John Cracovizk
Life is so short, you should smile more anon...
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I've been thinking lately about love.
One commonality among many individuals who fall into the myth (a form of indoctrination) of romantic love is that they are often mentally damaged, very needy, lost individuals who enjoy or seek relationships with great intensity, perhaps to feel alive.
They are usually insecure individuals who fall into the myth of romantic love.
One noticeable aspect is that a significant number of people struggle to let go of this myth. A normal person (with a normal family structure and normal life stages) will reach a certain age and realize that it is, indeed, just a myth.
The types of relationships portrayed in series, movies, books, etc., do not apply to reality.
From a long time ago, relationships were often practical arrangements, where individuals came together for mutual benefits.
Men provided protection and resources, while women contributed to the household and family structure. This pragmatic approach ensured the survival and stability of the community. Societal norms and expectations may have evolved, but the fundamental idea of forming relationships for mutual benefit remains. People search for companionship, resources, sex and etc... if you don't have this in mind and have an intense focus on the romanticized notion of love, you'll be lead to unrealistic expectations, setting the stage for disappointment, heartbreak and all kinds of bad things (or worse, some individuals can do horrendous acts, per example: when caughting their partner cheating, use a gun to kill their partner, themselves and sometimes even the children in the relationship, an action totally moved by emotions and idyllic idea of love... If the person didn't project a "perfect relationship", one they see in movies, into a REAL person, they would never do such thing).
"Ok John Cracovizk, that's FUCKING WATER! Love in the real world is not the one we see in the fiction, so why the fuck in the title are you talking about a love that transceds space and time?"
After an individual gets over the idyllic idea of love, he may come some conclusions of their own of what is love... The pragmatic approach is the one I've just told you (it depends on social interactions and needs). But this didn't explain somethings to me...
If love is just a pragmatic thing, why do we help strangers in the fucking internet?
I've been reflecting on this matter after I've come across this statement made by an user after he explained his reasoning to block people even though they have BOTB threads.
One commonality among many individuals who fall into the myth (a form of indoctrination) of romantic love is that they are often mentally damaged, very needy, lost individuals who enjoy or seek relationships with great intensity, perhaps to feel alive.
They are usually insecure individuals who fall into the myth of romantic love.
One noticeable aspect is that a significant number of people struggle to let go of this myth. A normal person (with a normal family structure and normal life stages) will reach a certain age and realize that it is, indeed, just a myth.
The types of relationships portrayed in series, movies, books, etc., do not apply to reality.
From a long time ago, relationships were often practical arrangements, where individuals came together for mutual benefits.
Men provided protection and resources, while women contributed to the household and family structure. This pragmatic approach ensured the survival and stability of the community. Societal norms and expectations may have evolved, but the fundamental idea of forming relationships for mutual benefit remains. People search for companionship, resources, sex and etc... if you don't have this in mind and have an intense focus on the romanticized notion of love, you'll be lead to unrealistic expectations, setting the stage for disappointment, heartbreak and all kinds of bad things (or worse, some individuals can do horrendous acts, per example: when caughting their partner cheating, use a gun to kill their partner, themselves and sometimes even the children in the relationship, an action totally moved by emotions and idyllic idea of love... If the person didn't project a "perfect relationship", one they see in movies, into a REAL person, they would never do such thing).
"Ok John Cracovizk, that's FUCKING WATER! Love in the real world is not the one we see in the fiction, so why the fuck in the title are you talking about a love that transceds space and time?"
After an individual gets over the idyllic idea of love, he may come some conclusions of their own of what is love... The pragmatic approach is the one I've just told you (it depends on social interactions and needs). But this didn't explain somethings to me...
If love is just a pragmatic thing, why do we help strangers in the fucking internet?
I've been reflecting on this matter after I've come across this statement made by an user after he explained his reasoning to block people even though they have BOTB threads.
"Additional reason to block them. who wastes their time to entertain a bunch of incels with essays only impressive to someone with 0 education and the ability to assess veracity of the written?"
It made me kinda of angry at first: "look at this ungrateful bastard"... But then I asked myself: why am I angry?
Wait... If I care about a random hate opinion to the point of feeling angry, it directly means that I CARE
It means that I care about the impact of my threads, also that I care about the impact that other users threads have as well.
If I feel bad about a thing it means I can also feel good about it... But why?
Why do I care?
Why do I care if my writing is good or If the information I'm giving is helpful? No, better:
Why do I care about sharing knowledge? It's directly counter productive, it raises competition in a world that everybody wants to win agaisnt each other.
Is it me trying to have some sort of legacy? No, it doesn't make sense, what means legacy if I do not get any personal thing for it? Fame, money, power? Nothing, by the end of they day, 10 views, 1000 views, 250k views I'm still a nobody.
It's just for the internet points??? A updoot?
I thought about this topic for a couple days, then I came to a conclusion: it's love.
Fraternal love, maybe the only true love, it transcends gender and material issues, extending beyond space, time, and social interactions.
This explained to me everything, from how the mean comment made me feel to explaining the hapinnes and joy I feel everytime I think that a thread of mine is helping someone.
Many here, especially those who create guides, practice this love.
They write lengthy guides for people they don't even know, they do research, they share privileged knowledge to what could possibly be THEIR competition, to people who will likely about forget them and won't even say a "thank you".
And think about it: why would a rational individual do this? Specially a blackpilled individual?
There isn't an answer for this, but for me? It's love.
That's why I would like to thank everybody who contributes and practice this love, from the mods (specially @0hMan @garoupilled_ @enchanted_elixir, which I interacted with and were really nice people to me) to everybody, not only the BOTB ones, who wrote a guide and made an effort to help someone else.
Let it be known that your effort, even though maybe forgotten, is appreciated.
Your love, you trying to help random people who you don't even know, which may sound like insanity, was not in vain.
@HernanDrago, I dedicate this thread to you, my friend who tried his best to write a good thread to go to BOTB (https://looksmax.org/threads/the-ul...ead-let-there-be-light-by-hernandrago.824156/) but didn't reach your goal, let it be known that I appreciated your effort in helping others.
To my inspirations, people who wrote threads that inspired me to stop being a lurker and to write as well, thank you all for the knowledge and patience you guys had in writing @Chintuck22 @garoupilled_ @enchanted_elixir @.🇹🇩. and @Psychophilly .
To everybody, who even though wrote some good guide and info, was forgotten (This thread by @zsombi made me think about how much lost gems are lost, hope whoever is in need for them, may find them one day).
Thank you all, forgotten, deleted members, people who moved on with their life but left us info that may change someone's life. You knew that you would probably be forgotten, that some people would type DNDR or hate on you for no reason, that you would have no glory, no fame, no money... But you chose to do it anyways.
A hug to all of my friends who supported me and made me feel appreciated @bishōnenmaxxer @DelonLover1999 @HernanDrago @zap @Ryldoo IS COPING @capybara @Napoleon1800 (even though you dreamed of fucking my waifu ) @SidharthTheSlayer @GunDevilHybrid @Primalsplit @InSplit @IAMNOTANINCEL @SubSigma @HarrierDuBois @Rhodesia88 @nobodyspecial369 (I probably forgot someone, sorry if I did) @Chintuck22
We probably won't ever meet, we are separeted by miles and miles of distance, but the friendship, the laughs and etc... were all real and transcedent of any distance in the world and if we never meet in person or if one of us die? Well, maybe in another life...
But as long as I'm here in this world and concious?
You'll all will live in my thoughts, in my texts that I will write that you guys influenced with your words and interaction with me... In a way? Carrying you guys in my heart. I like to think this way I hope my threads and any text I've wrote made had some positive influence in your lifes, maybe laughing, maybe reflecting on a topic, Idk.
This is my open love letter to all of you. Thank you so much!
Also, thanks @alpha_provider for providing me with such a rich theme to think about, even though it probably wasn't your intention, it doesn't matter.
And to everybody else who's reading this, I would like to ask you to say "nice thread" more often or if you're just lazy, leaving a +1 to posts that helped you... This is to me as well, I've probably didn't do it to many threads that helped me in the past, I'm adjusting this behaviour now that I've realized how this small act can make someone feel appreciated.
But if you don't want to, that's fine too, as I've said, nobody (or almost nobody, maybe someone found a way to monetize and become rich like @AlexBrown84 ) in this forum ever did this with the intention of receiving money, power, fame or even a thank you.
A couple years ago, a girl asked me if I believed in love, back then I told her: Ofc not (giga autistic ). But nowadays? I would tell her that I do, I do believe in love.
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