social anxiety is ruining my life

[tr1fle]

I used to be so good at having conversations with people and made friends super easily in middle school/early high school. I’m graduating now, and somehow I’ve regressed and have become just a husk of a person and I have nothing within me.

I don’t know what happened. I have friends, but if anyone outside of my circle tries to speak to me I feel so fucking bad for them because I just stand there and think “ok what is the best possible thing to say? how can I be funny here? What can I say that won’t make this person regret speaking to me?” And by the time I think of something it’s already been too long to reply anything and now it’s just awkward for both of us and i just smile like a little bitch.
I used to be so good at conversing but now I’m stuck inside of my own head. I see all of my peers talking to each other like normal people and having so much fun, and I can’t help but feel jealous. and when I DO say something, people look at me with disdain because I’ve already solidified my position as a loser.
one time, we had group work in English and I was partnered with two other classmates. everytime I would get the courage to say something I’d get cut off and I’d realize how little these people thought of me. Everytime I’d try to repeat myself, I’d get cut off again and they wouldn’t even look at me. it’s even worse than being outright bullied because at least people acknowledge you but to my classmates i am just genuine garbage. It wasn’t always like this. I used to be really well liked but after I started going mute in social settings, everyone viewed me differently.
luckily, I won’t be seeing these people again in college and I want to change. How are they not scared of saying the wrong things? I don’t know why I always get so in my head whenever I’m having an interaction, but I know that I can’t keep doing this.
Is there ways 2 fix this and become confident before i go into college?

 

[Niebvll]

Dnr but put this in off topic

 

[iroh]

neurodivergent problems

we try to act neurotypical and this is the realization that you arent "normal"

I always get so in my head whenever I’m having an interaction,

signs of high inhibition

you probably take too long to respond and it makes you look weird

take less time to respond and stop worrying so fucking much about what you say

 

[tit]

I used to be so good at having conversations with people and made friends super easily in middle school/early high school. I’m graduating now, and somehow I’ve regressed and have become just a husk of a person and I have nothing within me.

I don’t know what happened. I have friends, but if anyone outside of my circle tries to speak to me I feel so fucking bad for them because I just stand there and think “ok what is the best possible thing to say? how can I be funny here? What can I say that won’t make this person regret speaking to me?” And by the time I think of something it’s already been too long to reply anything and now it’s just awkward for both of us and i just smile like a little bitch.
I used to be so good at conversing but now I’m stuck inside of my own head. I see all of my peers talking to each other like normal people and having so much fun, and I can’t help but feel jealous. and when I DO say something, people look at me with disdain because I’ve already solidified my position as a loser.
one time, we had group work in English and I was partnered with two other classmates. everytime I would get the courage to say something I’d get cut off and I’d realize how little these people thought of me. Everytime I’d try to repeat myself, I’d get cut off again and they wouldn’t even look at me. it’s even worse than being outright bullied because at least people acknowledge you but to my classmates i am just genuine garbage. It wasn’t always like this. I used to be really well liked but after I started going mute in social settings, everyone viewed me differently.
luckily, I won’t be seeing these people again in college and I want to change. How are they not scared of saying the wrong things? I don’t know why I always get so in my head whenever I’m having an interaction, but I know that I can’t keep doing this.
Is there ways 2 fix this and become confident before i go into college?

Social anxiety is not a thing, you are just ugly. GG.

 

[Matt_r7x]

I used to be so good at having conversations with people and made friends super easily in middle school/early high school. I’m graduating now, and somehow I’ve regressed and have become just a husk of a person and I have nothing within me.

I don’t know what happened. I have friends, but if anyone outside of my circle tries to speak to me I feel so fucking bad for them because I just stand there and think “ok what is the best possible thing to say? how can I be funny here? What can I say that won’t make this person regret speaking to me?” And by the time I think of something it’s already been too long to reply anything and now it’s just awkward for both of us and i just smile like a little bitch.
I used to be so good at conversing but now I’m stuck inside of my own head. I see all of my peers talking to each other like normal people and having so much fun, and I can’t help but feel jealous. and when I DO say something, people look at me with disdain because I’ve already solidified my position as a loser.
one time, we had group work in English and I was partnered with two other classmates. everytime I would get the courage to say something I’d get cut off and I’d realize how little these people thought of me. Everytime I’d try to repeat myself, I’d get cut off again and they wouldn’t even look at me. it’s even worse than being outright bullied because at least people acknowledge you but to my classmates i am just genuine garbage. It wasn’t always like this. I used to be really well liked but after I started going mute in social settings, everyone viewed me differently.
luckily, I won’t be seeing these people again in college and I want to change. How are they not scared of saying the wrong things? I don’t know why I always get so in my head whenever I’m having an interaction, but I know that I can’t keep doing this.
Is there ways 2 fix this and become confident before i go into college?

i’ve got the same problem.

I think the reason it was relatively easier to make friends in middle school/high school was because we were less self aware of our looks. Everyone was about the same height and everyone was just a little blob with a baby face.

Atp just talk to AI bruh

 

[GabachoCopium]

I used to be so good at having conversations with people and made friends super easily in middle school/early high school. I’m graduating now, and somehow I’ve regressed and have become just a husk of a person and I have nothing within me.

I don’t know what happened. I have friends, but if anyone outside of my circle tries to speak to me I feel so fucking bad for them because I just stand there and think “ok what is the best possible thing to say? how can I be funny here? What can I say that won’t make this person regret speaking to me?” And by the time I think of something it’s already been too long to reply anything and now it’s just awkward for both of us and i just smile like a little bitch.
I used to be so good at conversing but now I’m stuck inside of my own head. I see all of my peers talking to each other like normal people and having so much fun, and I can’t help but feel jealous. and when I DO say something, people look at me with disdain because I’ve already solidified my position as a loser.
one time, we had group work in English and I was partnered with two other classmates. everytime I would get the courage to say something I’d get cut off and I’d realize how little these people thought of me. Everytime I’d try to repeat myself, I’d get cut off again and they wouldn’t even look at me. it’s even worse than being outright bullied because at least people acknowledge you but to my classmates i am just genuine garbage. It wasn’t always like this. I used to be really well liked but after I started going mute in social settings, everyone viewed me differently.
luckily, I won’t be seeing these people again in college and I want to change. How are they not scared of saying the wrong things? I don’t know why I always get so in my head whenever I’m having an interaction, but I know that I can’t keep doing this.
Is there ways 2 fix this and become confident before i go into college?

just go to a psychiatrist and tell them u have anxiety then
take some lyrica, youll be fine lmao

 

[jwna]

when you cant think of what to say its just from high inhib. the same thing happened to me, in my case it was due to prolonged isolation during covid. the reason for high inhib and social anxiety is because youre not used to speaking to other people so when you do you subconsciously view the situation as a threat, if what im saying sounds stupid just google it. only way to really fix it is exposure therapy by cold approaching or become more confident my improving yourself.