Xangsane
Election day ruined by a ninja turtle
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She has a preference for white, east Asian, MENA or Latino men ONLY. Complains about Indian men still "seeping through her matches even though she filtered out Indians".
I’m on the app looking for a “life partner”. In the past, I’ve been open to dating many races (including White, Asian, Latino, Arab, etc.) and still am, if we meet organically. But I feel like if I’m searching for that via an app, it makes more sense to adjust for the type I will probably be able to marry.
I recently decided to be more restrictive with ethnicity and religion filters. I’m from a very religious, conservative family. While I am neither of those things, I must admit I find it easier to get along with people who had a similar upbringing. My family is also pretty adamant about the type of person they expect me to marry. While I’m willing to step out of that, it’s also not something I’m going to actively seek.
I have also had a long term relationship with someone outside my race which ended terribly when he broke up with me after realizing my family would never accept him. It was extremely painful for both of us and forced me to reevaluate my approach to dating. So, I’ve decided I’m not willing to put myself through that again. Or to put the other person through that potential rejection or humiliation.
I’m a woman. I’ve had my fair share of men being dishonest about their height / age on these apps. But since I’ve changed my ethnicity “dealbreaker” and limited my religion options, I’ve noticed a significant amount of profiles I see and that like me don’t adhere to that.
When I look through the details, I will for example see someone with an obviously Indian name and look, but the ethnicity won’t be visible on their profile. (Indian is one that I’ve filtered out.)
Are people lying about that in their settings just to be able to break through? Or is the Hinge app / algorithm not fine-tuned enough? It’s a little frustrating when more than half the time spend is just X-ing people I’m no longer interested in dating. It’s also a waste of someone’s likes to reach out to a person who’s not going to go out with them.
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