tried helping him, but he refused my advice at first telling me I don't know shit, and that he is respected by his peers.
pretty much. He is too low IQ and arrogant to help out.
Sounds like he kinda knows but kinda doesn't, if he's not willing to accept should stop interacting with him. Sit him down and explain that he needs to let you help once more and if he declines don't talk to him anymore.
I'm done with uni and won't be seeing him anymore tbh, he is on his own from now on.Sounds like he kinda knows but kinda doesn't, if he's not willing to accept should stop interacting with him. Sit him down and explain that he needs to let you help once more and if he declines don't talk to him anymore.
That's brutal, does he have any other friends?
Not really if I'll be real.
He's probably gonna kill himself at some point tbh, having enough intelligence to acknowledge how outcast you are but not smart enough to make the change is a recipe for disaster.
He wasn't even aware of his outcast behaviour until recently. And only then he realised that after reading a fucking book, he is smart but too arrogant and thus will never change. He also I suspect has low verbal IQ, he has a limited vocab imo and isn't very witty
High iq idea.
He texted me asking if I'm coming back to live at uni after exams.
I don’t know man, people like this are always the most successful.Before anyone says "FAILEDNORMIEMANLET WHY ARE YOU FRIENDS WITH SUCH A RETARD?!?" I'm not really "friends" with this dude, we just smoke weed and sometimes hang out, and I give him advice on life and other shit. It's weird, he considers me a very close friend, but I don't really consider myself to be that close with him, there's a weird sort of mental disconnect with him and me. He is now improving since I told him to read the 48 laws of power as a starting point on how to be less socially autistic - but to be frank he was quite reluctant at first and was telling me how he doesn't need any of that shit because he is well respected and a "savage" amongst his peers (oh how wrong he was as you my reader will find out later on in this post)
So how does someone socially retarded behave? I'll give some bullet points
Now many people here will probably say he did the right thing here calling her out on her bs. But no. He did the wrong thing. Firstly he isn't in good company, his group doesn't like him as it is, aggressive behaviour like this isn't going to be seen in a good light. Secondly if those girls just responded with "I'm not sure what you're on about, are you okay?" he'd look like a fucking fool and idiot. Thirdly he is sat with a group of adults, as adults no one cares if you're a fucking "savage".
- He often "brags" about how much of a "savage" he is, his savage behaviour consists of directly arguing with people in class. One such example was, when he was in class and a girl whispered to her friend when he was answering a question during group work (his group already dislikes him due to this behaviour) but he asked the girl "what are you talking about? Do you think you're funny?"
What he should have done:- He should have either ignored it or if he did really want to speak out on it. Just politely said "excuse me I am speaking right now, it's a bit rude you guys are whispering over me, I'm trying to help everyone out here with my answer" or something along those lines.
What a fucking idiot, truly a fucking idiot. Firstly he just comes off as arrogant and very unlikeable. The fact the people who wanted to start the society gave him that role behind his back makes laugh, what a fool. If he was a "well respected savage" as he puts it, surely then these people would just give him the role of president as he such an "alpha"
- Another example of this guy's autism. He wanted to start a society for the medical speciality he was interested in and some other guys were interested too. He wanted president, but the others in the group decided to designate him the role of "mental health and diversity officer". He got mad and messaged them "what? mental health and diversity officer??" and then further had told one of them "I don't want that role, I could leave that role right now and it wouldn't affect me, I'm literally going to be doing research with a few doctors and it will look good on my application!"
What he should have done:- Firstly he should recognise the advantages of such an easy position he was given. Secondly he should have tried to convince the president to switch roles with him next year by telling him how it would benefit both of them e.g. "I think it would be best for both of us if I did a year of diversity officer and then switched with you for president, it would look good on both of our applications as it shows we've had a bit of diversity in our work experience, for example we can both say we know how to deal with the mental health of a team through our role as diversity officer as well know how to lead a team through experiences as president. Thus we would both be overall better team leaders and players". Can you see how much more convincing and likeable my argument sounds vs this idiot?
This guy has some "friends" (his house mates from last year who literally ditched him JFL) and we were drunk on a night out and they saw me and were speaking to me in a friendly manner. One of them - who I've known for 3 years now. Was telling me how this dude would keep messaging him (he does the same to me and it's very annoying, all of my friends who know him complain about this shit) asking him to hang out and he'd be so intense about it. You'd not answer the text and he would double or even triple text like a retard.
- When this retard's own friends were complaining to me because he was blowing people's phone up sending messages asking to hang out
What I would do:- I'd send 1 fucking message and that's it. I'll wait for the reply and if he messages back, he messages back.
When I told him to read 48 laws of power his arrogant delusional worldview came crashing down on him. He started to realise that perhaps he isn't this likeable savage he once thought he was, that he was in fact his arrogant delusional cunt and that most people just avoid him because people aren't naturally confrontational. You see even after reading the 48 laws of power, he still struggles with social situations, he still makes the same mistakes and he still doesn't understand wtf to do.
What distinguishes someone with a decent level of social intelligence and a low level isn't wit or banter (that plays a factor and this case study has a very limited vocabulary) but it's the ability to understand covert communication as well as knowing how others will feel. He just goes off on whatever his emotions tell him and refuses to think, he can't take a hint and doesn't understand that people don't need to be direct to send a message.
I've known this guy for a few years and this stuff is merely touching the surface on his delusion and autism. He isn't a bad person, but is very arrogant and his inability to read social situations or understand how to sweet talk people will fuck him up in the future for sure. His lack of subtlty, his use of simple words, his lack of ability to engage in a higher form of intellectual conversation, etc. It makes him just appear like a loud brute and that sort of image doesn't play well amongst university students especially medicine students who are normally quite smart and come from educated backgrounds.
Seems like he’s getting better
In what world are disliked outcasts the “most successful”
I might end up working in scientific sales after I graduate. So I should hopefully have lots of stories. But that's if I am lucky enough jfl
I mean the aggressive, loud, arrogant and confident people, if he was tall and acted more NT he would be respected insteadIn what world are disliked outcasts the “most successful”
Maybe, but he isn't charismatic jfl. Look at what happened when he wanted to get a higher position in his society. He just looked like an idiot
This stuff is complex man, some people can do this stuff and be thirsted on and for others it doesn’t suit them
They are completely autistic
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