(Experiment) shit testing people you meet to weed them out

[banjojones]

I noticed I get stood up a lot by my peers. Like for a guy friend we will agree to do a project then at the last minute will flake out or make a bullshit excuse that he has work (on a Friday night) Yes its cause i'm ugly or the way my voice sounds. However I want to try an experiment. Instead of being stood up all the time what if for a change, whenever I agree or a peer of mine agrees to meet at a certain time. I stand them up and don't show up at the agreed time. The thinking is if they REALLY are interested in meeting with me they will then contact me to see why I flaked and pursue the meeting. Then that way I can quickly weed out the jokesters from those who genuinely want to interact with me.

-if someone is interested in engaging you they will GO OUT OF THEIR WAY TO you should NOT have to fight them every step of the way or be doing the initiating.

-I recently learned the hard way last year to NEVER EVER give people free attention or they will LOSE all respect for you

 

[Deleted member 11758]

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[Scammer]

U should be acting this way with women not other guys

 

[incel194012940]

Maybe...
Do you have enough friends where you wouldn't mind losing this one?
An ugly guy with cuck voice has very limited social resources.

 

[banjojones]

Maybe...
Do you have enough friends where you wouldn't mind losing this one?
An ugly guy with cuck voice has very limited social resources.

i don't have friends so I can't lose what I don't have

 

[banjojones]

I noticed I get stood up a lot by my peers. Like for a guy friend we will agree to do a project then at the last minute will flake out or make a bullshit excuse that he has work (on a Friday night) Yes its cause i'm ugly or the way my voice sounds. However I want to try an experiment. Instead of being stood up all the time what if for a change, whenever I agree or a peer of mine agrees to meet at a certain time. I stand them up and don't show up at the agreed time. The thinking is if they REALLY are interested in meeting with me they will then contact me to see why I flaked and pursue the meeting. Then that way I can quickly weed out the jokesters from those who genuinely want to interact with me.

-if someone is interested in engaging you they will GO OUT OF THEIR WAY TO you should NOT have to fight them every step of the way or be doing the initiating.

-I recently learned the hard way last year to NEVER EVER give people free attention or they will LOSE all respect for you

EDIT also wanted to add that normies stand me up even during fun activities like agreeing to play a game and will claim to have "work" (on a friday night)

 

[Deleted member 17763]

Based off all your posts you’re way too low value to accomplish anything with this. People who you do this to won’t come chasing after you they’ll just never speak to you again lmao

 

[banjojones]

Based off all your posts you’re way too low value to accomplish anything with this.

ok good point. What ways do I give off "low value vibes"?

People who you do this to won’t come chasing after you they’ll just never speak to you again lmao

ok so how do I gain some social leverage over them?

 

[Deleted member 17763]

What ways do I give off "low value vibes"

I mean you constantly make posts about how people ignore you when you asks them basic questions lol and how people you know from college ignore you

 

[banjojones]

I mean you constantly make posts about how people ignore you when you asks them basic questions lol and how people you know from college ignore you

so how do i gain social leverage over these people if you are short/have a weird voice you are considered a joke

 

[Deleted member 17763]

so how do i gain social leverage over these people if you are short/have a weird voice you are considered a joke

Idk man I mean you can try your best to put on some muscle, dress well, have good posture and adopt a serious/respectable demeanor but there’s only so much you can do I guess

 

[banjojones]

Idk man I mean you can try your best to put on some muscle, dress well, have good posture and adopt a serious/respectable demeanor but there’s only so much you can do I guess

total tangent but I have a question how come hispanic men don't face heightism. I mean they are short/ugly/obese yet liberals are always kissing their ass! OR is it that normie men think if they are nice to hispanic men they will somehow get sexual access to their women (who are portrayed as sex symbols in the media)? I am Italian (and like hispanics we thugmaxxed) however our women are not known for being models (heck in some parts of NYC they have thin mustaches/hairy armpits)

-I noticed a lot of white men in particular kiss hispanic men's ass however, white women are polite in a business manner to hispanic men but not in an ass-kissy way

 

[Deleted member 17763]

total tangent but I have a question how come hispanic men don't face heightism. I mean they are short/ugly/obese yet liberals are always kissing their ass! OR is it that normie men think if they are nice to hispanic men they will somehow get sexual access to their women (who are portrayed as sex symbols in the media)? I am Italian (and like hispanics we thugmaxxed) however our women are not known for being models (heck in some parts of NYC they have thin mustaches/hairy armpits)

-I noticed a lot of white men in particular kiss hispanic men's ass however, white women are polite in a business manner to hispanic men but not in an ass-kissy way

Dnr

 

[CHADaafdellugexxbb19]

moonshine™

 

[goldensoul]

in what planet do you live ? it's normal that if you fixe a Rendez-Vous with someone and flake they will call you. and if you do that so often (like I used to do) you will end up as a loner. autistic post

 

[banjojones]

Dnr

Ok so stop fucking spamming the forum then!

 

[Gonthar]

I noticed I get stood up a lot by my peers. Like for a guy friend we will agree to do a project then at the last minute will flake out or make a bullshit excuse that he has work (on a Friday night) Yes its cause i'm ugly or the way my voice sounds. However I want to try an experiment. Instead of being stood up all the time what if for a change, whenever I agree or a peer of mine agrees to meet at a certain time. I stand them up and don't show up at the agreed time. The thinking is if they REALLY are interested in meeting with me they will then contact me to see why I flaked and pursue the meeting. Then that way I can quickly weed out the jokesters from those who genuinely want to interact with me.

I'm confused, do people flock to you, are you really popular, or do they only come when they want to get something out of you. Many people want favors or other stuff from people, but when you ask them something else in return they are less than willing to help you...
If you are low in looks/status/money/etc. people will avoid you or only come to you when they want something from you.

 

[FailedNormieManlet]

I've spoken to you before bro, trust me it's not your looks which are holding you back. You have a goofy/corny vibe and even the way you speak is a bit autistic. I am not trying to be mean or anything here, but really just work on your social skills. The fact you have 0 friends is a fucking red flag, you probably appear needy too.

 

[lilhorizontal32]

This isn’t going to work man. Think about how people make friends - they don’t do any of this stuff, meaning that you doing this won’t help. However, they are doing something else that you are lacking.

What this is specifically, is for you to figure out.

 

[banjojones]

I've spoken to you before bro, trust me it's not your looks which are holding you back. You have a goofy/corny vibe and even the way you speak is a bit autistic. I am not trying to be mean or anything here, but really just work on your social skills. The fact you have 0 friends is a fucking red flag, you probably appear needy too.

interesting critique @everyone @all what first impressions do I give off with @FailedNormieManlet