage to have a good social circle, including non nt ones

 

[5OuttaTen]

I struggled a lot
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[Xangsane]

No, if anything she wins when that happens.

Why?

 

[Xangsane]

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That's me with an anime filter

 

[Sprinkles]

It’s all about the face bro

No it doesn't. I was rated Chadlite and struggle socially

Men are valued for their success, dominance, and strength. If the average person, who has lived their life on cruise control hears that you don't have friends it will turn them off. There will be people who will love you unconditionally, but that is rare.

dominance and strength = height

height = success

face matters a lot in regards to dating with women, for larger quality of life outside of dating height plays a significant role.

 

[Xangsane]

You are an outlier. Neurotypicality plays a role too. Also, you said you were chubby in highschool.

You can't be a clout chaser or even be perceived as one. It's a big temptation because those people can open doors for you, but good friends too.

Even at uni it was hard to make TRUE friends. Not temporary

 

[5OuttaTen]

That's me with an anime filter

Why’d you put it there

 

[Xangsane]

dominance and strength = height

height = success

face matters a lot in regards to dating with women, for larger quality of life outside of dating height plays a significant role.

I wish I were nt and 6'3