My friend told me that i should “find myself”

[cute]

How? How are you supposed to find yourself in environments that wont accept you unless you are at your most performative version. How are you supposed to find and accept yourself when no one else will
Every time i talk to people IRL i wish i could just give them a glimpse of what i feel but im too scared to do that. When im drunk it slips out a little but i will never go in depth with anyone - in every moment like that you realize how alone you are.
I wish life was a movie so you could “find” and accept yourself, and then there will suddenly be people, friends, girlfriends that accept you and respect you. But that never happens IRL. No such people exist

 

[klip11]

How? How are you supposed to find yourself in environments that wont accept you unless you are at your most performative version. How are you supposed to find and accept yourself when no one else will
Every time i talk to people IRL i wish i could just give them a glimpse of what i feel but im too scared to do that. When im drunk it slips out a little but i will never go in depth with anyone - in every moment like that you realize how alone you are.
I wish life was a movie so you could “find” and accept yourself, and then there will suddenly be people, friends, girlfriends that accept you and respect you. But that never happens IRL. No such people exist

Wonderful Jesus

 

[enlightful]

How? How are you supposed to find yourself in environments that wont accept you unless you are at your most performative version. How are you supposed to find and accept yourself when no one else will
Every time i talk to people IRL i wish i could just give them a glimpse of what i feel but im too scared to do that. When im drunk it slips out a little but i will never go in depth with anyone - in every moment like that you realize how alone you are.
I wish life was a movie so you could “find” and accept yourself, and then there will suddenly be people, friends, girlfriends that accept you and respect you. But that never happens IRL. No such people exist

You have to be attractive before you can "find yourself"

 

[cute]

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You have to be attractive before you can "find yourself"

There is nothing looks have to do with finding yourself. I can be the ugliest man alive and dress how i want. Talk how i want. Interact with people i want. Believe in what i want.
But “I” am literally nothing. I interact with people i don’t like. I developed goals, thoughts and beliefs i don’t even like, that i am not even confident in. I don’t speak about the things i truly like, in a way i would want to speak about them. I dont even know what i like.

 

[enlightful]

There is nothing looks have to do with finding yourself. I can be the ugliest man alive and dress how i want. Talk how i want. Interact with people i want. Believe in what i want.
But “I” am literally nothing. I interact with people i don’t like. I developed goals, thoughts and beliefs i don’t even like, that i am not even confident in. I don’t speak about the things i truly like, in a way i would want to speak about them. I dont even know what i like.

Well then you have to pursue the discovery of your preferences

Figure out what you like and dont like

For instance I like this lil nigga:

 

[cute]

Well then you have to pursue the discovery of your preferences

Figure out what you like and dont like

It’s not as easy when you are influenced pretty easily.
And even worse when you feel that what you would not be accepted at all by others

 

[Popstar867]

How? How are you supposed to find yourself in environments that wont accept you unless you are at your most performative version. How are you supposed to find and accept yourself when no one else will
Every time i talk to people IRL i wish i could just give them a glimpse of what i feel but im too scared to do that. When im drunk it slips out a little but i will never go in depth with anyone - in every moment like that you realize how alone you are.
I wish life was a movie so you could “find” and accept yourself, and then there will suddenly be people, friends, girlfriends that accept you and respect you. But that never happens IRL. No such people exist

Finding about yourself is a real thing that I experienced after spending a year alone , it’s basically finding purpose you dumb fuck

 

[cute]

Finding about yourself is a real thing that I experienced after spending a year alone , it’s basically finding purpose you dumb fuck

No fix for your comprehension issues sadly, faggot

 

[Lefty Rankin]

How? How are you supposed to find yourself in environments that wont accept you unless you are at your most performative version. How are you supposed to find and accept yourself when no one else will
Every time i talk to people IRL i wish i could just give them a glimpse of what i feel but im too scared to do that. When im drunk it slips out a little but i will never go in depth with anyone - in every moment like that you realize how alone you are.
I wish life was a movie so you could “find” and accept yourself, and then there will suddenly be people, friends, girlfriends that accept you and respect you. But that never happens IRL. No such people exist

You need to quit being such a fucking bitch. Why do you need society's acceptance/approval to know who you are, what you like, and what you don't like?

Your attitude towards society should be, "This is who I am. If you don't like it I don't care. I'm gonna be here every day. And hey, come over here and suck my dick."

Go ahead and kick your friend to the curb. You don't need to be hanging around anyone who says something like, "You need to find yourself.". Sounds like female thinking. "I need to find myself." sounds like something some dumb ass bitch on a gap year in South East Asia would say. Like some Eat Pray Love type of shit.

 

[MoggerGaston]

You need to quit being such a fucking bitch. Why do you need society's acceptance/approval to know who you are, what you like, and what you don't like?

Your attitude towards society should be, "This is who I am. If you don't like it I don't care. I'm gonna be here every day. And hey, come over here and suck my dick."

Go ahead and kick your friend to the curb. You don't need to be hanging around anyone who says something like, "You need to find yourself.". Sounds like female thinking. "I need to find myself." sounds like something some dumb ass bitch on a gap year in South East Asia would say. Like some Eat Pray Love type of shit.

This.
Result of this is complete loneliness btw but this is normal male life in modern society and should be cherished.

Pray for the destruction of society, revolt, rape, steal.

 

[cute]

The only way to achieve this:

Your attitude towards society should be, "This is who I am. If you don't like it I don't care. I'm gonna be here every day. And hey, come over here and suck my dick."

Is this:

"You need to find yourself."

That was the whole point.
But humans are social beings, how could anyone truly cope with having no one? Because if i didnt supress my feelings, interests, hobbies etc.. i would 100% be even lonelier
You cant live like that

 

[cute]

this is normal male life in modern society

maybe in spaces like this and reddit, not IRL

 

[MoggerGaston]

maybe in spaces like this and reddit, not IRL

IRL is worse. As you say: everyone is fake there.

People on this site are real and themselves. So you can find real connection here which is impossible IRL.

 

[cute]

IRL is worse. As you say: everyone is fake there.

People on this site are real and themselves. So you can find real connection here which is impossible IRL.

almost everyone i meet has pretty functional families, a lot of friends, success with girls.. hard to be lonely like that on some level
How happy they truly are i cant tell but im pretty sure i am good at figuring it out and i feel like most people even if they fake who they really are they can somehow be satisfied with that fake persona

 

[MoggerGaston]

almost everyone i meet has pretty functional families,

oke so then you are already meeting only privileged people who were born with good parents and families.
It's never a person's own decision to have a functional family. You are born into one (privileged) or not.

a lot of friends, success with girls.. hard to be lonely like that on some level
How happy they truly are i cant tell but im pretty sure i am good at figuring it out and i feel like most people even if they fake who they really are they can somehow be satisfied with that fake persona

I think it's just extremely privileged people you are talking about.

When you have average looks, you don't even get matches on dating apps. like literally ZERO.
I have to believe that young average people can have succes with girls?

tales from the basement.

 

[LTNUser]

He's coping

 

[cute]

When you have average looks, you don't even get matches on dating apps. like literally ZERO.
I have to believe that young average people can have succes with girls?

tales from the basement.

im not talking about average guys on OLD. I’m talking about below average guys slaying IRL through a normally developed brain or some other means (status, persistence, money…)
I have no idea what OLD is for average guys and dont care tbh

oke so then you are already meeting only privileged people who were born with good parents and families.
It's never a person's own decision to have a functional family. You are born into one (privileged) or not..

Its never the persons choice but most seem to have relatively normal families

 

[Gonthar]

How? How are you supposed to find yourself in environments that wont accept you unless you are at your most performative version. How are you supposed to find and accept yourself when no one else will

Lol, here in my country at many TV talent shows when the jury rejects some wannabe singer or performer they often tell him similar bullshit like "You need to find yourself, you need to find your own voice...Only then, you can come back here again and we'll see...". So it's just a polite way to tell them to fuck off...

 

[cute]

Lol, here in my country at many TV talent shows when the jury rejects some wannabe singer or performer they often tell him similar bullshit like "You need to find yourself, you need to find your own voice...Only then, you can come back here again and we'll see...". So it's just a polite way to tell them to fuck off...

Not really the same situation
I was a bit drunk so i forgot the specifics but i think he told me that because i hang out with some other people i obviously dont really fit in and because i have told him multiple times that i dont really know what i wanna do in life, and i did tell him before that i change myself sometimes just for the sake of fitting in
He then started talking about how he doesnt care to change himself for others and how i should try being more like that and “finding” myself

 

[Meteor21]

He wants gay sex with you

 

[enlightful]

And even worse when you feel that what you would not be accepted at all by others

if its what you geniunely like who gives a fuck if no one else likes it

Ur better off liking something no one else does then forcing yourself to like something you truly dont like just cause everyone else does, if im being deadass

 

[JustCallMeKash]

There is nothing looks have to do with finding yourself. I can be the ugliest man alive and dress how i want. Talk how i want. Interact with people i want. Believe in what i want.
But “I” am literally nothing. I interact with people i don’t like. I developed goals, thoughts and beliefs i don’t even like, that i am not even confident in. I don’t speak about the things i truly like, in a way i would want to speak about them. I dont even know what i like.

If you were attrcative you would hvae found urself because people wouldn't judge you no matter who you are, if you are the ugliest man alive it doesn't matter who you are people will belittle you and put you in a box that they created

 

[JustCallMeKash]

If you were attrcative you would hvae found urself because people wouldn't judge you no matter who you are, if you are the ugliest man alive it doesn't matter who you are people will belittle you and put you in a box that they created

Halo and horn effect but with logic