antiantifa
Fuck you.
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Question:
Can people explain to me why I see a disturbing amount of early 20's just giving up?
This is a disturbing trend I've noticed lately that always plays out the same way. Early 20 something man or woman has never been in a relationship before. Hits the gym all the time and puts themselves out there only to strike out. Becomes jaded and just gives up on dating.Answers:
"When it takes over 12 years to even get a date there's something badly wrong, I've had teeth straightening, different hair styles, I dress smartly, I once went from 135lbs to 185lbs at 8% body fat (was ripped), I've added random women on FB, been on all of the dating apps since they were released and still rarely get matches. There's a saying that I pretty much live by it goes like this "I would rather burn out than fade away" I didn't give up by fading away I burnt out,I literally have nothing more to give. I go to bed at night content I think we'll I've had enough there not much more beyond this point, I've experience all fate will allow so now I'm happy enough to just slip away in my sleep.
I'm 28 now so I'm towards the back end of all the young, dumb up for fun days. The days of good looking, slim, childless women are over, I had my window and now it's gone. It didn't happen when it mattered. If there's any advice I can give you younger guy it's this "do things while they still matter" as your window of opportunity is slipping away each day."
"When social media makes girls unapproachable, and dating apps making girls only pick the best, wtf you expect us to do? Fuck this shit... Better just sip on a beer watching at birds every night..."
"As a guy who's 5'5", I stopped dating because the very limited amount of attention I got from women was nowhere near worth the cost of having to both face constant (and often humiliating) rejection, and of having to dedicate most of my free time to trying to form relationships that end up going nowhere. "Giving up" improved my mental health tremendously."
"Because when you are interested in a girl. Ask her out and she ignores you. And then she tells your roomate that no guys are into her.
It really kills you."
"I am 28 now. Endless boundless optimism is exhausting.
I have come to terms with my flaws. I have come to realise that the bitterness thats in me would turn any poor woman who gives me a chance into a Diet version of hell.
And yet I feel justified in staying this way, I feel jsutified staying this hateful person because my experiences have made me this way."
"I'm not in the early 20's, but I am dead tired of always having to be the one who has to put in the effort, risk being taken advantage of, risk being smeared across Facebook as a creepy person, risk false accusations, mind games, and what if she is sqrewing with me so her and her female friends can laugh and talk crap about me on a later time?"
"The issue for me is that I already do everything you stated. I am very happy in life, confident, take care of myself, have a great group of friends, but I still want, and can't find, a relationship. It's human nature to want to connect with others. I'm not giving up but it's exhausting"
"that's pretty much me. i quited trying to date in the western world around age 23 after wasting thousands of hour hitting on girls, dead end dates, clubs.. i just saved money in the west then went to Asia and banged 5 girls a day for a month or two(no money spent other than then restaurant or taxis) but i kind of regret it though i just went to Greece and had a 17 years old super hot Romanian girl. i think it was possible for me to meet a decent hot girl if i was constantly improving myself but its hard to give up when you face so much rejection you can't take anymore."
"Most Woman make it clear they only want top percentage of men. They are only interested in tall hot guys and as a 5'5 guy dont fit the model as do many average guys. I have just given up after realising the juice is not worth the squeeze."
"Definitely said by an attractive person in a relationship. Why are we giving up? Because it makes absolutely no sense to keep crushing your own self esteem chasing false hope. If someone I have a chance to meet was interested in me, I would have met her by now. My best shot is someone on another continent, and the hurdles of trying to make that happen, even if she was interested, make it not worth it."
"Because courtship developed as a way for a man to prove his fitness for a relationship as a provider and a protector.
To expect men to invest into more and more women without the potential payout of a committed monogamous relationship is asking too much.
Women in their 20s have made it clear they are not interested in monogamy so men aren’t interested therefore in investing time, energy or resources into them.
Not sure why this is shocking or confusing"
"gave up at 16. I am 24 now. I've tried more than just a few times but here's something about rejection, it never fails to show up. On paper I am not the most attractive candidate either, below average in looks, below 6 ft, etc. So I dont blame anyone for my lack of dating success but my genes. If I am being honest I dont think a relationship would fulfill me either... I have always fancied a casual dating lifestyle but I am too ugly for that obviously. So getting out there knowing I will be rejected for sure will be setting myself up for failure and disappointment. And why would I do that to myself anymore? I've done it enough. It's time for me to step away and let the worthy be together."