How to stop remembering?

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Again, woke up from a dream about my gentlest relationship. Really thought that one would be it. No more crying myself to sleep hugging a pillow, maybe make a kid when we’ve got it financially stable. Really lost my guard in that relationship. Why does she keep reappearing? To taunt me? Was she an actual witch or something??? It’s actually driving me insane. Tips on clearing an entire year’s worth of memories?
 
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I don't know, one day I just stopped caring and never did since then.
 
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How long did it take?
Mine's controversial, it was on and off for a while. But I'd say a week after the nail in the coffin. And the crazy part is the most I loved her in our 2 years was 1 week before I stopped caring about her.
 
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Mine's controversial, it was on and off for a while. But I'd say a week after the nail in the coffin. And the crazy part is the most I loved her in our 2 years was 1 week before I stopped caring about her.
Motherfuck. Like a year going for me now. No amount of fuckbuddies can make her disappear.
 
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by forgetting
 
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Motherfuck. Like a year going for me now. No amount of fuckbuddies can make her disappear.
It all eventually goes away, trust me. You may think she is the love of your life and everything that you'll never forget her even when you are all grown up, but you will. It's a matter of time.
 
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use all of that energy and put it into your own development. emotion is our greatest driver, but how we negatively let it drive us severely hinders our overall life and general wellbeing. i let my first and most impactful break up drive me to 90th percentile SBDs by 17, drunk homeless and i have multiple "disabilities" (flat cortisol is a fucking superpower when managed correctly.) it wasnt a superpower when i was sleeping at the gym. we are capable of anything bro.

i truly believe people are never meant to be anything more than a mere experience, regardless of time or impact, itd be nice to live in a false belief that you will die with someone who cares about you, but even if you do physically, we all die alone. the only person you have any bit of control over is yourself and when you start looking at others as an extension rather than your possibility, breakups wont affect you like that again and if they come, it shouldnt be about someone lifemaxxing for their own personal pursuit of honesty and accomplishment.

a lot of real break up detriment is because when we feel so deeply for what we've lost, its because we hate ourselves. its pretty obv that you miss who you were with her. you should be fearing that you cant feel like you without more than you bro.

our emotions are just non verbally telling us whats up
 
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i feel like being in nature more and not sitting inside makes the thoughts go away
 
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It all eventually goes away, trust me. You may think she is the love of your life and everything that you'll never forget her even when you are all grown up, but you will. It's a matter of time.
Time really takes everything, huh? Hoping it doesn’t take that long though. Keeping on remembering and thinking about her makes me feel less of a man for whatever reason.
 
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get brain damage
 
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How I cope with things on my life is I look at myself in the mirror and realize that I have bigger problems
 
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use all of that energy and put it into your own development. emotion is our greatest driver, but how we negatively let it drive us severely hinders our overall life and general wellbeing. i let my first and most impactful break up drive me to 90th percentile SBDs by 17, drunk homeless and i have multiple "disabilities" (flat cortisol is a fucking superpower when managed correctly.) it wasnt a superpower when i was sleeping at the gym. we are capable of anything bro.

i truly believe people are never meant to be anything more than a mere experience, regardless of time or impact, itd be nice to live in a false belief that you will die with someone who cares about you, but even if you do physically, we all die alone. the only person you have any bit of control over is yourself and when you start looking at others as an extension rather than your possibility, breakups wont affect you like that again and if they come, it shouldnt be about someone lifemaxxing for their own personal pursuit of honesty and accomplishment.

a lot of real break up detriment is because when we feel so deeply for what we've lost, its because we hate ourselves. its pretty obv that you miss who you were with her. you should be fearing that you cant feel like you without more than you bro.

our emotions are just non verbally telling us whats up
Inspirational. The me of today is smarter than the me of a year or two ago. I’ve learned my faults and bettered myself. Thanks to her, I am now a better man than I may have been before.
 
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Time really takes everything, huh? Hoping it doesn’t take that long though. Keeping on remembering and thinking about her makes me feel less of a man for whatever reason.
Knowing she won't be in your life is a quick way to forget, look you've had this much history with her how can you have a future with her? How can you let yourself be married and have children with a girl that you've had so much history within a bad way. I suggest you also spend your time being outside with friends' family or watching a movie, just distract yourself.
 
Knowing she won't be in your life is a quick way to forget, look you've had this much history with her how can you have a future with her? How can you let yourself be married and have children with a girl that you've had so much history within a bad way. I suggest you also spend your time being outside with friends' family or watching a movie, just distract yourself.
The really shitty part about all this is that she was friends with many of my friends. Tomboyish, you may call her. They never looked at me the same again for… suppose her lies, so haven’t been talking to them for a while. What “true friend” would just take the word of another they’ve known for a lesser period of time? Losing those I called my “best friends” delivered that second punch, which only makes me think about her more.
 
The really shitty part about all this is that she was friends with many of my friends. Tomboyish, you may call her. They never looked at me the same again for… suppose her lies, so haven’t been talking to them for a while. What “true friend” would just take the word of another they’ve known for a lesser period of time? Losing those I called my “best friends” delivered that second punch, which only makes me think about her more.
You can always start again, find another group of friends and a new woman. They were never your friend, and she was nothing more than a stranger to you. I guarantee you, in 3 months you would have forgotten her and never looked at her the same again.
 
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You can always start again, find another group of friends and a new woman. They were never your friend, and she was nothing more than a stranger to you. I guarantee you, in 3 months you would have forgotten her and never looked at her the same again.

New friends. New women. New hobbies. Not worked so far. I’ve changed myself physically. Finally managed 220 lean, face smoother and everything sharper than before. All this and I’m still trying to forget. Really just pathetic how I’m unable to do that.
 
It’s ok that you remember. It’s good for you to want it again. Let it sit with you because this isn’t something you can distract yourself from, that’d just make it worse.

You’re not wrong for missing her.
 
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