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Excuse the length (expecting lots of ‘dnr’), but perhaps someone else is seeing this phenomenon too. After a failed LTR last year, a bit of app-driven rebound lays, and several months off, I’ve come back on the apps to find that women are being frivolously picky, far far more than before (note: my photos are the same). Has anyone else found this?
To give two examples: the other day I had a date cancelled the same day of because of some innocuous comment I made over text about it being good when both partners actively show desire. She then said she ‘wasn’t sure she could give me what I wanted’ and said we should move on. This is after heavy initial interest. I do a little more digging and she says ‘oh maybe I’m being too judgmental’ and she’s now ‘interested’ in a date again. I’ve lost motivation, to be honest. Not interested in walking on eggshells. But isn’t this weird?
Second example: last week, I matched with a girl, we joke around a bit and then she just ghosts for few days. Fine; it is what it is. A few days later she comes back and says ‘oh I thought because I don’t have X career I thought you might be artsy and I don’t think it’d be a good match’. I’m like, “okay, didn’t you realise what my career was before, and it doesn’t encompass me - hasn’t been a problem with non-artsy partners before, but I respect your decision”. She then says ‘oh sorry I’ve been too judgmental’ and we’re meant to be seeing each other next week.
Not to give loads more examples but there have been a few other times recently women have cancelled on me for extremely frivolous reasons despite high initial interest, and not come back. Is anyone else seeing this? The app scene has been largely static since mid-April and these aren’t girls who have just started dating again (so they’re not ‘discovering their true value’). So what gives?
To give two examples: the other day I had a date cancelled the same day of because of some innocuous comment I made over text about it being good when both partners actively show desire. She then said she ‘wasn’t sure she could give me what I wanted’ and said we should move on. This is after heavy initial interest. I do a little more digging and she says ‘oh maybe I’m being too judgmental’ and she’s now ‘interested’ in a date again. I’ve lost motivation, to be honest. Not interested in walking on eggshells. But isn’t this weird?
Second example: last week, I matched with a girl, we joke around a bit and then she just ghosts for few days. Fine; it is what it is. A few days later she comes back and says ‘oh I thought because I don’t have X career I thought you might be artsy and I don’t think it’d be a good match’. I’m like, “okay, didn’t you realise what my career was before, and it doesn’t encompass me - hasn’t been a problem with non-artsy partners before, but I respect your decision”. She then says ‘oh sorry I’ve been too judgmental’ and we’re meant to be seeing each other next week.
Not to give loads more examples but there have been a few other times recently women have cancelled on me for extremely frivolous reasons despite high initial interest, and not come back. Is anyone else seeing this? The app scene has been largely static since mid-April and these aren’t girls who have just started dating again (so they’re not ‘discovering their true value’). So what gives?