Xangsane
Election day ruined by a ninja turtle
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- Early-mid 20s white Stacylite (blonde) woman, high standards.
- Lives in London.
- Avoids Tinder and Bumble, opts for Raya and The League, targeting a more exclusive, professional demographic.
- Also uses Hinge.
- Despite a high match rate, experiences low response rates from men.
- Men she matches with are described as tall and average-looking.
- Confusion over why these average-looking men are not more responsive or engaging.
- Fear of Rejection by the Stacylite: This is a plausible reason. Men might fear rejection from someone they perceive as a high-value individual in the dating market. The higher the perceived SMV of the woman, the greater the perceived risk of rejection, which could discourage men from engaging.
- Intimidated by Her Own High SMV: Intimidation is a common factor in such scenarios. Men might feel that a woman with high SMV is out of their league, leading to feelings of inadequacy or the assumption that she would not be interested in someone of average appearance.
- These Men Have Too Many Other Options: On exclusive dating apps like Raya and The League, men, especially those perceived as high-value, even if average-looking, might have a multitude of options. This abundance can lead to less engagement with any single match, as they might not feel the need to invest heavily in interactions with high SMV women, assuming they have other comparable or more desirable matches.
- Other (Specify): There could be additional factors such as:
- Mismatch in Relationship Goals: Men might be seeking different types of relationships than what they assume she is looking for.
- Online Dating Fatigue: General fatigue or disillusionment with online dating platforms could lead to lower engagement levels.
- Psychological Factors: Personal insecurities or past experiences affecting men’s willingness to engage with someone they perceive as highly desirable.
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