What is your attachment style in romantic relationships?

[Xangsane]

Take the test here and select option B so you don't have to register:

Attachment Styles and Close Relationships

Here's what I got:

I have a preoccupied (anxious) attachment style. I guess this comes about because I've only slept with one girl for my 24 years on this planet and hence not much experience in relationships compared with everyone else my age, also add in the fact I tend to fall in love quickly and deeply as soon as I meet a girl who ticks all the right boxes. I'm afraid she'd leave me for someone better and in my last relationship I'd always text my ex, checking to see if she's OK, where she is and who she's with, always making sure her needs were met and taking care of her. All for it to be thrown back in my face, sadly. I felt as if I cared too much about her.

One thing I disagree with the official type descriptions is that I'm really sexually restrictive and as a result I avoid casual sex. I also lost my virginity at 23.

Here are the meanings of each attachment style:

 

[Xangsane]

@8PSLcel @Br0sk1 @FailedNormieManlet @Oberyn @Growth Plate

 

[Xangsane]

@galego123 @stevielake @Octillionaire3

 

[Xangsane]

@rand anon @enchanted_elixir @gogger

 

[Xangsane]

@Exercise4cel @11gaijin @Enfant terrible

 

[Xangsane]

@luljankybo @EverythingMattersCel @beau @5ft1

(All the people on the previous quiz thread)

 

[Deleted member 17791]

 

[11gaijin]

@Exercise4cel @11gaijin @Enfant terrible

The test seems to make sense if one has a romantic partner at the moment which I don't

 

[Xangsane]

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At least we have similarities. I'm extremely afraid of my future partner leaving me for someone else, and not appreciating the things I do for her.

The test seems to make sense if one has a romantic partner at the moment which I don't

I don't either. Try and think about your last relationship or if you've never been in one, imagine what you'd do.

 

[Deprived]

Cba

 

[Xangsane]

Cba

No worries!

 

[Deleted member 17791]

At least we have similarities. I'm extremely afraid of my future partner leaving me for someone else, and not appreciating the things I do for her.


I don't either. Try and think about your last relationship or if you've never been in one, imagine what you'd do.

Yeah, I'd feel anxious in a relationship I think. It'd be kinda scary to open up to them but i'd feel good.

 

[11gaijin]

 

[Xangsane]

Yeah, I'd feel anxious in a relationship I think. It'd be kinda scary to open up to them but i'd feel good.

I open up like a big book with a woman I'm in deep love with, and I'm like that with my family members and close friends. With others I find it hard to open up with.

 

[Xangsane]

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The best attachment style one could be.

 

[444]

Attachment styles are reddit psuedoscience

 

[Exercise4cel]

Quiet and reserved

 

[gogger]

disorganized tbh

 

[rand anon]

I am khhv incel

 

[FailedNormieManlet]

Take the test here and select option B so you don't have to register:

Attachment Styles and Close Relationships

Here's what I got:
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I have a preoccupied (anxious) attachment style. I guess this comes about because I've only slept with one girl for my 24 years on this planet and hence not much experience in relationships compared with everyone else my age, also add in the fact I tend to fall in love quickly and deeply as soon as I meet a girl who ticks all the right boxes. I'm afraid she'd leave me for someone better and in my last relationship I'd always text my ex, checking to see if she's OK, where she is and who she's with, always making sure her needs were met and taking care of her. All for it to be thrown back in my face, sadly. I felt as if I cared too much about her.

One thing I disagree with the official type descriptions is that I'm really sexually restrictive and as a result I avoid casual sex. I also lost my virginity at 23.

Here are the meanings of each attachment style:
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Avoidant

 

[stevielake]

How could I fill this survey out when I never had a GF? Lol

 

[Xangsane]

How could I fill this survey out when I never had a GF? Lol

Just imagine if you had a gf and how you'd react that scenario

 

[Xangsane]

Quiet and reserved

What attachment style is that?

 

[Xangsane]

disorganized tbh

So, fearful avoidant?

 

[Xangsane]

I am khhv incel
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So you'd be the "disorganized" type according to the charts

 

[Xangsane]

Avoidant

I suspected you'd get avoidant. Thoughts on your results?

I'm quite the opposite - preoccupied here.

 

[Xangsane]

Avoidant

Dismissive or fearful avoidant?

 

[Exercise4cel]

What attachment style is that?

incel attachment style. i have no gf lol

 

[Xangsane]

incel attachment style. i have no gf lol

No, is that fearful avoidant or Dismissive?

 

[Exercise4cel]

No, is that fearful avoidant or Dismissive?

I have no idea what this means ngl

 

[enchanted_elixir]

I don't think I can present any useful information. I have self-esteem problems (since Kindergarten)
and I never had a girlfriend, these may warp the data, especially on the anxiety end but I try to maintain truthfulness throughout

If my self-esteem was better, it would move to the left

 

[Deleted member 17531]

i dont have to take the test to know i'm extremely avoidant
half the time im in a relationship i dont even wanna be in it

 

[FailedNormieManlet]

I suspected you'd get avoidant. Thoughts on your results?

I'm quite the opposite - preoccupied here.

Not surprised

Dismissive or fearful avoidant?

can u give definitions? I think I am fearful tho

 

[Xangsane]

Not surprised

can u give definitions? I think I am fearful tho

Oh, why aren't you surprised at all?

Here are the definitions.

Fearful-avoidant:

Dismissive avoidant:

 

[Xangsane]

I have no idea what this means ngl
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See below:

Oh, why aren't you surprised at all?

Here are the definitions.

Fearful-avoidant:
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Dismissive avoidant:
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[Xangsane]

I don't think I can present any useful information. I have self-esteem problems (since Kindergarten)
and I never had a girlfriend, these may warp the data, especially on the anxiety end but I try to maintain truthfulness throughout
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If my self-esteem was better, it would move to the left
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Secure is the best attachment style one could have. You've got a long way to go if you want to heal your fearful style!

 

[Xangsane]

i dont have to take the test to know i'm extremely avoidant
half the time im in a relationship i dont even wanna be in it

That's gonna cause problems in the long-run.

 

[looksmaxxed]

secure. i don't really care what happens

 

[Xangsane]

secure. i don't really care what happens

I'd love to have a secure attachment style but in my last relationship I was always on edge, checking to see if my ex-gf was okay, if she ate, where she was, when she'd like to meet with me, etc.

She pushed for family visits and commitment first, then started only treating me casually and not being serious with me after we became official, which caused me to always have an urge to check up on her.

 

[FailedNormieManlet]

Oh, why aren't you surprised at all?

Here are the definitions.

Fearful-avoidant:
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Dismissive avoidant:
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Yeah I'm fearful avoidant. You've read about my past childhood and how I was treated lol

 

[Xangsane]

Yeah I'm fearful avoidant. You've read about my past childhood and how I was treated lol

Agreed you seem fearful avoidant. Your childhood experiences affect your attachment style in adulthood, so I've heard.
I had a stable, loving childhood but I was sometimes picked on for being "odd" and longed for companionship. I finally was accepted in a solid friend group at uni, and had one friend I sometimes talk to from school, but that's about it. I guess that's why I seem to be anxious.

 

[Deleted member 17531]

That's gonna cause problems in the long-run.

probably but idc im roping at thirty anyway

 

[FailedNormieManlet]

Agreed you seem fearful avoidant. Your childhood experiences affect your attachment style in adulthood, so I've heard.
I had a stable, loving childhood but I was sometimes picked on for being "odd" and longed for companionship. I finally was accepted in a solid friend group at uni, and had one friend I sometimes talk to from school, but that's about it. I guess that's why I seem to be anxious.

What about me makes you think fearful avoidant and what sort of childhood do you need for it?

I never felt like I could trust my parents because my mum herself I could visibly see could not cope without our dad, and our dad was struggling to make ends meet. To me, it felt like my problems always had to be solved by me and me telling my parents would make their lives harder - which would make me feel bad. So I'd always end up wanting to solve my own issues. Also I was made fun of for being bullied too by my older brother and to an extent my own mother, which made me not want to tell anyone.

My parents always complain about me never trusting them and me wanting to make plans by myself and never getting family involved

 

[Xangsane]

What about me makes you think fearful avoidant and what sort of childhood do you need for it?

I never felt like I could trust my parents because my mum herself I could visibly see could not cope without our dad, and our dad was struggling to make ends meet. To me, it felt like my problems always had to be solved by me and me telling my parents would make their lives harder - which would make me feel bad. So I'd always end up wanting to solve my own issues. Also I was made fun of for being bullied too by my older brother and to an extent my own mother, which made me not want to tell anyone.

My parents always complain about me never trusting them and me wanting to make plans by myself and never getting family involved

The left column explains what you need for a fearful avoidant childhood, does this apply to you?

What you described in your quote is classically fearful-avoidant. You seem to have trust issues which is common in fearful-avoidants. I'd say you seem borderline fearful and dismssive.

I'd love to have a secure style.

 

[Lihito]

I was explicitly searching For anxious attacjemnt and i knew you would make this

 

[Xangsane]

I was explicitly searching For anxious attacjemnt and i knew you would make this

Why?

 

[reborn]

I won't read this shit.

 

[Deleted member]

imagine taking tests and spending ur life online on an incel forum

Instead of actually going outside and cold approaching and raping women

It is so over

 

[Lihito]

Why?

Because i need to cope with my lack of height and infraorbitals