The Core Pillars of Male Attractiveness (Research-Based Breakdown)

[RemyOg]

I've been really invested in the topic of what truly makes someone attractive, not from a social standpoint or what people tend to say or believe, but from what scientific research actually suggests. I think I've compiled a list of traits that make up 99% of romantic/sexual attraction for men. I'd love to hear opinions on this, did I miss anything?

They're ranked 1 through 6 in order of relevance.

1. Physical Attraction

• Height – Being tall is obviously important. The taller the better, but realistically, as long as you're at least 2+ inches taller than most women, you'll probably do just fine. Generally, being between 5'8" and 6'5" is ideal. Research shows 5'11" or taller is preferred. Anything over 7 feet starts becoming unattractive, however.
• Sexual Dimorphism – Perhaps one of the most important factors in sexual attraction as a man: you don’t want to look like a woman. This is true for most guys. Sure, some can pull off a few feminine features, but that’s usually a niche appeal, which isn’t the point here. We’re aiming for broad appeal. This is a huge topic in itself, but to name a few important traits: facial bone mass (cheekbones, brow ridge, etc.), appropriate body hair, muscular body and wide frame, thick eyebrows, and so on.
• Symmetry – Having a symmetrical face is a universal sign of good genetics and attractiveness. If your face is largely asymmetrical, you’re unattractive. If it’s symmetrical, you’re attractive. This shouldn't come as a surprise.
• Skin & Glow – Having clear skin and a "natural glow" is very important, as it signals good health. This means minimal texture, no acne, no hyperpigmentation, not being too dark or too pale.
• Scent/Smell – If you stink, you're automatically done. Doesn’t matter if you're a PSL God, if a woman catches a whiff, it's over. This ties into your hygiene, diet, grooming, and use of cologne or other scent enhancers. Avoid feminine scents, especially if you look masculine. Nothing more off-putting than a 6'6" muscle hunk smelling like lavender and roses.
• Eyes – "Hunter eyes," or the closest thing to them, are ideal. If you’ve been down the looksmaxxing rabbit hole, you already know what they are, I don’t need to explain.
• Hands/Vascularity – Super underrated. Women notice hands more than you think. Keep them trimmed, get manicures if possible, this falls under grooming. You also need vascularity, especially in forearms and hands. Think flavonoids, vasodilators, electrolytes, hydration, low body fat, training, you name it. But, everything in moderation. Too lean or overly vascular (e.g., from steroids) can look excessive and thus unattractive.
• Beard – Clean-shaven or full beards are often less ideal according to research. A light to heavy stubble is almost always more attractive. That said, if you have a god-tier jaw, or a very weak jaw, exposing or covering it accordingly might be better regardless of what research says.
• Fitness – Be lean, be relatively muscular (BMI between 22 and 27), engage in sports, cardio, athletic activities, eat well, optimize your hormones, sleep well, etc. These are foundational to physical attractiveness.

2. Charisma
(Charisma is complex, but these are the personality and charismatic traits most often cited by research. You don’t always have to be these things, just make others perceive that you are.)

• High Openness – Curiosity, willingness to try new things, appreciation for art, music, and intellectual pursuits.
• High Conscientiousness – Organization, responsibility, dependability.
• High Extraversion – Sociability, energy from others, comfort in social settings.
• High Agreeableness – Compassion, cooperation, empathy.
• Low Neuroticism – Low tendency to experience anxiety, depression, or anger.
• Communicative Skills – Don’t stutter, enunciate clearly, speak slowly, articulate well, be a good storyteller.
• Honesty & Reliability – Be seen as honest and dependable. Follow through, avoid blatant lies, offer small gestures.
• Powerful & Dominant – Controversial, but dominance matters. Don’t let others walk over you. Be assertive when needed. If you’re anyone’s doormat, your social attractiveness drops significantly. Stand up for yourself (or others) when you know you can win.

3. Social Status

• Successful Career – Success in your field gives you status. Research on which careers are attractive is mixed, but some (e.g., lawyer, military) are consistently seen as appealing. Regardless, be successful at whatever you do.
• Social Media Presence – Having a solid online presence (+1k followers), an attractive profile, and good content makes you miles more attractive in today’s world.
• Good Network – Ties into wealth and career. Be the "I know a guy" person. The more high-value people you’re connected to, the higher your status.
• Wealth – Do I even need to explain? If you’re wealthy, it hardly matters how you look, you’ll still appeal to most women.
• Rare Travel/Experiences/Hobbies – Be a sexual peacock. Unique experiences, niche travels, or high-class hobbies (art, music, fencing, etc.) make you irresistible.
• Mystery & Emotional Inaccessibility – Reveal very little but imply a lot. The more mysterious you are, the more attractive you become.

4. Intelligence
(Like charisma, intelligence is hard to define. But again, it's about appearing smart, even if you're not.)

• Giftedness – If you excel at anything, show it. Expertise is very attractive, be it math, chess, art, music, cooking, even cleaning. Einstein was ugly, but he could’ve bagged Marilyn Monroe (probably false, but fun to imagine).
• Engage in Intellectual Pursuits – Read, watch films, learn languages, explore art. Even if you’re faking it, you’ll thank me later.
• Extensive Vocabulary – Ties into communication, but worth emphasizing: knowing a wide range of words (and using them well) boosts perceived intelligence a lot. Just don’t overdo it.

5. Mutual Interests
(This depends on the woman. If you’re targeting someone specific, learn her interests, music, films, hobbies, and show genuine interest. Women love it when a man engages with things they like. If you’re just going for broad appeal... I don’t know, listen to Lana del Rey or something modern women are into.)

6. Emotional Intelligence
(Foundation = Healthy coping mechanisms and healing from the past)
If you’ve got unresolved trauma and no emotional regulation, you’ll likely struggle to connect emotionally, especially romantically. This is the most overlooked aspect of attraction for men. Unlike men, women care a lot about emotional availability. That’s why "pretty boys" often beat hypermasculine guys, they seem more emotionally in tune.

• Empathy – Most men are terrible at this. Maybe we see it as feminine, or just aren't used to showing emotion. But women expect emotional attunement. If you can’t feel empathy, just learn how to fake it, psychopaths do it really well. You don’t have to be empathetic, just seem like you are.
• Emotional Support – Know how to comfort someone in a time of need. Learn your partner’s love language. This is essential to keeping long-term romantic relationships alive.
• Attachment Style – Don’t be too attached or too distant. Emotional unavailability is unattractive, and clinginess is off-putting. Find a balanced, secure style.
• Conflict Management – Critical in any relationship. Learn persuasion, rhetorical skill, and how to defuse conflict. You don’t always need to win, sometimes it’s smarter to appear like you’ve compromised. And if you're wrong, apologize properly. A tactical loss is better than long-term relationship damage.

This is the result of condensed weeks of research. I hope someone finds value in it. Of course, these aren’t the only factors at play in attraction, but they’re the most important ones according to research on love, dating, and sexual appeal. Fortunately, most of these can be developed, acquired naturally (or through surgery), or just blatantly faked if needed.

Low iq asf wealth will never get you genuine attraction gtfo Grey emotional iq??? Mutual interests? If Chad is a fuckin terrorist for fun she'll join him all that matters is your genetic material everything in this thread is bull. The only thing getting you genuine attraction is looks wtf is this thread?

 

[Zeekie]

Low iq asf wealth will never get you genuine attraction gtfo Grey emotional iq??? Mutual interests? If Chad is a fuckin terrorist for fun she'll join him all that matters is your genetic material everything in this thread is bull. The only thing getting you genuine attraction is looks wtf is this thread?

Are you, like... actually mentally fucked? Let's go through all this, lol

1. "Wealth will never get you genuine attraction" - This is a half-truth and contains a fallacy. You're reducing attraction to only physical characteristics because it's convenient for justifying your outlook in life, luckily, that's not how animal attraction works, this includes humans as well. Physical attraction is one of the main drivers of desire in a partner, but the resources of a partner are equally important. Polygyny threshold is a model in evolutionary biology that applies to mammals and birds, long story short, females of various species often choose to mate with a resource-rich male even if they're already paired, than mating with a resource-poor male, this not only extends to a male having a mate or not, but also certain desirable characteristics, females of many species and human women have consistently been shown to overlook negative physical attributes if the male in question has a high amount of resources.

"yEaH bUT ThatS noT reAl AtttrAction!!" Says who? The fuck? You fundamentally misunderstand female attraction psychology because you only see it for the men's lens. Men in 99.9% only care about a woman's physical attraction, but women of all species cannot afford to use this as the sole determinant factor when choosing a partner, signs of aggressions, previous reproductive success, resources, etc., are all considered for women when choosing a man. Wealth is biologically attractive the same way being hot is biologically attractive, they're just different kinds of attraction.

2. "Emotional Intelligence" - I'm not even going to try to debate this, my whole argument is this thought experiment: Picture two males, purely equal in all physical metrics, both very attractive. But one shows major signs of emotional intelligence, and the other clearly lacks them. One looks like they can comfort a woman and connect with them emotionally, and the other doesn't. Who do you think women are more likely to go for? It's obviously the emotional intelligent one, therefore emotional intelligence is attractive. Case closed. By the way, perceived levels of emotional intelligence and low aggression are significant of the pretty boy appeal.

3. "Mutual interests" - Yes nigga?

4. "Even if Chad is a terrorist a girl will follow them" - No nigga?

5. "The only thing getting you genuine attraction is looks" - Well of course the rest of the commentary I gave debunks this claim, "genuine" female attraction cannot be reduced to looks, maybe sexual attraction (and sexual attraction isn't "genuine" attraction, it is just that, sexual attraction), but definitely not something like romantic attraction or the desire to form a relationship. This is logically flawed, and even biologically flawed, there's research done on this field, and science says for a fact that you're not right.

You may say none of this matters and that it's all cope and that one should only focus on looks to maximize the attraction one gets from females, but is that really true? When two chads are equal, but one looks intelligent and the other doesn't, who's getting picked? When two chads are equal, but one is rich and the other isn't, who's getting picked? When two chads are equal, but one listens to her favorite band and the other doesn't, who's getting picked? If you want to be maximally attraction you NEED holistic development, you cannot be a one-dimensional character, because the more traits you have in your favor, the better your chances.

Schizo incels are at it again Talking about sum "girls will follow terrorists" is crazy work my guy

 

[Zeekie]

Are you, like... actually mentally fucked? Let's go through all this, lol

1. "Wealth will never get you genuine attraction" - This is a half-truth and contains a fallacy. You're reducing attraction to only physical characteristics because it's convenient for justifying your outlook in life, luckily, that's not how animal attraction works, this includes humans as well. Physical attraction is one of the main drivers of desire in a partner, but the resources of a partner are equally important. Polygyny threshold is a model in evolutionary biology that applies to mammals and birds, long story short, females of various species often choose to mate with a resource-rich male even if they're already paired, than mating with a resource-poor male, this not only extends to a male having a mate or not, but also certain desirable characteristics, females of many species and human women have consistently been shown to overlook negative physical attributes if the male in question has a high amount of resources.

"yEaH bUT ThatS noT reAl AtttrAction!!" Says who? The fuck? You fundamentally misunderstand female attraction psychology because you only see it for the men's lens. Men in 99.9% only care about a woman's physical attraction, but women of all species cannot afford to use this as the sole determinant factor when choosing a partner, signs of aggressions, previous reproductive success, resources, etc., are all considered for women when choosing a man. Wealth is biologically attractive the same way being hot is biologically attractive, they're just different kinds of attraction.

2. "Emotional Intelligence" - I'm not even going to try to debate this, my whole argument is this thought experiment: Picture two males, purely equal in all physical metrics, both very attractive. But one shows major signs of emotional intelligence, and the other clearly lacks them. One looks like they can comfort a woman and connect with them emotionally, and the other doesn't. Who do you think women are more likely to go for? It's obviously the emotional intelligent one, therefore emotional intelligence is attractive. Case closed. By the way, perceived levels of emotional intelligence and low aggression are significant of the pretty boy appeal.

3. "Mutual interests" - Yes nigga?

4. "Even if Chad is a terrorist a girl will follow them" - No nigga?

5. "The only thing getting you genuine attraction is looks" - Well of course the rest of the commentary I gave debunks this claim, "genuine" female attraction cannot be reduced to looks, maybe sexual attraction (and sexual attraction isn't "genuine" attraction, it is just that, sexual attraction), but definitely not something like romantic attraction or the desire to form a relationship. This is logically flawed, and even biologically flawed, there's research done on this field, and science says for a fact that you're not right.

You may say none of this matters and that it's all cope and that one should only focus on looks to maximize the attraction one gets from females, but is that really true? When two chads are equal, but one looks intelligent and the other doesn't, who's getting picked? When two chads are equal, but one is rich and the other isn't, who's getting picked? When two chads are equal, but one listens to her favorite band and the other doesn't, who's getting picked? If you want to be maximally attraction you NEED holistic development, you cannot be a one-dimensional character, because the more traits you have in your favor, the better your chances.

Schizo incels are at it again Talking about sum "girls will follow terrorists" is crazy work my guy

Your argument is wrong because it's reductionist and doesn't understand attraction biology. Social, emotional, intellectual, and economic factors all play a role in human attraction and specially in long-term dating strategies. Maybe if we're talking about hook-ups you're right, and even then that's highly debatable.

If you're suggesting that a woman's preferences for a man for a hook-up or one-night stand are valid representations of "genuine" attraction, then you're just plain out wrong. A woman can be physically attracted to their partner, but not be actually attracted to them. A woman may not physically into their partner but be actually attracted to them. The same case goes vice versa obviously, this is the most likely scenario, but the mere possibility of the opposite occurring is evidence against your whole ideology.

Looks matter as much as everything else, if you don't agree then you're simply fucking stupid. That's the truth of it.