hatetobemale
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A vast percentage of women today are openly bisexual, both according to statistics and the frequent declarations on Reddit and other social media platforms. I know with high certainty that these same women almost never require a deep connection or a complex personality assessment to find another woman attractive or to sleep with her.
And yet, only when it comes to the average looking man, personality suddenly becomes an absolute prerequisite. This might sound normal, even romantic, when women constantly say personality is what matters most to them in a man. No one stops to question it. But in reality, this should be a massive red flag.
Think about it. Why is it that only a man, or at least only the average man, must possess the right personality while they dont demand that same personality from other women they find attractive and have no problem jumping into bed with?
Why is it that for you, as an average looking man, it is considered sexual exploitation to desire sex for the sake of sex, but it is never considered exploitation when she has sex with another woman purely for pleasure?
Why do only you as a man need status, standing, specific behavior, initiative, and effort? Or in other words, personality.
The ugly truth hidden behind the word personality is this
Because she perceives herself as the beautiful sex, she views her neotenous beauty as superior to the clunky and coarse male aesthetic. She sees the typical male appearance as aesthetically inferior to the female form. Therefore, while her beauty or another womans beauty is a sufficient payment to ignite attraction, your appearance as an average man is seen as a deficit.
A deficit that must be compensated for by what they call personality.
A woman only needs to bring herself, her beauty, to the table, and that is enough for a man and enough for another bisexual woman. But bringing yourself as a man is never enough for women.
Bottom line, personality is just an elegant way to mask a cold truth. For you, as an average man, to earn affection, love, or touch, you must fulfill a long checklist of conditions to compensate for the aesthetic inferiority of the male look.
Personality is actually a grocery list of
Behavior, initiative, effort, actions, status, and class.
These are demanded only from you as a man and never from a woman or a pretty boy with androgynous features.
Its not even that she loves your personality, its that she doesnt see your personality at all. She subconsciously assigns you negative traits without even knowing you, simply because of your coarse, typical male appearance. To her, your personality is repulsive until proven otherwise, just because of how you look.
Your personality is only considered beautiful if it is useful and of service to her. And even then, you are on a lifetime probation. Any shift in your mood can render you unattractive in personality and even more so in appearance.
Because you have a coarse male look, she doesnt see a beautiful soul behind the rough exterior. This is why you are required to be a Doer, just so she might acknowledge you even have a soul.
Just as human society is wired to show indifference or hostility toward men because of their coarse look, it expresses love and empathy toward neotenous creatures like children, women, and even cats. The personality of a neotenous creature is beautiful until proven otherwise. And even when its shitty, it is often excused.
For you as a man, your personality is invisible at best or negative at worst until you spend every waking moment proving otherwise.
When a woman says the word personality, its not just a red flag for me, it makes me feel sick to my stomach.
And yet, only when it comes to the average looking man, personality suddenly becomes an absolute prerequisite. This might sound normal, even romantic, when women constantly say personality is what matters most to them in a man. No one stops to question it. But in reality, this should be a massive red flag.
Think about it. Why is it that only a man, or at least only the average man, must possess the right personality while they dont demand that same personality from other women they find attractive and have no problem jumping into bed with?
Why is it that for you, as an average looking man, it is considered sexual exploitation to desire sex for the sake of sex, but it is never considered exploitation when she has sex with another woman purely for pleasure?
Why do only you as a man need status, standing, specific behavior, initiative, and effort? Or in other words, personality.
The ugly truth hidden behind the word personality is this
Because she perceives herself as the beautiful sex, she views her neotenous beauty as superior to the clunky and coarse male aesthetic. She sees the typical male appearance as aesthetically inferior to the female form. Therefore, while her beauty or another womans beauty is a sufficient payment to ignite attraction, your appearance as an average man is seen as a deficit.
A deficit that must be compensated for by what they call personality.
A woman only needs to bring herself, her beauty, to the table, and that is enough for a man and enough for another bisexual woman. But bringing yourself as a man is never enough for women.
Bottom line, personality is just an elegant way to mask a cold truth. For you, as an average man, to earn affection, love, or touch, you must fulfill a long checklist of conditions to compensate for the aesthetic inferiority of the male look.
Personality is actually a grocery list of
Behavior, initiative, effort, actions, status, and class.
These are demanded only from you as a man and never from a woman or a pretty boy with androgynous features.
Its not even that she loves your personality, its that she doesnt see your personality at all. She subconsciously assigns you negative traits without even knowing you, simply because of your coarse, typical male appearance. To her, your personality is repulsive until proven otherwise, just because of how you look.
Your personality is only considered beautiful if it is useful and of service to her. And even then, you are on a lifetime probation. Any shift in your mood can render you unattractive in personality and even more so in appearance.
Because you have a coarse male look, she doesnt see a beautiful soul behind the rough exterior. This is why you are required to be a Doer, just so she might acknowledge you even have a soul.
Just as human society is wired to show indifference or hostility toward men because of their coarse look, it expresses love and empathy toward neotenous creatures like children, women, and even cats. The personality of a neotenous creature is beautiful until proven otherwise. And even when its shitty, it is often excused.
For you as a man, your personality is invisible at best or negative at worst until you spend every waking moment proving otherwise.
When a woman says the word personality, its not just a red flag for me, it makes me feel sick to my stomach.
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